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My cats are trained (as much as you can train cats, but they do respond to it) to stop doing whatever when you snap at them. Its a pretty decent rate of obedience, too. I have told my roomies and SOs that if they do something bad, please snap at them first, and then remove them from doing whatever if needed.
It took my SO a long time to get in that habit, he would make the tskkk noise at them and be upset that they didnt listen. And since the snaps werent reinforced when they were getting caught for things, the effect of the snaps went downhill, and they werent listening as well to anything. So basically he was undoing my training by not enforcing it. This isnt an issue if its occasionally done wrong by friends or something, but when its my partner living in the same house who also has authority on dealing with my pets, it has to be dealt with on the same page.
thats why I say check with her how shed like it to be handled, maybe she has an effective way that isnt pushing/shoving the dog that she wants you to use that respects the dogs mental health or whatever.

Well, start telling her please get/keep your dog off me if she is in the room and doesnt want you to touch it. It sounds like you need to have a conversation, not just well I take it, because she doesnt fix it or since she doesnt think its a problem, I have to push it off me.
You can also ask how shed like you to redirect the dog, after explaining that you really dislike it and no longer want to just let it jump on you.
While I agree she shouldve noticed it has been annoying to you for awhile and have done something, you still need to try to respect that it IS her pet, that while she needs to be responsible for it, it is also up to her HOW to control it. If she refuses to do anything or allow you to remove the dog, then theres a bigger problem, but it sounds like you just need to have a talk.

Jiek_Fafn posted...

She's mistaken what you're doing for opening up the gates of a work bitch session.

This is my assumption. Bitching is my favorite hobby so if someone brings it up I most likely do the same thing and take over. Definitely not because I want to shut them down, but I can understand it not being the desired response.
if shes not responding to you letting her know you want to talk about your issues without her overshadowing you, and you try leading the convo with that and shes still not hearing it, she may need other outlets herself for her own job stress. You shouldnt have to feel discouraged to bring your problems to your partner for comfort, esp if they do the same with you.

okay

C forever

TroutPaste posted...

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dropped my lamp and broke the bulb. took a selfie . glad I wasn't electrocuted

Your hairrrr

UnholyMudcrab posted...

My mom passed away last year, but she hadn't made a will, so the house is still sitting in probate for another few months. I've been paying the mortgage for the last several months on a property I don't even legally own, and I hate that.

Jeez, thats so stressful. I feel like such a long drawn out thing can probably affect your grieving as well, so Im really sorry to hear thats happening ;/
I could be wrong but I feel like I read you may be able to write off those payments on your taxes, not that thats a large reprieve but it may be something worth looking into. Good luck, friend

emblem-man posted...

TC isn't even actually saying anything weird. His topic title was just confusing. He's still going to be working a job. He's just saying he wants to go ahead and have a kid without waiting for to hit some specific income threshold. And he plans to utilize child benefits (such as I'm guessing, snap, tanf, WIC, medicaid).

What he needs to do is verify that he understands the federal and state benefits he can qualify for before they actually start trying.

People thought he meant that he wanted to stop working and collect benefits...which isn't even really how it works in the first place.

Yeah I agree

Tyranthraxus posted...

I'm not saying I agree or disagree personally, just that people tend to way overestimate how much government assistance they get and way underestimate how much work is involved.

I feel like the benefits thing at least is very easy to look up, though timing may be harder to estimate. By knowing he has resources and looking at those, hes already getting ahead of some of that issue (many people dont apply for certain kinds of resources just from not knowing about them).
Kid is going to be work. For sure. No other way for that to go, with money or without. Someone wanting a kid over someone who may not have and now has to deal with the work. I feel like the first may at least be more responsible about it.

Questionmarktarius posted...

You should piss off about half of CE, and become a landlord now.

Im a way I already am? Not entirely but I have roommates living in my house lol.
yeah id really only consider renting this property (my dads) out if it was like to a friend. I do have friends in that area but its not really a thing Id volunteer unless I knew someone was down on their luck. Talking to realtors they say rn it would be smart to go ahead and sell. Got that opinion from a few, including ones that do property management.

bigblu89 posted...

So we just had the lawyer that wrote up my parents will talk us through everything.

im glad that went so easy then! Of course sad it was those circumstances tho Wish my dad would have just did shit the traditional way I tried to persuade him towards the end but he was kind of losing his grip. Hopefully it works out

Shamino posted...

Do you have a copy of the current will?

I have seen the trust and have photographs. I also know where a copy is located in his house, and the people that have copies. though I understand he thought a trust was a better option than a will, I honestly have no clue why he wasnt more specific in his trust. It very much worries me

bigblu89 posted...

When my parents passed back in 2020, me an my sister gained dual ownership of their house. The executor of their will, who also happened to be my uncle, worked with my parents lawyer to get all the paperwork together to transfer the deed to myself and my sister. We then sold the house.

sounds like your sister was pretty cooperative with the sale, did splitting it have any weird complications?

Tagging this topic for similar insight.
sorry and condolences TC. Hope this transition is going as easy as it can given the circumstances :C

Sorry, I misspoke. He does not have a will because he had a living trust, of which he was the trustee. Which made this family friend the trustee now that hes gone. Literally everything is in possession of this guy, and whatever he wants, he gets first- then it goes to me. There was the verbal and witnesses command of the house going to me, and I do feel like this guy is going to honor that (knock on fucking wood). From my understanding, that is the job of the executor (trustee), is to distribute assets in the manner the deceased wanted (like a lawyer would with a will).
All of this trust business is in order to be beneficial, from what I know, in that it skips probate cuz this dude is handling everything. I do not think I actually need to be present or even sign if he puts the deed in my name, as its an inheritance to an obvious heir. I am flying out tomorrow though cuz I want it done quickly so dude doesnt get any sneaky ideas.

bigblu89 posted...

