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Hurt my ankle so no running for me for a while. Can still walk on it and do other things, at least. Might finally get more into weight lifting because I don't think I'm built for running. Still got about 30lbs to lose, so I might just focus on getting that fat off and seeing how running goes after that. I love running so much though. Legit better than therapy for me tbh.

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I watched the entire show and enjoyed much of that experience but it is ultimately something that contributed greatly to me no longer watching more realistic dramas. If I could go back and unwatch it, I would.

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I went from at least 370 to 220 (at 5'10") in about three years, so this is advice from the perspective of a super morbidly obese person with binge eating disorder and some of it may not be applicable to your goals.

Use a search engine to find a total daily energy expenditure calculator and figure out your maintenance calories. You can also use something like cronometer or myfitnesspal. I use cronometer.

Whichever you choose, it should give you options for a deficit that will enable you to lose a certain amount of weight in a certain amount of time. Choose something moderate. Shoot for .5 to 1lb of weight loss a week. This will give you a lot of wiggle room so you don't feel like you're starving or being too strict but you'll still get some results. This will also take some pressure off the desire to say fuck it and grab all the goodies.

Get a food scale and weigh everything. Track every last calorie that goes into your body as thoroughly and honestly as you possibly can. Weigh out your food using grams and compare it to what the food label says; sometimes they're not as accurate as their servings suggest. For fresh produce or other items without labels, look over difference sources online. Even if you use something like cronometer or MFP, double check the items using a search engine.

Don't eat so much processed or refined food, instead focusing on whole foods, particularly plants. You don't have to be perfect at this or cut out everything you love but you probably will have to make some adjustments. If you have something like rice or pasta, make sure to load up with vegetables and get a nice balance of healthy fat and protein in every meal. Eat high volume, low calorie density foods.

Go easy with the oil. It's calorie dense and very easy to overuse. I personally do not cook with it very much, though I do have the occasional fried dish or junk food that has it.

Stay hydrated. Hunger and thirst are often confused. Don't drink your calories. Soda, sweet tea, sweetened coffee, whatever it is will load you up with empty calories. Learn to love plain water and unsweetened drinks.

If possible, just cook enough for yourself. When I first started out, I tried to do batch cooking and meal prep, only to end up eating through everything in a day or two. Cooking enough for one meal at a time, if feasible, cuts down on that.

I eat two big meals a day, usually lunch and dinner. These are big, filling, nutritionally well-rounded meals that give me the strongest sense of satiety that I'm capable of. I'm not disgustingly full but I'm also not unsatisfied, like a regular sized meal would leave me, nor am I opening myself up to grazing and bingeing like multiple smaller meals does. This is kind of a floating intermittent fasting. I don't keep a solid schedule on it but it still helps a lot.

Exercise regularly. Even something as simple as a brisk 30 minute walk every day can help. Find some calisthenics or aerobics videos to follow on youtube. Do NOT eat your calories back. If you're ravenous after exercise, have a light snack of fruit or something. I personally plan my first meal of the day after exercise. It kind of super charges the filling effect of the large meal because I'm so hungry. Instead of wanting to overeat or binge, like one would expect, I'm actually quite full.

Whatever you do, do not put any stock in the number of calories burned on a treadmill or other equipment, even something like a FitBit. Do not google "how many calories did my walk burn?" and go by that. The amount of calories burned, especially when going by devices, is so wildly varying and prone to abuse and error that it cannot be a reliable indicator of how much you consume. Do not ever, at any point, assume you've burned anything close to what you're purported to have with the express intent of using that number to justify eating all of those calories back. You might be able to get away with it if you're extremely overweight and any deficit will help you, like I was in the beginning, but it will stall you out eventually. Focus on the amount going in and consider the outgoing to be lost in the ether.

