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Something not illegal would be great.
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The Man With The Plan

My ex-wife has taken the last of her stuff and I'm trying to get her out of my mind. But I've been with her so long that I don't really remember the way to go about it.

Can anyone give any advice?
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Anarchy_Juiblex posted...

Tandy posted...

Then one day she just tells me she wants a divorce and won't give me a reason why or gives short and minimal answers. Not even knowing what led to its deterioration is frustrating.

She was either cheating or has some idea in her head about sowing her wild oats with 30 approaching and having spent so much of her time with you.

Forget her, spend time working on yourself.

I'm really hoping this isn't the case.

Error1355 posted...

....really?

Yes, really. I'm trying to just get my thoughts out there.

voldothegr8 posted...

thronedfire2 posted...

I dont think either person in a marriage can just force a divorce to happen

It only takes one vote cast. You can not sign and try to fight it in divorce court but that's usually a waste of time and money.

That's money I don't have. I'm hoping to reconcile.
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MrPeppers posted...

Sounds like she found someone else. Thats usually the explanation for someone abruptly ending a relationship

I would be fine if it was just us drifting apart or something like that, but I can't deal with the mental image of her with someone else.
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Anarchy_Juiblex posted...

Tandy posted...

My wife filed for divorce and I'm just trying to figure out how to cope.

Why?
How long had you been together?
How old are you currently?

Been together since high school. 28 now.
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clearaflagrantj posted...

Tandy posted...

Anarchy_Juiblex posted...

Best of luck.
What happened?

My wife filed for divorce and I'm just trying to figure out how to cope.

Why

DarthWendy posted...

Well this doesn't usually happen out of nowhere.

It feels like it did though. We rarely fought, were passionate, and had a ton of fun together. Then one day she just tells me she wants a divorce and won't give me a reason why or gives short and minimal answers. Not even knowing what led to its deterioration is frustrating.
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Anarchy_Juiblex posted...

Best of luck.
What happened?

My wife filed for divorce and I'm just trying to figure out how to cope.
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I understand many people might not know what to say to these topics, hence the lite replies but thanks to anyone that reads them anyway.
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I wasn't expecting her and when I heard a knock on the door and saw it was her I thought that she had changed her mind and that we'd be able to fix this. Instead she had her brother with her and said she was here to get the last of her things. I tried to talk to her and she ignored me, and her brother said to just let her alone. She got her stuff and they were gone. I don't know if I'll ever see her again.
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Genocet_10-325 posted...

It gets better man. When my ex and I broke up after almost 4 years together I thought I'd never be happy again. Just avoid things that remind you of her like the plague for a while. It took me about 9 months to fully get over it but now I realize how much better my life is without that toxic relationship holding me back.

Everything reminds me of her. She has been a constant in my life since high school. It's driving me insane.
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I missed her. I tried hard not to, but she was on my mind each and every second of the day. I even made a topic on here trying to get some movie and tv recommendations but didn't have any luck being distracted.

Fireworks were going off and I thought about how we used to lay out a blanket and watch them together. I don't even know what she did for the 4th, maybe spent time with her family. I miss them too, they were a better family than mine ever was. I hope she's okay.

I'm sorry for ranting, but I really don't have much of a support system in terms of friends and family. Thanks to anyone that took the time to read this.
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Bump for more suggestions
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Solid Snake07 posted...

....do you not have any family or friends to enjoy your day off with?

The ex-wife and I moved across the country together...

Ivynn posted...

Tandy posted...

Any serious suggestions?

How is Brooklyn 99 not a serious suggestion

I didn't know that's what it was and thought someone was just posting a random clip. I'm sorry.
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Any serious suggestions?
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YoungMan posted...

Tandy posted...

Preferably something funny and minimal romantic aspects

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?

Probably the last thing I wanna watch tbh.
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I just have a lot of memories of falling in love and watching the fireworks around this time of year. I'm going to have to find some fun ways to distract myself. Anyone have any good recommendations of shows I can binge on Netflix? Preferably something funny and minimal romantic aspects.
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Thank you to everyone that gave advice. I'll keep it in mind.
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RainblowDash posted...

At least there arent any kids to share

I wish there were so I wouldn't feel so lonely.
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--Zero- posted...

You go out with friends or make some. Force yourself out of that usual comfort zone. Try to get laid as much as possible. It'll take some time, but you'll be alright. There was a time before her and there will be a time after.

You might need to talk it out too. So a shrink for a few months is a big healer.

