Lurker > TheGuiltySpark

Just crazy white people doing crazy white people things.

Let 'em troll up if it keeps them from turning that weirdness onto others. Carry on.

If I read like I used to in my elementary through high school years, I was knocking out at least 30. I try for around 10, usually read about 7-8 nowadays though.

Chewster posted...

I have several questions:

- How long have you known her?
- Have you seriously been waiting this whole time for her to become available?
- Do you really want to date somebody who has a kid?
- Do you really think there isn't anybody else out there?

And that's not getting into how tacky the whole situation is. There are other girls out there for you. And if you don't believe that to be true, then you shouldn't be trying to date anybody, including her, until you fix whatever is wrong with yourself that makes you undatable.

Known her about 6 1/2 years. more than an acquaintance, less than a good friend. We hung out in the same social circles.
No, I haven't been waiting for her specifically. She was never available when we hung out, so I never tried. We're both a little older, even if I don't date her then it's still a 50/50 that any woman I try to date has a kid if not multiple. It's not that I don't think there's anyone else out there, it's just that I'm now busy with a career and building a life. I don't have all the time in the world to do a lot of first dates and weeding through potential candidates. I know her and her personality, and she's always been a really loyal person with a good heart.

To let someone grieve?

A girl I had a big crush on in high school just posted on social media that her boyfriend died yesterday. They'd been dating for like 5 years and have 1 kid. I know there's gonna be a extended period where she's going to mourn pretty heavily and not want to have anything to do with anyone except her family for a while, but eventually she is going to want companionship again, right? What's an acceptable amount of time before trying to throw my hat in the ring? 3-4 months? Anyone with any experience on this your input is appreciated!