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TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/15/17 10:03:50 AM
#249
Nepsy posted...
Normal people would just take their business somewhere else.


These are not normal people. They want to force their lifestyle choices down the throats of any who oppose. They elect leaders who use their lifestyle choices as litmus tests for appointing those who interpret the law further cementing their stand. They cry bigot and attempt to intimidate those who disagree with them. They use their status as a weapon. They don't want you to just bake their cake. They want to make you like it.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/15/17 9:50:07 AM
#246
shockthemonkey posted...
C7D posted...
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
C7D posted...
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
"My ex-boyfriend and I used to be gay, but these guys refusing to bake a cake for us really made us see the light. Now we both have girlfriends who love the Lord" - no one ever


Honestly, it's not for you. Christians who bake a cake for a gay marriage are participating in the event which is sinful within itself 1st Timothy 5:22. This is truly religious discrimination.

Don't start your own business if you don't want to serve the public. Them's the breaks.


If there is an abundance of non Christian cake bakers, you are making a mountain out of a mole hill because you could easily get one elsewhere. If there is a scarcity of non Christian cake bakers expect your request to go unfulfilled anyway. As I said in my post a few days ago, this has nothing to do with tolerance and only to do with bullying via the court system. You will never make Christians believe your lifestyle choices are pleasing in the eyes of our God. Therefore, those choices can never be considered pleasing in our eyes either.

No one cares what's pleasing - don't open a business if you can't follow the rules and regulations of that business.


That's a big part of why I'm glad I don't deal with people in my work.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/15/17 8:53:35 AM
#243
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
C7D posted...
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
"My ex-boyfriend and I used to be gay, but these guys refusing to bake a cake for us really made us see the light. Now we both have girlfriends who love the Lord" - no one ever


Honestly, it's not for you. Christians who bake a cake for a gay marriage are participating in the event which is sinful within itself 1st Timothy 5:22. This is truly religious discrimination.

Don't start your own business if you don't want to serve the public. Them's the breaks.


If there is an abundance of non Christian cake bakers, you are making a mountain out of a mole hill because you could easily get one elsewhere. If there is a scarcity of non Christian cake bakers expect your request to go unfulfilled anyway. As I said in my post a few days ago, this has nothing to do with tolerance and only to do with bullying via the court system. You will never make Christians believe your lifestyle choices are pleasing in the eyes of our God. Therefore, those choices can never be considered pleasing in our eyes either.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/15/17 8:27:40 AM
#241
Ruvan22 posted...
C7D posted...
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
"My ex-boyfriend and I used to be gay, but these guys refusing to bake a cake for us really made us see the light. Now we both have girlfriends who love the Lord" - no one ever


Honestly, it's not for you. Christians who bake a cake for a gay marriage are participating in the event which is sinful within itself 1st Timothy 5:22. This is truly religious discrimination.


Would baking a cake for an interracial wedding be sinful too?


Nope
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/15/17 8:17:35 AM
#238
l33t_iRk3n_Rm33 posted...
"My ex-boyfriend and I used to be gay, but these guys refusing to bake a cake for us really made us see the light. Now we both have girlfriends who love the Lord" - no one ever


Honestly, it's not for you. Christians who bake a cake for a gay marriage are participating in the event which is sinful within itself 1st Timothy 5:22. This is truly religious discrimination.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/14/17 10:00:20 AM
#228
shockthemonkey posted...
darkjedilink posted...
shockthemonkey posted...
It wasn't against anyone's will. They agreed to follow the laws and regulations of operating a business. They consented. They were not forced to run a business. No one is forced to run a business.

Seriously what is so difficult about this?

Nobody forced the couple to use her bakery, either.

What's so difficult about that?

I'm not the one yelling about how someone is being forced to do something. Opening a public business means agreeing to serve the public. No one forced them to agree to that.

C7D posted...
shockthemonkey posted...
It wasn't against anyone's will. They agreed to follow the laws and regulations of operating a business. They consented. They were not forced to run a business. No one is forced to run a business.