I really appreciate the "time before, time after" saying. It calmed the nerves momentarily. Thank you.

1NfamousACE_2 posted...

Bro...you just out of a 10 year relationship with your high school sweetheart.

Don't look for another long term relationship. If something develops then thats what it is, but don't look.

I understand that. I just don't want to be alone right now. One of my big hopes and aspirations is to be a family man and I'm scared that this isn't going to happen now.

Asherlee10 posted...

I wouldn't even try dating yet, but that's just me. I don't know if this would work for you, but this is what I would do if I were wanting to try again after a long relationship:

- Focus more on friends, work, and hobbies
- Realign my budget to see all of my new found income!
- Get some new clothes and a haircut to make myself feel a little nicer
- Work out more

Then I would start to test out the dating pool. You'll need to handle some of your baggage before you start bringing people into your life. You can easily screw up potentially good relationships like this (even friendships). Confide in some friends if you can, or keep posting on CE. Ignore the obviously bad advice and consider what some of the rest have to say. Something will resonate from time to time.

Thank you for this advice. To put myself out there a little bit more, I don't have too many friends which is why I'm posting on here for a bunch of strangers, which feels weird, but actually is a little cathartic.

DarthGravid posted...

I'm here to listen, advise, and be a friend, if that's what you need.

Thank you for this. I may take you up on this in the near future.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Tinder.

I don't want to sound naive but isn't that geared towards hook ups? I'd like something long term.

Tyranthraxus posted...

I recommend buying a gallon of ice cream and eat the whole thing in one afternoon.

Oh, already done that. Working off the weight now.

NES4EVER posted...

Don't rush into a new relationship until you've dealt with all your feelings on this one.

I'm actually a little scared to confront the feelings, if I'm being totally honest.

Shinnokxz posted...

probably try not to dig into whether or not she was looking to or actively cheating on you, because the signs are there.

Sad_Face posted...

Do you find out what brought about her disinterest in the marriage?

I don't want to delve too far into it currently, but she wasn't the saint I thought she was.

FreshSushi posted...

have you tried being a man

This is something I am struggling with and have asked myself a similar question. I feel like I could have done more for her and I'm regretting that I didn't.
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Usually a lurker, but looking for some advice. My wife (...well, ex, still weird saying that) and I were together for 10 years, married for 2 of them. We were high school sweethearts and I thought we'd be together for the rest of our lives. I wanted to have kids and start a family with her. I began to feel her pull away and when I confronted her about it, my world came crashing down.

So now we're officially divorced, she rushed the paperwork and it was all said and done before I could really even come to terms with it. But I don't even know where to begin getting back "on the horse" so to speak about finding and meeting someone new. I've been out of the game for so long that I feel lost.

If anyone has any ideas, please post them below or PM me if you want. Thank you.
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weekoldhotdog posted...

I'm sorry for your pain and your loss, would you share why she came to this decision and how is it affecting you?

Thank you for saying that. I don't want to elaborate too much but she says that she wants to "find herself" since we have been together since we were teens. However, I feel like she is interested in one of the guys that started working with her not long before we started running into communication problems.

I feel hurt and betrayed and that I've wasted some of my better years on someone that has left me to rot.

Muffinz0rz posted...

you guys

it's a meme

Look, you don't have to believe me but I'm hurting right now.

Thank you all so much

Thank you to everyone that's posted videos so far. I promise to watch them all

InstaReturns posted...

Why?

I feel terrible right now. Please send some of your funniest youtube links to cheer me up. Thanks

Sparksfanboy posted...

Tandy posted...

I know this is the most popular board on the site.

It's not.

I was going by social boards

masticatingman posted...

Usually on Gamespot but account created in November months before the merger.

Suspect.

I said in the OP that I made an account here a few months ago. I'm not trying to hide that lol.

CapnMuffin posted...

Goke.

Goke who?

DevsBro posted...

Didn't you already make this topic?

I like this gimmick.

I'm not sure if you're thinking of someone else but I've never posted this.

CapnMuffin posted...

Tandy posted...

CapnMuffin posted...

Hi :)

Hey =)

What's up?

Not much. Wanna hear a knock knock joke?

Knock knock.

Who's there?

CapnMuffin posted...

Hi :)

Hey =)

What's up?

Bump?

wackyteen posted...

Gross, gamespot

I know. It's probably sacrilige around here to mention it. Just figured I'd be honest.

I made an account here a few months ago and wanted to make a post because I'm getting a bit sick of the other Gamespot users and I know this is the most popular board on the site.

How is everyone doing?