ZayKayWill posted...
Yeah that doesn't fly with me. Just recently ended a friendship with someone who owed me $1,000. It would be one thing if she just wasn't able to pay it back, but she was working and was flaunting all her art she bought on social media. Like, why would you not pay someone back if you are fully capable of doing so? Whenever I owed money I always made sure it was paid back. I had a friend who owed ME damn near over $1,000 and he made sure every cent was paid back.
There's some nuance to it, yes, but it still works. If I genuinely don't value the amount I'm loaning out, then it doesn't really matter to me if they pay me back or not. If somebody's routinely taking advantage of that and not paying me back even though they could? Yeah, they're not getting any more money, because that's just disrespectful (and if they could pay me back, they axiomatically don't need me to loan them more). And similar to you, I make a point of settling my debts, mostly because I do value whatever money has been given to me and I want to treat it accordingly even if the other person wouldn't mind if I didn't. But I'm also not going to worry too much if somebody can't pay me back, because I loaned the money out under the presumption that they wouldn't.
KogaSteelfang posted...
Is he really treating me badly by accepting money that I offered him?
You offered it to him to help get a car. If he then got a car through another method, he should be returning it because the reason you gave it to him no longer applies. If he keeps it despite not needing it for the purpose you intended, he's just taking advantage of you.