Seriously what is so difficult about this?


Some businesses are members only. Churches are often used as venues for weddings. Many are highly ornate and are a wonderful place to get married. I married my wife in a church. Would you have the church forced to marry someone if it takes money for use of weddings?

Churches don't follow general business rules; they aren't (supposed to be) businesses. No one was buying a cake from a members-only cake club. If your argument can't even apply to the case at hand, it means you've lost.


Most discovery is made at the hands of a small amount of extrapolation from the current standard. I only asked your opinion of that small extrapolation. I think it's obvious why you didn't answer.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/14/17 9:48:45 AM
#222
shockthemonkey posted...
It wasn't against anyone's will. They agreed to follow the laws and regulations of operating a business. They consented. They were not forced to run a business. No one is forced to run a business.

Seriously what is so difficult about this?


Some businesses are members only. Churches are often used as venues for weddings. Many are highly ornate and are a wonderful place to get married. I married my wife in a church. Would you have the church forced to marry someone if it takes money for use of weddings?
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/14/17 8:02:50 AM
#217
UnfairRepresent posted...
"The law is the law and therefore right" is a dumb argument from people who have no actual point

Slavery and segregation used to be law. We currently have drugs laws.

It's not about law. It's about justification


We have laws in place that compel our citizens to buy a product and laws in place that apparently compel our citizens to provide goods and services against their conscience in order to appeal to those whom they feel are morally repugnant. I wonder what the law will compel us to do next.

In a free society, the cake baker or photographer, providers of nonessential services, would be free to choose their clientele. This is no different than if the photographer or baker would choose not to participate in weddings for satanists. I'm beginning to wonder how much longer they may have that right.

The heart of this agenda is not tolerance. It is acceptance which requires beating down anyone who disagrees with them. While they claim to be against bullying, they sure carry a big stick in the form of the court system
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 4:39:51 PM
#29
COVxy posted...
C7D posted...
This is customizable. I got 4 exams : electrokinetics, neutron scattering, clinical diagnostics, and polymer physics. They tried to tailor mine directly to my research topics.


It depends on the department, but all have some form of exam that has very similar stress.

My department has you write a review or meta-analysis and then you present it in front of your committee.


I'm so glad we didn't do that. I was given problem statements and asked to provide the solution. These were brutal problems that required you to truly grasp the subject matter. I felt like I was turning in books, lol.
TopicLatest convo among university professionals is increasing mental health issues.
C7D
09/12/17 4:37:00 PM
#39
Zanzenburger posted...
C7D posted...
Yes, but their presentation is largely inconsistent with the time frame. Many of the issues seniors face today are more consistent with brain morphology rather than strictly environment.

I'm not gonna pretend to argue with you on that since I am not an expert on the subject.

What I will say is my own theory on it: could it possibly have to do with the fact that they had the issues all along but we just didn't have the technology or knowhow to diagnose them?

Afterall, prior to recent area, illness was seen as a weakness and people tried desperately to shrug it off, sleep it off, or drink it off. People hid their darkness demons for fear of social ridicule or worse, the inability to serve for those that wanted to do so.


Mental illness has always been an issue. There is no question. I used to hear stories about that from relatives who "weren't right". That's all they knew to say about it at the time.

When I was in grad school, I developed new clinical diagnostic tools. We wrote a grant proposal with a neurosurgeon to NIH on attempting to find certain compounds which were consistent with Alzheimer's. We got to the final stage, but our proposal was not funded while I was a grad student.
TopicLatest convo among university professionals is increasing mental health issues.
C7D
09/12/17 4:27:18 PM
#35
Zanzenburger posted...
C7D posted...
weapon_d00d816 posted...
We certainly diagnose mental illness more. I feel like more and more people are actually seeking help than trying to deal with it themselves. Mental illness has reached peak mainstream exposure.

This, and/or the fact that this incoming generation grew up during the recession. There was a constant air of negativity and pessimism during that time, and of course the direct economic impact upon families.


