Do you live with regret?

If you've worked through them, what were the things that helped you move past?

I regret not being more career-oriented and doing better in school, but I'm working on shit without being too stuck in the past.

My first 2 years at French school in Canada I didn't understand what my teachers were saying so I didn't learn anything, and then when I moved to the US with English teachers my eyesight started getting worse and I was too shy to say I can't see the whiteboard. When I finally got glasses at age 9, I STILL couldn't see the board and I was too embarrassed to say my eyes were that bad. So I spent a lot of time in school not learning anything and I think it gave me ADHD. Can't be too hard on myself I suppose.

I think so? I used to be depressed and regretful of everything. Now not so much. I don't know what changed.

A little? Like I'm happy with the life I have now and grateful for it (good career, good friends, have a house), but I always wondered what would happen if I took certain opportunities earlier, or got my bachelor's degree earlier, or moved to Japan >_> Like I definitely got like a 5 year late start getting my career in order compared to my college friends, but at least I'm in line with them now and I'm overall happy

Not really.

That's not to say that there aren't things I wouldn't do differently if I had a do over, I just don't dwell on it much. Especially hypothetical "what if?"s

A lot

Life is regret.

I used to but the older I get the more I realize I was never in control of anything and I probably couldnt have changed things

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYiNeO_--y4
tons and tons of regret

I'm happy overall, but I regret many many moments where I was cringe

My main regret is that I didnt do more job hopping when I was younger and still living with my parents, so that I could have somewhat of an idea of what I might like to do for a job. Like that was so incredibly stupid of me, that I legitimately cannot see myself recovering from it, just based on how the world works.

In fairness, the economy collapsed in 2008, which was just shortly after high school, so Im actually very lucky I had a stable job at all. And also in fairness, I lived in a big town that somehow had, like, no real jobs. Working at a grocery store sucked, but at least it was steady work and had good benefits. There wasnt really anything else that would have been better that wouldve justified leaving.

I did eventually get out, but guess what? Im still miserable at work lol. There are some days where its ok, but most of the time its stressful misery, and while Im living comfortably, I dont make anywhere near enough money to justify feeing this way all the time.

But, stupid me, Im in my late 30s. I dont have time to start from the bottom and work my way up! at some new job, I dont have the time or money for further education, I dont have the time or money to be bouncing from job to job to try and figure out what Id like. Shit sucks ._.

I think it started when I stayed one year more in kindergarten than necessary. I had like 5 seconds to decide.

It's a bit tricky. I missed a lot of opportunities, but in pursuit of other goals that fell through. But if I hadn't failed, I wouldn't have met my fiancee, who is easily the most compatible with me among all other humans.

Bumping, regrettably.

A lot.

But theres no point dwelling. Learn what you can and move forwards.

Every girl that showed romantic interest in me in the past I pushed away because of fear. I haven't had a job in 25 years and my parents have been taking care of me this whole time.

Just to name a few.

it's my default state

I have worked past them by trying over and over again and keeping a positive attitude.

For instance my first marriage (and only person I had been with) sucked, so I was a mix of shattered in terms of self confidence and also desperate to have more experiences. I also had driven away all my friends through neglect.

So after my divorce, I just started going out all the time to social events, joined Meetup, and started using dating apps. Through perseverance (and spending WAY too much money going out), I got much better at being naturally social (I'm autistic), made a bunch of friends, and dated a lot of women within the first couple years.

I might have gone too far, but it gave me back my confidence and I know longer have regret for wasted years or friends I lost; just determined to do better.

Now I am in between the two extremes. Happily married with a manageable set of friends. And focused on kids, health and my career as well.

So I don't regret anything anymore other than a couple women I hurt during my dating phase by not having my shit figured out.

Yeah, loads of them, and I don't forgive myself for them.

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I regret not being more career-oriented and doing better in school, but I'm working on shit without being too stuck in the past.

My first 2 years at French school in Canada I didn't understand what my teachers were saying so I didn't learn anything, and then when I moved to the US with English teachers my eyesight started getting worse and I was too shy to say I can't see the whiteboard. When I finally got glasses at age 9, I STILL couldn't see the board and I was too embarrassed to say my eyes were that bad. So I spent a lot of time in school not learning anything and I think it gave me ADHD. Can't be too hard on myself I suppose.

You ever get diagnosed to confirm ADHD? Treatment really helps

Not major, but I regret not rushing to get the Turbografx 16 mini console.

Never played the actual system, but Pat Contri's "NES Punk" Christmas video on the console and games. Definitely one I rewatched too.