Practice mindfulness, especially during the act of eating. Eat slowly, appreciate your food. Don't eat while watching TV or whatever. Sit down at a table, if possible, and think about every bite and what it does for you. Contemplate what junk food gives you. Is a fleeting moment of gustatory pleasure worth any ill effects that will follow? When you feel the urge to overeat, really sit with that feeling and analyze it. Contemplate your surroundings, the kind of day you had, what you could possibly do instead of eating, and your emotional state. One of the best tools I've implemented is HALT - Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. This was for alcoholism but it also helps with over/binge eating it. My biggest thing is making bad choices when I'm sleepy, so I'm especially vigilant about avoiding night time triggers.

Pick a small amount of time, maybe two or three weeks, to be as consistent as you possibly can. When that's over, stick to your maintenance calories. Do not fall into the trap of thinking you have to be restricting calories enough to lose as much weight as possible as soon as possible or overeating. There's a rich middle ground between the two where you will continue to develop and sharpen good habits to keep the weight off.

Finally, if you have problems with emotional eating or an eating disorder, talk to a mental health professional. All the tips in the world can't help you if you're not capable of implementing them. A seemingly unrelated trip foray into Alcoholics Anonymous actually helped me quite a bit, although therapy was important as well because my BED is a direct result of childhood trauma. Look into online support groups. Reddit has some good communities for all levels of weight loss and fitness goals.

I know this seems like a lot but you didn't get to this point overnight and you will not fix it overnight. However, if you start with a modest goal, eliminate bad habits, replace them with good ones, and stay patient and diligent, you can turn things around.

Good luck. Feel free to message me if you need any support.

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I never agreed to those terms.

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I can't celebrate his death when his life's work and the grave consequences of it will continue to haunt us long after he's in the ground.

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Meh. He did a lot of damage in his lifetime, so much that I can't care either way about this.

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ZannoL posted...

Congrats, dude.

Thank you!

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Yes but I've come a very long way in rectifying that. About 20 more pounds to go and I'll be simply overweight. Woohoo.

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The people perpetuating this lie do not deserve to live freely. The people who caused this disaster do not deserve to live at all.

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I've lost a lot of weight recently and have a lot of fat people in my life asking for advice. When I tell them what it is, they either lose interest immediately or go along with it with like 30% compliance. When they complain to me that it's not working and I tell them why, they get all huffy and combative.

These are people I've known my whole life and have love and affection for, and I want to just yell at them and tell them to fuck off. There's no way I could deal with this kind of bullshit on any professional level, especially if it's a more immediate matter of life and death.

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It's pretty shitty but I'm doing okay.

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I've had a total of 5 hours of electricity since 12Am Monday. This is the first time it's come back with internet service. I've had to keep the water running on everything to keep the pipes from freezing, and I did that from the beginning thinking that I was being paranoid. I'm one of only three people on the block who has water at all now. Everyone else left only the faucets on the interior walls running, which has historically been enough, and they're all frozen now.

Everyone has generators but probably only enough gas to last another day.

The only reason I'm relatively comfortable is because I have a gas fireplace and no kids but between the having to run the water and running this gas fireplace, I'm gonna have some hefty bills I'm not really in a position to cover. The only good thing about the water is that I'm filling up containers to share with the neighbors, so at least it's not just all going down the drain.

I was cooking on the grill but the propane tank emptied and tried as I could to get some before this, stores around me have been out for weeks. I have a bag of charcoal in the garage but I decided to do some batch cooking in the hours I've been able to use my electric range (which will be replaced with gas after this, something I was mulling over but putting off).

I've been pretty good about prepping in recent times, so I am able to take this hit but I fucking hate the cold. It was 30F in one of the upstairs bedrooms. Like I said, I have no kids and it's just me, so it's not been a big deal. I can't imagine the people trying to keep their families going through this.

I've been getting anywhere from 30 to 90 minutes of power at a time, so I'll probably be getting cut off again soon. I'll try to provide some more updates when the power comes back again. I'm not wasting my precious phone battery on gamefaqs lol >_>

Also, I live by a firehouse and there has been a pretty steady stream of emergency vehicles rolling out. I also live right next to a busy intersection and occasionally hear fender benders. Fortunately there hasn't been anything bad there. People seem to be pretty good about staying off the roads through this, which is surprising.

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HAES is a death cult.