Interesting analysis... The greatest generation grew up in the great depression and went through the worst war in the history of mankind unscathed. Next?

Have you seen the range of mental illness found in various senior citizens and veterans? That's a whole other beast of its own.


Yes, but their presentation is largely inconsistent with the time frame. Many of the issues seniors face today are more consistent with brain morphology and genetic misfires rather than strictly environment.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 4:06:42 PM
#26
COVxy posted...
ChromaticAngel posted...
I'm not entirely sure what his position was. I know he was in some minor authority position. He had keys to access the building after hours and such and had to do things like lock up rooms with animals so that the cleaning staff couldn't get in and fuck up the ongoing experiments, and that he was basically paid to get his degree--although not much. He still worked side jobs for general living expenses.


All this is pretty normal for PhD students.

Renraku_San posted...
Do we really need a stupid acronym for that?


Keep in mind that what precedes it is usually an extremely stressful comprehensive exam which you demonstrate to a panel of experts that you have enough knowledge about a field to continue onwards.


This is customizable. I got 4 exams : electrokinetics, neutron scattering, clinical diagnostics, and polymer physics. They tried to tailor mine directly to my research topics.
TopicTrump, Sessions: Buisnesses have a right to discriminate against LGBT
C7D
09/12/17 3:57:19 PM
#154
Sayoria posted...
Questionmarktarius posted...
Sir Will posted...
Questionmarktarius posted...
Plastic caketoppers aren't quite so generic.

This is about more than a fucking cake.

Should we oblige a muslim caterer to provide service to a Beer & Bacon Fest?


Since this protects religion, take this scenario and tell me where you sit:

If a Christian extremist doctor is the only one that performs a rare, life-saving surgery in the state, what should happen if a gay man were to visit him because he needs this surgery and is turned away?

Because as far out as this sounds, it is protected by the Trump Administration and surely is protected by Mississippi and Alabama law.


The Christian doctor would perform the operation but not because the government requires him to do it.
TopicDoes this look like mold?
C7D
09/12/17 3:47:25 PM
#94
_Goggalor_ posted...
Think I should go to the ER and get checked out. I have a lot of the symptoms linked to toxicity.


Tell your landlord about this now so he can go ahead with the eviction process. Be a decent human being and let him start cleaning now so maybe his whole building won't be condemned. It's the least you can do now.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:45:48 PM
#22
ChromaticAngel posted...
Giant_Aspirin posted...
isn't the dissertation painfully long and can sometimes take years to write and finish?


It's due by November so...


Likely a soft deadline... he can always pay to sign up for one credit hour if he can't complete it on time.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:44:13 PM
#21
Giant_Aspirin posted...
isn't the dissertation painfully long and can sometimes take years to write and finish?


I wrote my papers as I went along, so it wasn't so bad. Mine was around 300 pages, and I completed it in about 3 months after I finished my research.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:43:07 PM
#18
Renraku_San posted...
Do we really need a stupid acronym for that?


It's not stupid at all when it's the one that describes you. I remember being excited to post that as my Facebook status.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:35:16 PM
#14
ChromaticAngel posted...
C7D posted...
COVxy posted...
ChromaticAngel posted...
It's one of the reasons it took 17 years is because it was basically real research he was doing.


I mean, that's all science PhDs though.


This! I would hate to think someone could get a PhD without doing real research.


I mean it was literally funded by government science grants the same way any other research is funded (not counting private funded studies). Not that other people don't do real work.


What you are saying makes it sound like he was the PI on his research. That's not normal for a PhD student. Professors should either hold a grant to do your research already or work with the student for future studies. For example, my research was funded by government sources and private funding from an outside company. We did apply together for funding for future studies and future students but that was not a primary aim of my graduation. I think this is fairly typical. We wrote a few NSF grant proposals and one from NIH, but I have since moved on since I didn't want to be a professor.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:11:40 PM
#12
COVxy posted...
ChromaticAngel posted...
It's one of the reasons it took 17 years is because it was basically real research he was doing.