There's a ton of information online that should give you whatever additional information you're curious about.

the problem here is that Im actually not finding the information on the thing I am ignorant about. I understand the choice of selling, the step-up basis from FMV to dictate the capital gains tax when I sell. I just dont necessarily know how the executor transfers it, and I only want to know that because it sounds like he doesnt know himself. I guess we obviously can consult an attorney but I think he has *just* enough knowledge that he isnt wanting to dish out on that. And Im broke as a mf. This trip is going to set me back so I can only hope the house doesnt need repairs so I can get it listed while Im there. :/

My dad passed yesterday. I was promised his house; he had a living will so now the trustee/executor or whatever has possession of everything. Im fairly certain he will do his duty of transferring the property to me. I live out of state though.
Not really asking any specific questions here I guess, just curious on experiences of others who had similar situations, or insights due to careers.

(PS, TIA for any condolences, I promise I am fine and dont need grieving advice or anything to do with the loss itself, just the inheritance situation)

Many people may not agree with this, but most people find a way to make things work in the situation theyre in. If you accidentally got your wife pregnant without having the means (essentially current situation) youd still do everything you could to give the kid a good life, and keep a roof over your head, even when its tough.
So I kind of agree there is no difference in that, and just purposely doing it. You will make it work; you want the kid and thus will do anything for it. I dont specifically see a problem here.
people can plan their whole lives, put money aside and save, own a house, and still never be ready. Or still be shitty parents. Conditions will never be ideal. Getting as close to comfortable is sometimes all you can do, and women have a biological clock unfortunately. Sometimes you gotta take risks to reach goals. Sometimes that responsibility for something else is the push that puts people into overdrive to improve their lives.
basically I would not judge you for this. The birth rate is plummeting due partially to people not thinking the economic conditions are not ideal. Its going to be like idiocracy soon where smart people stop having babies all together and its only people who genuinely dont give a fuck, have a religious agenda, or are too (insert adjective) to prevent accidental pregnancies.

Sajo posted...

That's a bomb-ass necklace. Do you normally wear stuff like that?

Thanks! I got it for my birthday a few yrs ago. Well, in a sense I do. Im just kind of more done up since that was at a con, but I do dress gothy, and almost always have cleavage showing + some sort of necklace. I dont think Ive ever just worn a corset casually tho, just for special occasions.

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everyone loves someone who is just so red in the face. Thats what happens to drunk white girls. if you know what the quote is from, you get extra credit.

Fucking La Vergne, TN
I am rollllingggg

Tyranthraxus posted...

They're identical so whatever STDs one has the other has as well.

Lololol this got me

PMarth2002 posted...

Assuming no STDs, the woman who's slept with 300 is probably better at sex, so her. If she's my age that only works out to about 1-2 a month since she was 18.

This. It doesnt list her age or when she lost her virginity. If she brought home a dude each weekend from the club from 18-24, shed be at that number. Thats about the age that people can be expected to have lots of random hookup. Sex is just a part of life- its a verb. It doesnt have to mean much more than that.
Hopefully with that number, shed know herself sexually- what she likes and doesnt, how to get there, have some amount of confidence. Those are all major issues women can face their whole lives that affect their sex life negatively. In fact I feel like this could make for a better partnership, cuz she wouldnt settle in a relationship that isnt truly good and founded in love, since she knows she can find others easily. AKA shes not desperate and willing to put up with an ill-fitting relationship. Saves a certain amount of heartbreak. Ive had an unfortunate amount of relationship end due to lack of sexual compatibility. Its not uncommon.

MegaTech posted...

Were totally smizing lol

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@MegaTech

me with my bf MegaChad (I wish) ((doesnt everybody)) (((he told me to hurry up and take the pic cuz hes a busy man )))

Thanks guys!

i love Costco muffins and they are an insane deal, just struggle getting through them all before they go bad. They also used to have more variety (I miss the lemon poppyseed ones so much). If you want to splurge, the take and bake Mac n cheese trays are so splendid but not a thing Id pay for on the regular.

Can anyone vouch for Costco (or sams club) brand TP? Ive been using the Great Value soft and strong from Walmart cuz Im cheap but I actually hate it. Id like to try one of these but because its such a. Bill buy, would be afraid to commit in case I dont like it.

Number090684 posted...

Yo the ladies look like fun. I'm jelly.

Same

mybbqrules posted...

Girl with the drink is getting her tits crushed by that top.

Hes not wrong hahaha dem corsets are intense. Got more comfy now
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Is megatech dead or just his career ?

I love it here

You here?

good on you, tc. speaking up is hard and I get it when you said you had to work up the courage to call it in- but that made a huge impact. we got to trust our gut.

CableZL posted...

The fridge is still on the side of the road. I wonder what happened to the dude

Nows your chance!

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Lol what loser would live with someone from the . Wait a minute

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Me too cuz n o one wants to pay for a solo Uber when they can split it

Crimsoness posted...

A switch meant something different when I was a kid ._.

That is why I felt the need to specify (;

Im the map Im the map Im the map Im the map
IM THE MAPPPP

See, everyone has it wrong. I only want the equivalent of the value of a Nintendo Switch gaming system unit

WingsOfGood posted...

sir

that is old song

did you not know

sir

new album is out

it is illegal

sir

to listen to old song atm

Ily

Corbenik posted...

Daff got us free drinks at the bar. She is very cool.

Anony1125 posted...

does she take venmo?

inloveanddeath0 posted...

It was supposed to be $500 I don't remember what about

i really dont know a single thing about what happened

Crimsoness posted...

Tell her you have a coupon.

Coupon! Im the coupon! (I miss the Andy Milonakis Show)