I mean, they can be, but never share anything with them that they can use against you later, no matter how friendly you are. I've seen what happens when work friendships break down.So this would mean that you cannot be friends. You can't consider someone a friend while also being guarded around them so they can't backstab you later.
I'm not gullible enough to think everyone who says hi to you is your best friend, but I just can't go through each day assuming everyone will stab me in the back if I no longer benefit them.
The rule doesn't even really make sense because with our culture, work is the easiest way to meet new people.Get any vaguely social hobbies?
When and how are adults supposed to meet these "real" friends?
My online friends know more about me than my meatspace ones.I have one really good online friend that I've known for... holy shit, coming up on two decades. We've been steady confidants for each other over that time, and there have been days when the two of us getting in a game together helped pull us out of some really heavy funk. I would never diminish the value of knowing him by not calling him a real friend.
A friend you made at work is a real friend.
A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend
A friend you made at work is a real friend.
A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend
I continue to meet new people, who sometimes become friends, through hobbies and social events.Not everyone has those. And that seri3e of events still might be triggered by someone you meet at work.
Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work.They weren't real friends than, lol.
Not so much anymore though
Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work.They are still co-workers in that scenario though. Now if you continued to hang out with them after one of you no longer works together, then you would be "real friends". The thing is, people cannot just switch off, it is entirely possible something you say or do will impact your work with that person - and that is what separates them from a real friend.
Not so much anymore though
Definitely true if you are a minority
Definitely true if you're in a cut-throat industry
Definitely true when it comes to those that manage others
Biggest thing is leaking information. Real reasons why you miss work, true motivations, habits and behaviors outside of work. It's true that most people don't face these but if you're a minority at your job you're more scrutinized than others and your bosses use your peers to gather intel on you.
If you're a big earner in a cut-throat industry your bosses are always looking to either cut you or pay you as little as possible. If you have superiors in your position being friendly can lead to a lot more obstacles to raises and promotions.
Managers have to be friendly people but they're always doing their jobs, even when they aren't at work. I have to be an asshole to management out of respect even when they come from a genuine place. Otherwise they start pushing up on your boundaries.
Anyone else feel this way or am I crazy?
how much you hang out after work.this^
I have no interest in being actual friends with people I work with.This
It's pretty sad if you can't be friends with the people you spend the most time with.I get what most of what people are saying, but I agree that I don't get why it's a hard-and-fast rule for some. Just seems overly jaded.
Depends on the workplace and if & how much you hang out after work.