I mean, that's all science PhDs though.


This! I would hate to think someone could get a PhD without doing real research.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:09:47 PM
#10
ChromaticAngel posted...
Dustin1280 posted...
Hey 17 years is better than not getting one at all, especially when he has put 17 years into it.

Good for him for finally completing it.

I do worry about the massive debt he might be in for it taking that long though...


most of it was paid for. It's one of the reasons it took 17 years is because it was basically real research he was doing. If he had to pay for the whole thing out of pocket he would not have lasted that long. His family has got money but not that much money.

To put this into perspective for anyone wondering if 17 years is normal, I have a friend who became an actual doctor (psychiatrist) in less time and he changed his mind halfway through after pursuing a career in surgery for a while.


I did some research for a company in addition to my regular dissertation work to pay for some of my materials. They used my research for their national marketing campaign. It was pretty cool knowing that my work went into the ads for a multi billion dollar chemical company. Good on him for having funding.
TopicHow do I measure sugar content with a brix refractometer
C7D
09/12/17 3:07:13 PM
#5
BignutzisBack posted...
Are thoae numbers how many grams of sugar is has?


Should be g/100 g of solution.
TopicMy friend is ABD right now
C7D
09/12/17 3:00:57 PM
#7
That's a long time at university. Congrats for your friend! I could never have stayed in that long. 8 semesters for undergrad (fall and spring for 4 years and (10 semesters 3.5 years) more semesters to get my PhD.
TopicHow do I measure sugar content with a brix refractometer
C7D
09/12/17 2:57:06 PM
#2
TopicLatest convo among university professionals is increasing mental health issues.
C7D
09/12/17 2:46:29 PM
#31
weapon_d00d816 posted...
We certainly diagnose mental illness more. I feel like more and more people are actually seeking help than trying to deal with it themselves. Mental illness has reached peak mainstream exposure.

This, and/or the fact that this incoming generation grew up during the recession. There was a constant air of negativity and pessimism during that time, and of course the direct economic impact upon families.


Interesting analysis... The greatest generation grew up in the great depression and went through the worst war in the history of mankind unscathed. Next?
TopicDoes this look like mold?
C7D
09/12/17 2:41:47 PM
#84
DelianSK posted...
PS: You are NEVER getting your deposit back.


You should also be sued for the remainder. I feel bad for the apartment owner.
TopicA person with little to no body fat won't float in water
C7D
09/12/17 2:31:16 PM
#8
They won't float as well obviously. Fat is about 16% less dense than muscle.
TopicLatest convo among university professionals is increasing mental health issues.
C7D
09/12/17 2:19:40 PM
#22
Put self-diagnoses at the end of the line. Treat the ones that you have to treat and say that you treated them by perceived urgency.
TopicDoes this look like mold?
C7D
09/12/17 2:14:02 PM
#47
EyeWontBeFooled posted...
_Goggalor_ posted...
EyeWontBeFooled posted...
_Goggalor_ posted...
CanuckCowboy posted...
This can't be real.

I guarantee your carpet and underlay are moldy as fuck too man.


My foot is resting right on top of that spot atm.

Well shit, no wonder you were about to pass out. Do you get any air into your lungs at home, or just mold spores?


I sit in front of a large floor fan and it's currently blowing right on that spot. So of my carpet is moldy, then I've been breathing this in for years.

Get a hold of the local housing authority, and the local news. There is no way in hell that is a legal residence anymore. Whomever is responsible for that property needs to take the steps to get that shit fixed yesterday.


Get in touch with the housing authority because he is too lazy to clean up after himself? That's nuts.
TopicDoes this look like mold?
C7D
09/12/17 2:08:17 PM
#36
_Goggalor_ posted...
EyeWontBeFooled posted...
_Goggalor_ posted...
CanuckCowboy posted...
This can't be real.

I guarantee your carpet and underlay are moldy as fuck too man.


