my family never calls me.

don't know why. is it solely my responsibility? I call my parents now and then but they never take initiative to call me. it's like every friendship I've ever been in. I may be missing something or slightly a-word but am I doing something wrong

If you try, then it isn't you. Seek more thoughtful people to have in your life.

Some people like to take the initiative. Other people prefer to be more passive, and let others initiate conversations.

If you're calling your parents frequently enough, they may not see the need to ever call you because they know you'll be calling soon enough anyway. Before they ever have time to think "Oh, I wonder what our precious child is up to!", you've already called and info dumped it on them.

On the other hand, maybe you only call them like once every three years, and it seems like they just don't care. Maybe they think you just want to be left alone and are trying to be nice. Or maybe they're just forgetful, neglectful, or somewhat self-centered. Maybe they're just really busy or kind of confused and completely lose track of time (I'm not even 50 yet and I'm already at the point where you just sort of blink and suddenly realize it's three months later). Could be any number of possibilities.

Only you really know your family well enough to know what their motivations might be. Any generic advice you get from people here will probably be wrong because we're all talking out of our asses and know nothing about your family.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Only you really know your family well enough to know what their motivations might be

That's true. I think they might just be lazy, but then again so am I.

One time at the bus stop in 8th grade I realized I was always the first one to talk. I felt like maybe I was being annoying and they didn't want to, so I stood there in silence to see if anyone else would say anything. We stood there for a minute in silence and then they asked me why I wasn't talking.

People get conditioned and for some reason some friends always initiate everything.

My dad and I have a "Talk every one or two months" type of communication which is honestly quite perfect for us. We talk can talk for 30 - 40 minutes to catch up, and still have interesting communication.

I never understood families who need to talk every day or two, like what do you actually talk about? I am not going to tell my father every single detail of my life.

Dikitain posted...

My dad and I have a "Talk every one or two months" type of communication which is honestly quite perfect for us. We talk can talk for 30 - 40 minutes to catch up, and still have interesting communication.

I never understood families who need to talk every day or two, like what do you actually talk about? I am not going to tell my father every single detail of my life.

Some weirdos do indeed tell their family every detail of their lives

ask them