Lurker > Zonbei

Nintendo_Porn posted...

No, i refuse to shame a man talking about their fucking feelings

He was getting shamed for being an absolute dick for literally the entire topic, not for talking about his feelings. I actually spent a bunch of time trying to talk this out with him and give advice but he just refused to engage and regressed into troll bullshit so I gave up.

MrDrMan posted...

Ooh a bunch of nerds demolished me how will I live?

Its a joke. Relax. I dont care either way. Youre embarrassing yourself.

This coping strategy to protect your feelings is painfully transparent.

Lairen posted...

Lemon Lime infinitely stale mates with strawberry banana.

Until Tomato Avocado shows up to kick both their asses

HylianFox posted...

Tomato Avocado

Thats it, the thread is over, this is the correct answer.

MrDrMan posted...

Some people lack imagination. Its ok.

Translation: I got demolished in this topic because my girlfriend was right and everyone immediately realized it, so Im trying to save face by pretending it was my master plan to troll all along, just like the other ten million times thats been done on the internet.

poes law going hard here. I dont know you well enough to tell if youre being satirical or a right wing troll.

MrDrMan posted...

Ive seen people together two weeks and fighting every day. Means nothing. Every relationship is different.

Think what you want chief. Were good.

Clearly not. All this internet posturing isnt going to matter when your partner breaks up with you because youre a prick.

MrDrMan posted...

What do you not understand about I have a 23 year old girlfriend? However much ass you get, triple it, and thats how much I get.

Okay. So you dont understand communication skills OR math.

MrDrMan posted...

I said someone, not her. That could mean her or myself. You guys gotta stop twisting my words. Its right there on the screen.

Uh huh.

MrDrMan posted...

Thats irrelevant to the fact that I get more pussy. If were gonna troll lets do it.

You objectively dont, unless youre actually cheating on your partner. Ive got two partners my guy, and several friends with benefits. Being poly necessitates good communication skills and not being selfish, which is why its so clear to me youre incapable of either.

youre not doing a lot to change the conception of you as kind of a jackass with this shit youre pulling now.

MrDrMan posted...

All of these issues come down to a basic lack of trust which isnt a problem until someone feels insecure.

Bruh a basic lack of trust is always a problem. And youve somehow managed to blame it all on her for being insecure. Im starting to think youre doing this on purpose because it seems like you arent reading anything being said.

MrDrMan posted...

I brought that up because that is an unwelcome space. I genuinely dont know what else to do other than offer support. You say that as if its a bad thing. Im not saying I handled it in the best way possible but there are people who have handled it much worse. I didnt do anything to deserve this shitstorm Im getting.

The posts in this topic make it sound like I beat her up or something

Are you offering support, or are you actually GIVING support? Are you validating her feelings? Or are you just responding with well this isnt that big a deal or I didnt do this or heres why this happened? The existence of people who are worse doesnt mean youve done nothing wrong, and the fact youre jumping to that makes me feel you arent grasping that this is about you and your relationship. And most importantly, her feelings.

If people were acting like youd beat her up the responses would be MUCH worse. I wouldnt be trying to help you, Id be treating you like an actual piece of trash.

MrDrMan posted...

She doesnt tell me when shes upset. She acts like everything is good until it hits a boiling point.

I have an ex who was like this. Part of it is that she wasnt great at communicating. But another part was that I had not validated her feelings in the past, that I had responded badly and defensively, and made her not want to talk to me about things. This is something you need to learn, because our society doesnt teach us this shit.

MrDrMan posted...

Bro if I was the type to blow up and get mad at her then I would have done that in the first place. What exactly does create a welcoming space mean?

All I can do is offer my support. I cant force her to share. The fact that I created this topic in the first place should be evidence enough I dont just get mad and blow up.

Have never and will never do that. I dont get angry, I dont get mean, I dont get physical, anything. I treat this girl like damn near royalty.

Responses to online trolls are irrelevant. No disrespect but I couldnt care less what anyone on here thinks.

THEN WHY DID YOU MAKE THE TOPIC. (Before you dismiss this cause Im butthurt, the caps are for emphasis, not because Im angry.)

My dude, respectfully, you have some issues. You just pretended you dont care what anyone thinks in a topic you made to see what people think, presumably because you have to defend yourself from having any negative feelings. These things we are saying cant effect you if you tell yourself what we say has no meaning, right?

In addition you just weirdly jumped to ive never yelled at her or hit her! Is that your metric for being a good partner? Because thats the bare minimum.

A welcoming space is one where someone feels like when they tell you that youve done something wrong, you listen thoughtfully and work through it with them, not get defensive, tell them you didnt do anything wrong, or make them feel like the bad guy for bringing it up. The latter is literally all you have been doing in this topic. and what she said you did with her. Thats what people are
trying to tell you. Coming at her with this energy is the exact thing shes saying youre doing wrong.

orangefire25 posted...

Damn relax bro, maybe it's time for you to take a vacation

Sir this is a Wendys

Sunhawk posted...

I'm almost certainly gonna do it, because the idea of having mulitple, good-looking women to sleep with is PRETTY awesome. I'm more interested in the women in their 50s and 60s than anything else. Late middle-age is a GREAT point for a woman, and I've fucked a woman in her early 60s before, and thoroughly enjoyed it. It makes me laugh, though, that these women are all outwards respectable. Apparently they live in the "nice" parts of my hometown, where the white, posh people usually live. They are all well educated, and have succeeded independently of their ex-husbands (apart from one, who inherited large amounts of money).