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Genuine physical attraction, complementary personalities, spiritual/emotional connection, convenience, desperation, fetishism, poor mental health, or perhaps a combination.


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Two or three people, I think.

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Blue_Inigo posted...

.....What if you had smooth feet without blisters or calluses?

I walk and run a lot. Even with the good socks and properly fitting shoes, I got some level of blistering, particularly on my pinky toes and big toes. It's unavoidable, and the only thing that enables me to be as active as I need to is to let them get callused and stay that way. I did this little moisturizing thing once because my feet do admittedly look gross as fuck but I knew it was a huge mistake when I went for a run the next day and one of the calluses buckled. It was a swollen, painful mess by the end of the hour and I was like, nah not worth it.

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Blue_Inigo posted...

Clean your feet bruh

I do. I just don't moisturize them. If I mess up the calluses, it starts the blistering process all over again.

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I was really disappointed the first time I had Coors Banquet. The packaging made me think of Famous Amos cookies, so I guess I expected it to taste like those even though I knew it wouldn't.

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I'd maybe try some hotter varieties but ghost pepper is as hot as I'm willing to go. It also has a really good flavor. My everyday spice application usually comes from jalapenos, serranos, and chiles de arbol though.

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Can't moisturize them. Disrupts important protective calluses.

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The only ramen I eat these days is the Koyo brand line.

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I'm indifferent to it, though I'll match my partner's energy if they're into it.

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Antifar posted...

Don't mourn, organize. I've found getting involved in a local socialist organization to be a helpful antidote to feelings of helplessness and nihilism over the last few years.

Ace response.

I'm not particularly bothered by the acquittal (it's bullshit but expected, of course) but I am kind of bogged down by seeing all the people who are starting to realize what a farce things are and taking it really hard. It's understandable of course but I'm trying to corral them and get them to put the energy to good use. I'm not good at that though <_<

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What advice to you have for those out there who are upset and demoralized by the latest impeachment trial?

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shockthemonkey posted...

The Patty Cycle:
I love LGBTQ people
I am a LGBTQ person
I hate LGBTQ people
Im in purgatory

This also includes trolling about the Pulse shooting a few days after it happened.

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Yes.

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CanuckCowboy posted...

What could possibly be the point in a statement which confirms or denies nothing and takes no sides? What information would that even provide anyone?'

You're misunderstanding. People want Boreanaz and Hannigan to come out and back the others up, even if though their experiences might not match. They don't have to do that, nor do they necessarily have to come out and support Whedon. It's not just about nailing or absolving Whedon but deconstructing yet another toxic show biz environment and there is no valueless input when it comes to that.

Speaking up gives a better picture of how and why he chose to victimize some while others were spared, as well as how he got away with it under the noses of so many, especially the marquee names. If someone doesn't know anything, that's fine. Let people know that they weren't aware and simply choosing not to stop it, because after all the things we've confirmed in recent years about depravity in show business, that's not at all outside of the realm of possibility.

Considering that silence above everything else is what has enabled/ignored/protected these people for decades, nobody really gets the luxury of staying quiet anymore. It might not be fair, it might not be easy to speak out, but it's the right thing to do, and I speak from personal experience as a victim of and whistleblower in abuse situations.

I can't imagine being so intimately related to a scandal like this and having absolutely nothing to say. Doesn't necessarily suggest complicity but I don't think it suggests anything good, either, for anyone.


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pinky0926 posted...

I honestly find it weird that people feel entitled to a statement from someone peripherally involved without any knowledge of the situation.

Like I get the anger at the situation, but not the expectation that everyone needs to make a statement otherwise it means complicity.

Why? This is an industry rife with countless victims of all kinds of abuse in situations that have frequently been considered the "worst kept secrets" by people in and outside of it. All of it was enabled by silence, so it's not a great look when people have nothing to say. They don't even have to confirm or deny anything, or take sides. Just a simple statement to get a better picture of the situation goes a long way.

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electricbugs2 posted...

Lol the way people in the south react to snow is adorable. 5 inches lmfao. Try talking to me when you hit -5 and a foot of the stuff.

