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Imagine shaking someone's hand even though they didn't wash?

It's not a good idea.

A lot of people (like the majority of the planet? lol) have a low tolerance for bugs and wildlife, so taking a girl who grew up in the city fishing could be bad.

I can speak from experience that when you go fishing there's a lot of opportunities to socialize but there's also a LOT of bugs and smashing fishes brains in that's completely unpleasant.

I think hes pretty misunderstood honestly.

I may not see eye to eye with him on a lot but that was totally not called for imo.

I would pay $2000 for this.

Getting achievements, even if they suck, is always a pretty exciting part in a game (if, a bit humorous at times)

I don't think it was an advance...

If he gave you his business card I think he was talk about just getting a client.

...What kind of torture?

Nvm I misread...

Genie though.

Make yourself worth more than 1 billion by making yourself infinitely more competent.

ASithLord7 posted...

ASithLord7 posted...

Wait why are people feeding tc? Did everyone forget him already?

Wait what? Do I know you?

I honestly don't want this to be about firing anyone as I had already stated.

It's an argument that went further than it should have which could probably be resolved in minutes.

Looked gf posted...

What year is this

lol

Duwstai posted...

I hate topics like this. Just grow and backbone and say no.

I'm sorry if I offended you with my topic. It is a difficult situation for me because I am supporting one friend as well and I am very reliant on this job I don't want to make a mistake and lose it but I don't want to get anyone fired either.

Grabbing a girl around the waist is pretty standard for dancing... Didn't the girls say something like we can dance but don't touch me? Who does that...

I hope they don't make these for guys because a lot of girls may get in trouble then too.

Granted there were some not okay moments when the girl was just trying to get through a crowd of people and the guys were very touchey... New York public transportation is not all that different lol

Flockaveli posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

SophieLuvsTofu posted...

It's weird I agree but I think you need to view the term from simply a 'dominant' perspective

Would you call a dominant woman "mommy"?

Thats pretty big in Hispanics.

Oye mami, or hey mamacita.

Oh good point!

CircleOfManias posted...

SophieLuvsTofu posted...

It's weird I agree but I think you need to view the term from simply a 'dominant' perspective

Would you call a dominant woman "mommy"?

Well moms are, culturally, viewed to be caring and nurturing (in large because of the whole 9 month bond) so the term doesn't carry over well.

But either one like I said is very strange IMO lol

I think it's a dom/sub cultural thing.

Like when guys own in videogames and they say "whose your daddy" or "call me daddy".

It's weird I agree but I think you need to view the term from simply a 'dominant' perspective

Giant_Aspirin posted...

if you were somehow able to "live off of the land" and were self-sufficient, do you think you could keep yourself alive (water, food, shelter, etc) working less than 40 hours/week?

This is actually a really deep question.

Short answer is no I think.

Food is just a small portion of it, imagine having to build your own transportation, cell phone, electricity, wind, etc.

Capitalism is actually pretty cool from that angle. Great question!

clearaflagrantj posted...

SophieLuvsTofu posted...

I think I will do this.

I don't think there's an easy way out of this besides this. I'm also kinda hoping it resolves itself but... lol.

There isn't an easy solution out of this, just remember the only facts that matter:

1. Everyone is potentially out to get you.
2. The only person that matters is you, don't stick your neck out for anyone.

...That's a bit cynical. Not sure if I share the same perspective, but I think I understand your message (better safe than sorry?), thanks!

ChouBF posted...

SophieLuvsTofu posted...

He regularly picks on people, including myself, pulls pranks, teases, takes my food with his already-used utensils etc

I can live with the rest, but you don't take people's fucking food unless they offer it.

In all fairness this one is my fault. He wouldn't do that if I didn't tell him how much it bothered me.

He's the kind if you say "I hate pirates" he would come dressed in as a pirate the next day. Not literally but you get what I mean?

Smashingpmkns posted...

You should tell your manager that you don't feel comfortable getting yourself involved and leave it at that. If it persists then go to HR over the manager.

clearaflagrantj posted...

If you live in a state with one party consent for recording, record everything. Tell your manager you won't be compelled to report your coworker, if he pushes back go to HR.

Document everything to protect yourself, starting now.

I think I will do this.

I don't think there's an easy way out of this besides this. I'm also kinda hoping it resolves itself but... lol.

BuckVanHammer posted...