You are a super weird dude

MrDrMan posted...

Also I dont need to prove anything to you. Like who the fuck are you?

You guys are being tools then getting butthurt when you get a tool response.

You quite literally asked for advice. This is the advice. It just isnt advice you want to hear. Im taking time out of my own day to tell you that you need to think about your actions and improve as a partner (something we should ALL be doing. Relationships are about growth) and your response is to call me butthurt for pointing out how youre acting.

Newsflash: I dont care except out of empathy and sympathy. Im not remotely upset by any of this.

MrDrMan posted...

It is a quality post. Consider though that instead of talking to me she writes a list. Does that paint a picture for how hard it is to have these discussions? I cant force her to share anything with me if she doesnt want to.

She has to meet me halfway. Im not a mind reader. Ive always told her she can share whatever she feels with me. The rest is up to her.

Actions speak louder than words. You can say share whatever you want all you want. But she clearly feels that when she does, you dont create a welcoming space for that, and instead push back and blame. Which, given thats exactly what youve done in this topic, seems credible.

MrDrMan posted...

I never said should I dump her. I said should I bring this up at all since its something that wasnt intended for me to see.

Your entire point falls through when you realize I made this topic considering I shouldnt have been looking and I also never considered dumping her.

Basically youre wrong on every point but please keep telling me how I am the one incapable of listening. Embarrassing.

Thank you for proving not only my point but your partners points. Instead of listening you picked at the one bit you thought was wrong and dismissed the person talking to you, while insulting them. You do not know how to communicate in a mature manner.

You chose to post this online, fail to understand the idea of respecting peoples privacy and personal autonomy. You chose to come here and ask about confronting her (literally just typed dump or confront because I couldnt remember which and I couldnt be bothered to go check. It doesnt invalidate a thing I said) instead of thinking about whether you have done anything wrong. You wanted people to back you up and got upset when they didnt

Anytime anyone has asked whether you did anything youve downplayed, deflected, belittled your own partner, failed to explain, and insulted the poster. If youre doing that to her, no wonder she feels this way.

MrDrMan posted...

The first 50 posts in this topic are she should dump you thats not how you start a discussion.

Respectfully get the fuck out of here with this shit. There are maybe five people in here having rational discussion. The rest is shitposts and trolling.

My dude. That was neither a shitpost nor trolling. I actually believe based on your actions in this topic that you arent capable of having a mature discussion about your own actions. Prove me wrong instead of continuing to act the same way. Youve already made it clear you dont grasp how your actions have affected your partner. You dont seem to understand active listening or have any sympathy for her needs. You dont seem to get why its wrong to have posted her private thoughts on your relationship to a message board.

Your partner clearly had worries about your actions and your response isnt even am I the asshole but should I confront her or dump her for working through her thoughts about breaking up and thinking Im in the wrong about things?

Vegy posted...

Who's alt dis is?

No alt, just a long time semi-lurker who knows youre the worst

Sharashaska posted...

You must be new here

Nah Ive been around forever I was just trying to get Vegy to admit hes racist. (I usually hang out on the politics and smash boards though)

Why are you saying not gonna lie like this is some kind of surprising or out there opinion? Wow. A conventionally attractive person is attractive. What a shock. Care to explain why you felt the need to make a topic that is literally just a picture of a woman you think is hot?

ChocoboMogALT posted...

And, btw, it might feel like we're all piling on you, but that's because we're only getting your side of the story

Well, its also because hes acting like a dick and displaying the exact behaviors in the list.

MrDrMan posted...

Then dont. I dont care. Its ridiculous to say that. By that logic going to therapy is wrong too. Its dumb. I have no problem admitting Im wrong but posting a list that cant be tied to anyone is not wrong.

Yeah she should break up with your ass because youre just not a mature individual capable of having calm, reasonable conversations about your own actions. Confront her about the list. Surely it will go well.

sktgamer_13dude posted...

if a guy does this to me, I need to think about breaking it off with them list tbh to me.

My dude theres a super specific thing about the toilet seat thats clearly written as a description of events that happened.

MrDrMan posted...

I should have known better than to post this here but no CE I did not and have not ever told her she cant share mental health issues. She just chooses not to. Ive done everything I can.

my guy. She isnt saying there that you specifically said dont share your mental health issues. Shes saying when she does you make it about you and create an unwelcoming environment. The fact you dont realize thats what it says makes me think the rest of this is right. Either way you should absolutely talk to her about it. @MrDrMan

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Man. You and all the they keep saying any day now folks must feel pretty silly right now that Putin has ordered troops into the Ukraine.

White Eagle posted...

Headlines also explicitly cited February 16 as the invasion date, so you have to understand a persons skepticism as well.

Weird. I see a bunch of headlines that say could and may, and that the message provided by Biden was a possibility.

Logistics are hard, but understanding the existence of logistics and that timelines shift is apparently even harder.

It could be any day now.
*any day arrives*
what, now the order has been given? Pfft. Theyve been saying itll happen any day now for days. I dont buy it.

geniuses in this topic.

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Its almost like this is an ongoing situation. The headlines have changed over the weeks as more information comes in and the thing gets closer to happening. It has in fact been days since the headline saying it could happen in days, and now the order has seemingly been given. As.. the headlines said. Please try to understand the passage of time.