I feel the same way when people up north start baking in their apartments when it's only 95F.

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IfGodCouldDie posted...

I mean if thats your take away from it I feel like that might be a you problem.

What is the takeaway? Walk me through your process here.

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That's some water.

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GallisOTK posted...

Republicans are the biggest threat to this country since the Cold War

They've easily eclipsed the Soviets by this point.

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Developing a crush on someone for voicing 10 year old girls in cartoons is kinda weird.

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KlRBEH posted...

wtf this is cool

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TommyG663513 posted...

Well we can't just hand wave this with white privilege. Even old white men can get brutalized by the police and not receive justice.

Think bigger: even white privilege didn't help an old, white man... who was protesting police brutality against black people.


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About what?

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Steve Carell

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I like that bike.

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I use it to video chat with friends on weekends. I don't know how to use it beyond that.

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She intentionally got herself axed.

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goldenBoi45 posted...

Lol yeah, that's something people say to someone who isn't good at something. I'm pretty awesome at comedy and know that so, nice try I guess?

I get it though, you wish ill will on anyone who doesn't think the way you do. It's pretty common these days. Being good at something yourself usually helps, you should work on that

You're getting a little too defensive for my tastes. You're trying to be a comedian. Stick to that instead of playing life coach with strangers on the internet, okay?

Anyway, I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt and get a better understanding of where you're coming from with this little whine about how stifled you are here instead of just assuming the worst like others have. I sincerely regret taking you seriously and will no longer respond to you.

Good luck with wherever life takes you.


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gross

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Heavy_D_Forever posted...

Imagine glorifying a man with hideous face tattoos to an audience full of young children.

Not really a big deal. They already glorify animal cruelty.

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Somewhere between every 1 to 2 weeks in the cooler months. Once a week in the summer, sometimes more frequently.

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lilORANG posted...

I'm a Missourian who will vote for basically any dem over Blunt, but I will say to Blunt's credit, when i call his office, I get a prompt reply and on one occasion actually received a call from him personally. I expressed my support for legislation he opposed, he was nice, and he thanked me for being engaged and that was that. As opposed to Hawley's office who sends me to robo-answer and I never get a reply.

So basically Blunt did attempt to act like he cares, which is more than most senate Republicans.

Wow. Every last GOP politician can fuck off but that's surprising.

I had a spat a while back with someone who griped at me for not contacting my senators (Cruz and Cornyn) because things would never change if we're silent. I had to explain that it was pointless because back when I used to, not only did I get boilerplate responses, I got boilerplate responses for people who agree with them. There was no acknowledgement whatsoever that I was voicing dissatisfaction.

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I got my sinus issue cleared up and started running again but now it's too cold this week, so I'm taking another break. I've been compensating with extended calisthenics routines that are really pushing me at the end. Still not the same as getting outside for a full run but it is (hopefully) keeping me burning enough to keep losing weight, which brings me to another annoyance.

I'm having a bit of an issue switching from calorie restriction for weight loss to increased activity after three years of that. I've reached my lower limit that lets me maintain a full day of activity but I've gotten so used to these huge (but safe/sustainable for my previous weight) calorie deficits and just lowering calories when it was time to lose more weight.

Now, if I don't exercise, I don't lose weight and it takes a bit more effort (for me, anyway) to maintain exercise routines than to simply modify diet. Not eating shit or eating too much is so easy now. Having to settle for less than ideal exercise, especially when the mental component is as important as the physical, is trying. I enjoy running so much and have no problem getting out there. It's a real pick me up and for a bit was the cornerstone of my COVID-19 coping system.

Fortunately, it will be spring soon and I can really kick things into gear but the rest of winter is gonna be a slog.

Anyway, still way better than being the near 400lb immobile blob I was, so I'll quit bitching.

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goldenBoi45 posted...

Lol whoosh

Also I get money to do comedy. Could care less what this board thinks of me or about getting a netflix special. I just thought the video was funny and accurate. Please remain mad though

Don't quit your day job.

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