NoxObscuras posted...
And to your current question, I think it's because people place a lot of significance on finding a partner to settle down with. So rejection is seen as a failure to achieve that life milestone.
Thank you for sharing your opinion. I sincerely was genuinely asking. And, about my first post--it's fine. I was mostly kidding about the lack of direct engagement. This topic really blew up!
Rejection never feels "good," per say. It's by its very nature a negative state of being. But all of us deal with it in one way or another in our lives.
Joelypoely posted...
One theory is that on a deep instinctual level, it produces the negative feeling that the person's genes are not worthy to procreate (especially in the case of repeated rejection). It can manifest as a strong feeling of being left out of an (arguably) fundamental human bonding experience.
I appreciate hearing your perspective. This kind of extremely parochial introspection just isn't something I can relate to. And, I think being online and engaging in online discourse as a primary source of socialization is what potentially leads to this kind of thing.
I think when you engage in this level of over-analysis, you're only harming yourself, especially when you speak Darwinist logic like genes and so forth. It boils down to trying until you succeed. Reiterating where necessary, taking breaks when it starts to wear on you emotionally, and then trying again once you've recuperated. But nothing changes if the person seeking companionship resigns themselves to not even giving it a shot.
To the topic, men and women should approach someone they believe they might have an interest in. I've certainly seen both sexes "take the lead."
I do live in a major metro, however. And I work in a clinical field where I engage with people who present mental illness and other co-occurring disorders. But this is where I'll leave things off.
I do appreciate you all for giving your perspectives.
Good Night.