My foot is resting right on top of that spot atm.

Well shit, no wonder you were about to pass out. Do you get any air into your lungs at home, or just mold spores?


I sit in front of a large floor fan and it's currently blowing right on that spot. So of my carpet is moldy, then I've been breathing this in for years.


Mold poisoning can literally screw up your personality. How can you have let something get that bad? That seems like the laziest thing I have ever seen.
TopicThere should be a temporary ban on Caffeine
C7D
09/11/17 8:38:32 AM
#53
_Goggalor_ posted...
C7D posted...
Which illegal drug is it that you want to be legal because you are so certain it is no worse for you than caffeine?


Cannabis.


Which you intend to smoke or vape?
TopicThere should be a temporary ban on Caffeine
C7D
09/11/17 8:32:30 AM
#51
Which illegal drug is it that you want to be legal because you are so certain it is no worse for you than caffeine?
TopicI'm 6'2 and 238 lbs...yet I feel kind of athletic still. Is that fat?
C7D
09/11/17 8:00:15 AM
#32
At that weight, I would expect some significant musculature. From your pic, I don't see it on your upper body where it's easiest to build. I would therefore conclude that you are a bit chunky.
TopicTexas first responders sue chemical company whose plant exploded during Harvey
C7D
09/08/17 10:00:08 AM
#31
SGT_Conti posted...
Antifar posted...
a federal rule designed to require companies to better coordinate and inform first responders about the toxic compounds at chemical plants

why is this not already a thing


Some plants produce so many compounds that some of them are not even recognized as discovered species, are short-lived, are so dilute that extracting them would prove difficult, and that haven't been studied. It is necessary to ensure that both there is an adequate level of safety as well as ensure insuring profitability for American chemical producers. That is the goal of an entire branch of chemical engineering referred to as PSM. I can tell you the regulations are stronger here in the US than in any other first world country I have been to. We need an American chemical industry.
TopicSorry CHRISTIANS! If you want to be in government, prepare to defend your faith!
C7D
09/08/17 8:20:36 AM
#36
The Deadpool posted...
Callixtus posted...
Every religious person cares more about their beliefs than their job.


If that were true, then that would be evidence that no religious person is fit to be a high ranking judge...


Their end goal...
TopicTexas first responders sue chemical company whose plant exploded during Harvey
C7D
09/07/17 4:53:52 PM
#23
Axiom posted...
Anarchy_Juiblex posted...
Mizznox posted...
And I don't see anything about lingering effects, but it does say that they started vomiting immediately after breathing the fumes.


Same thing happened when I smoked a Newport in middle school, cowboy the fuck up? I dunno.

Come on man. A cigarette is a hell of a lot different than toxic chemicals and you know this


Arkema produces organic peroxides at this site. They store their product in 1 and 5 kg containers on pallets. This product is used in the production of plastics and will only work when the purity of the product is very high. The area in which these pallets are stored must be cooled or the product will begin decomposing and combust into water and co2. Neither of those is toxic. I'm guessing the containers and the pallets caught fire which could cause black smoke similar to when you burn a log in your fireplace. We won't know till the CSB has the final word. Stop fearmongering. You don't know what you are talking about here.
TopicTexas first responders sue chemical company whose plant exploded during Harvey
C7D
09/07/17 4:36:00 PM
#17
Gimmick posted...
C7D posted...
The plant was designed to survive a 500 year storm. This was greater than that.

I'm so confused.


In the absence of cooling, Arkema's product decomposes exothermicly. The cooling system failed in the flood.
TopicTexas first responders sue chemical company whose plant exploded during Harvey
C7D
09/07/17 4:34:38 PM
#16
Mizznox posted...
Anarchy_Juiblex posted...
to what extent do chem plants need to be able to handle a catastrophe?

C7D posted...
Nothing they could do. You can't completely eliminate risk all the time.


