splodeymissile posted...
Naturally having a relatively low desire for intimacy is quite a bit different from actively wanting sex and relationships, but failing to get it.
And knowing how and when to be assertive when appropriate is a skill that people should and
most do
develop. Passive people might not get it as often, but they still usually manage something of a healthy sex life precisely because they can adapt to a given social situation when needed without feeling like they're compromising their core personality.
I'm unsure about that. While only some men I know aren't intimately assertive, almost no women I know are. Or at least, they aren't in the initial stages of dating. Expectations for mastery of this skill seem to differ.