We broke up like 8 years ago but aren't on bad terms or anything. We had a nice catch up chat like a month ago and she seemed into the idea of meeting up for lunch. We've been trying to coordinate something since, but she keeps forgetting to ask her parents for a ride...?
I guess it feels bad cause it took a lot of courage for me to ask, and I don't really have anyone to socialize with irl. I even got her a small present the last message I sent was a week ago just asking if she was still up for it. I wish she'd just tell me she got cold feet or whatever so we could at least chat still
Making friends as an adult is so damn hard , I want to hang out with people again but i get so fuckin scared around new people
Exes are exes for a reason.
Why do they need their parents to drive them?She can't drive (neither can i) and she lives like 2 hours away by bus. I was gonna take the bus and meet her somewhere in the middle
What kind of present?Nothing big lol, just a box of curry roux. She brought up how we used to make it together, and I was telling her about this new brand I really like. I can just eat it myself nbd but I was looking forward to it
Sounds like she keeps getting better offers.I mean I'm pretty sure she doesn't leave the house or have any irl friends either, which is part of the reason I felt comfortable asking :p she has social anxiety and I assume just got scared. Just wish she could let me know
Sorry, king.
how old are yall? broke up 8 years ago and she still needs rides from her folks?Shes 28 im 29. She's like a NEET I guess, she has social anxiety and shit
Ive heard so many people say this and I honestly just dont get it. You have more choice and agency as an adult.I guess I found it easier when I was in a public school setting and forced to be around people on a regular basis. I struggled making friends in college and now WFH and barely leave my house. It's not a catch all excuse, but admittedly my physical disability makes it harder to go out and feel confident and stuff
Why can't either of you drive?Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changed
You should work to make new friends. I had to do that when I was 40 and was recently divorced. Meetup events.U right... i feel like I can barely take care of myself a lot of the time, but I think this is a good idea to work towards
Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changedCut that shit loose and find someone local.
My advice, don't fuck with exes hoping for anything good to happen. If your intentions are bad and you want bad things to happen, that's one thing. But ain't nothin' good going to happen getting back in touch with them hoping to rekindle anything. Especially the narcissistic avoidant types.Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here?
Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here?Hanging out and having an irl friend?
Hanging out and having an irl friend?That's cool. It just wasn't clear at first
She also wanted to meet my current gf (they are both trans) and it would be nice for her to have some irl support from another transfem. So I thought that would be nice as well >_> we all talked a bit about some places we could go and it seemed pleasant
My advice, don't fuck with exes hoping for anything good to happen. If your intentions are bad and you want bad things to happen, that's one thing. But ain't nothin' good going to happen getting back in touch with them hoping to rekindle anything. Especially the narcissistic avoidant types.What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicating
What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicatingI am hoping he just messed up his wording and didn't mean it as it literally read. I hope.
That's cool. It just wasn't clear at firstOhh yeah lol there's no chance of anything romantic, I didnt realize it might come off that way. Im literally just lonely friendwise and I thought she might be too
To be fair, I try to stay friends with exes as well. Usually it works for bit and then they get weirded out. Found out one was still struggling with feelings.
My advice, don't fuck with exes hoping for anything good to happen. If your intentions are bad and you want bad things to happen, that's one thing. But ain't nothin' good going to happen getting back in touch with them hoping to rekindle anything. Especially the narcissistic avoidant types.