Antifar posted...
The suit filed in Harris County court asserts that after explosions at the Arkema’s Crosby plant emitted a cloud of gas, company officials “repeatedly denied that the chemicals were toxic or harmful in any manner to the people, and first responders, in the community.” Yet, the complaint says the fumes sickened the first responders, and charges Arkema with “gross negligence” and “malice.”

“Immediately upon being exposed to the fumes from the explosion, and one by one, the police officers and first responders began to fall ill in the middle of the road,” says the lawsuit, which was filed by members of local agencies including law enforcement and the fire department. “Calls for medics were made, but still no one from Arkema warned of the toxic fumes in the air. Emergency medical personnel arrived on scene, and even before exiting their vehicle, they became overcome by the fumes as well. The scene was nothing less than chaos. Police officers were doubled over vomiting, unable to breathe. Medical personnel, in their attempts to provide assistance to the officers, became overwhelmed and they too began to vomit and gasp for air.”


I don't think asking them to not lie about the dangers is unreasonable.


you mean carbon dioxide and water? Something else likely burned (incompletely) in addition to the organic peroxides in question. (Chemical engineer)
TopicTexas first responders sue chemical company whose plant exploded during Harvey
C7D
09/07/17 4:29:37 PM
#11
Duncanwii posted...
Anarchy_Juiblex posted...
Eh, wouldn't go as far as to say I hope they win, to what extent do chem plants need to be able to handle a catastrophe? Definitely a case worth hearing before passing judgement.

God damn, it's like you want to see U.S. manufacturing fucking gone. "Punish them all until they can't exist."

The chemical plant fucking exploded and killed people. I think that yeah, there should be regulations in place to prevent that from happening.


The plant was designed to survive a 500 year storm. This was greater than that. Nothing they could do. You can't completely eliminate risk all the time.

Nobody died and few were injured in spite of this being so bad. I would call that a win.
TopicDoes the tic-tac diet work?
C7D
09/07/17 4:26:14 PM
#21
OpheliaAdenade posted...
C7D posted...
OpheliaAdenade posted...
C7D posted...
Measure thigh circumference. Drop 300 calories to 1500 calories for a week or two. Measure thigh circumference. Take action accordingly.


my goal is to eventually have two really far apart legs that are thin as sticks and a big head just like a lollipop. :u


That doesn't sound healthy, but who am I to judge.


everyone's definition of beauty is different.


Fair enough. I think I'm ugly but my wife says I look like Jesse Palmer.
TopicDoes the tic-tac diet work?
C7D
09/07/17 4:17:16 PM
#19
OpheliaAdenade posted...
C7D posted...
Measure thigh circumference. Drop 300 calories to 1500 calories for a week or two. Measure thigh circumference. Take action accordingly.


my goal is to eventually have two really far apart legs that are thin as sticks and a big head just like a lollipop. :u


That doesn't sound healthy, but who am I to judge.
TopicDoes the tic-tac diet work?
C7D
09/07/17 4:14:08 PM
#16
OpheliaAdenade posted...
Link HT posted...
OpheliaAdenade posted...
Link HT posted...
OpheliaAdenade posted...
I just want a thigh gap.

count calories and exercise more

method is simple, it's the execution that's hard.


I already do that! still no thigh gap.

exercise more, and make sure you're counting them to keep your consumption low, just counting them does nothing =P


But I'm already eating only 1800 a day. And I work out at least 3 times a week! But still no thigh gap. I'm hideous. :(


Measure thigh circumference. Drop 300 calories to 1500 calories for a week or two. Measure thigh circumference. Take action accordingly.
TopicDoes the tic-tac diet work?
C7D
09/07/17 2:49:23 PM
#4
Good luck in dehydrated starvation mode.
TopicDoes anyone here work in an office (cubicle and all that)?
C7D
09/07/17 1:10:46 PM
#5
I work in an office. While it's designed to be cubicles, they gave me my own room. It affords many liberties such as being able to post on this site when I'm not busy.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 12:55:16 PM
#102

It's pretty unrealistic to expect your tale of your wife losing 100 pounds for you to be anywhere near the norm. It's a huge ask and when TC is saying his wife is depressed I doubt his line of thinking where he might not wanna stick around is helping. He can leave if he wants, but I'm pretty sure being supportive would help. He should exercise with her, cook healthy meals for two, etc, etc.