Id just stay out of it

If anything i'd go to hr about your manager.
The shit your coworker does sounds like it could be settled without any outside involvement.

Replying to your edit:

It can be, and that's what I'm hoping for.

It's not that serious, it's just a bit annoying at times. Like he wouldn't take my food if he didn't figure out I have a mini-trauma against that. I don't think his intention is to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

voldothegr8 posted...

Whether the manager is asking you to do it for his personal beef or not, the employee sounds like a asshole and should be reported regardless.

I think he's actually pretty nice.

He has this 'image' he keeps up with at work but I don't think that's any reflection of what he actually is. I don't want to report him. It's complicated I get it, but he should not be reported for harassment when he's been doing this for years and no one complained about it.

CuteWhiteChick posted...

stay out of it, your manager is exceeding his authority by asking you that. his area is your field of work, not hr shit.

Yeah I get that, but I can't just tell my manager 'no'. He is why I have a job. I hope you understand my angle. I mean technically I guess I can but I can't imagine he would just be like "oh okay, yeah I understand, don't worry about it." Maybe there is a way to say no without it seeming like I am taking sides?

I am trying to stay out of it but it is tough if your manager is the one involving you.

I don't want to complain against anyone I just want it to stop.

I work in one of those places where everyone is closely together.

So the manager, and coworker, are both very close friend. Or at least, they used to be.

So apparently when they went out to happy hour something really happened to drive a wedge because they no longer talk and when they do it is argue. It's creating toxic bubbles all over office space.

The thing is coworker is normally a bit...outgoing? He regularly picks on people, including myself, pulls pranks, teases, takes my food with his already-used utensils etc. I am especially prone because I am one of the newest hires. That can be grounding for inappropriate behavior, which is what my manager is ask me to file.

But I don't want to complain against my coworker just because of a happy hour fight. Not sure how to get out of this one but I am open to idea. This has been going on for about a week already so I think it will not end.

I like TC.

Don't know you well but just based on your introductory/follow up posts, you seem like a good person.

You also have one trait that's rare...self-reflect.

This was my parents' reaction when I turned 16 lol

Ninja: Congrats

All I can say is people change..

I have been with someone who has done time and he was an amazing human being.

Am I being detained or am I free to go?

You are entitled to your own opinion...

Its just if it's offensive you shouldn't vocalize it

For those who say none:

Why post here then?

Everyone. We're a community posting on the same message board in the same topic directory topic.

That's a bit much of a coincidence. lol

It does not have to be.

Both sides can agree with minimal fee for divorce and settle in peace and love (not to complicate).

Tough to say lol

"The love interest who is also the best healer"

Ain't that convenient lol

The thank you letters are to show gratitude.

You know when you're in a relationship and spend all day cooking a meal or preparing the perfect setting? Only to hear the other person say "work sucked hey did you work on fixing xyz"?

It's good to be shown that you are appreciated and to receive thanks from someone you don't even know is very powerful.

I think you need to reflect more on the positive and not let the bad outweigh the good.

You are very lucky to be alive in 2018!

I mean TC is exaggerating a bit but I think his point is valid.

Coming into the interview we are always told expectations are lower, then we come in, and we realize we have to either put in insane hours or be a nanny daycare.

I mean you're right.

I encourage you to check out some tidbits about veganism and see if it's for you:
https://www.vegansociety.com/go-vegan/how-go-vegan

It's a tough journey but a very rewarding one.

They recommend spending time with some animals to remind you of how important your choice is.

You would lose federal protection and throw your land into chaosy state

I'm a little upset by the fact that we went from mario and Nintendo-esque games to CoD shooters and whatnot lol

With that said I was a massive winner in Call of Duty but hey.

Cant you just make a new folder and name it something unsuspicious like "system files" or whatever?

Not that I see the sense in what you're doing - if you're giving someone rights to your phone you shouldn't be hiding anything. That's what relationship founding on.

What the hay, no lol

I'm assuming the bear because they're usually brownish.

PogonaVitticeps posted...

Flockaveli posted...

All Day I SMH

DoGCyN posted...

A Poster ITT

SophieLuvsTofu posted...

Favorite Poster and Best Friend.

Done.

Lol you're nice...thanks.

Favorite Poster and Best Friend.

Are we counting iced coffees?

I think they have less caffeine but I try to drink some hot or cold coffee.

I don't keep an eye out for the intake. There will be days I do three others I do one/none.