KogaSteelfang posted...
He does confront her, sounds like they fight constantly over lots of different things. He just doesn't know how to make her cooperate. She simply won't.
I already posted the solution:
streamofthesky posted...
She's the problem, and the ONLY problem. $700 a month on housing and he makes $5000, that's way more than enough. He should have never let her control the spending and bank accounts, any primary earner that does this is a a moron, especially when the spouse is a frivolous spender.
He needs to quit door dashing, cut back his overtime hours, and use literally 1/10 of that freed up time to take control of the finances
. Working himself to the bone so then he has no time to manage the finances, then she blows all the money and he has to work ever harder, is a perpetual cycle of agony that never ends.
If he can't get back into his bank account (seriously, WTF?),
he needs to open a new account in his name only and switch his paycheck deposits to it
. Hell, he should have his own account regardless and the joint should be only for shared/living expenses. He really needs to throw out the whole woman and get a divorce, but I'm guessing he won't do that.
It's a hell of a lot less complicated than you think.
She either does things her way or makes his life even more miserable.
And again:
And she apparently doesn't care. That's the point at which anyone w/ self respect would walk. I think I'm starting to understand why you stayed at that job so long. Your whole life you've been surrounded by abuse and just accepted that as "normal". And yes, this is financial abuse.
He should divorce. But I know he won't. So he should at least stop working himself to death and take control of his money.