That's fair. My wife is truly incredible. She asks me what I want to eat for dinner every night, packs my lunch for me every day, and supports me in my goals. She is a good, Christian woman who goes with me to church every time the door is open. She always asks my opinion on things like her hair, her nails, and her clothes. She works outside of the home while raising the kids, and still tries to clean up before I get home from work. I know that I truly hit the jackpot.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 12:31:53 PM
#93
Sami1000 posted...
LittleRoyal posted...
JustMyOpinion posted...
You sound like a jerk. Why would you even ask that? Don't expect people to change. If you don't like the way they are then just leave. There are other people out there that will be good with your daughter and make good money.


What the fuck fairy tale do you live in?

Nobody is perfect for anybody else.

If you care enough about someone, you change something for them.

If she values you more than her weight(moreso, more than being fat and eating when she wants), she will at least try.

Likewise if she said "you're almost perfect but you're overly blunt and rude af." Well if you value her more than you're rudeness you'd change (well chances are you'd not change, you seem narcissistic though I could be wrong. So you'd probably defend yourself and start a fight over changing for someone you supposedly love)

I'm here learning things to be the perfect wife for my husband. When I get that close to someone I'll change some things for him if he doesn't like certain things that are within my realm of control. Except I won't get fat for someone if he has a fat fetish because I reall value being healthy and liking how I look


I thought it was all about accepting your partner as he/she is, not changing that person to match your dream partner.


Your spouse should love you enough to strive to please you. Your weight does not define who you are. It does typically define sexual attraction though. My wife lost weight for me. I gain muscle for her.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 11:54:41 AM
#49
HypnoCoosh posted...
C7D posted...
she is 5'3", 135


Wow. That's impressive.

Did you get a personal trainer, dietitian?


Dietician and sleeve gastrectomy surgery. After watching her diet for months and not losing any weight even when weighing her food and counting every calorie, we got her in touch with a metabolic specialist. As it turns out, her metabolism was totally screwed up due to a number of things. He got her on the right track, ultimately requiring surgery.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 11:51:58 AM
#45
HypnoCoosh posted...
NeoShadowhen posted...
Wait. Are you the guy who made a topic a couple weeks back about how you were still in love with your ex-wife, and were thinking about breaking it off with your current fiancé?


I've seen my ex since then a few times. Actually been texting all morning. We are both just trying to move on with out lives but are still really compatible and talk a lot.

I've been telling her about my fiance and mines argument about her being fat


Bad move. Don't talk to the ex about your problems in your current relationship. That will only cause problems with your fiancée.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 11:49:53 AM
#42
HypnoCoosh posted...
C7D posted...
Her height, weight, body fat percentage? Yours?

she's like 5'8" and like 190+ I think. I don't know for sure she wont let me see.

I'm 5'11" and like 158-160

She takes care of your kid and has a professional STEM career. What do you do?

She works for the state prison system as a psychologist

I work for large enterprise IT opperations

Who cooks and cleans at your home?

I do a majority of the cleaning but she does help she picks up the slack on the laundry.

We need more info.

like what


Okay, I think your feelings are understandable and you could definitely be upset about the weight gain. When I met my wife, I loved everything about her. I wasn't happy that she was overweight, actually quite a bit more than your wife, 5'3" and about 240. We got her some help. Now, a year later after starting her journey she is 5'3", 135 and still rocking DDDs. Don't give up hope. Don't degrade her. Just love her.
TopicSo I told my fiance she was fat last night and I need to know if she plans on
C7D
09/07/17 11:32:24 AM
#25
Her height, weight, body fat percentage? Yours?

She takes care of your kid and has a professional STEM career. What do you do?

Who cooks and cleans at your home?

We need more info.
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