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Right now, 0. I need to be wfh full time because I dont want to put my baby in daycare if I can help it. Maybe when shes older and benefits from socializing but shes way too little rn. After that, 3 days a week tops.

Huh not sure why you got offended at that but ok. Didnt meant to come off as judgmental. Im well aware that parents are able to safely cosleep. But they usually advocate for things like no blankets or pillows, etc. for the reasons I mentioned above.

And my daughter is getting her vaccines per schedule.

But Ive had my feelings that most of what you post is bullshit for some time now. Have at it.

_BlueMonk posted...

and i think thats fair. i think its about risk, and not what doctors make it seem like it is.

healthy baby, no complications, full term, etc. little risk.

other people can't say the same, so yeah be cautious

but its not like babies will instrictively grab a pillow in their sleep and smother themselves to death

Has nothing to do with how healthy your baby is. Infants arent able to move something thats suffocating them, like a blanket for example. They arent able to roll out of the way of things. Also parents can and do roll on top of their babies. There are ways to make co sleeping safer from what I understand. But again has nothing to do with healthy baby or not.

I have that same snuggle me. My baby hated it. I only used it for naps though. Its meant for supervised sleep only. There is still a risk a baby can move to the side and suffocate.

I know there are lots of parents that advocate for safe co sleeping but I just couldnt risk it. I just always made sure that as soon as she fell asleep she was down in her bassinet so she didnt get too used to my arms. We do have contact naps here and there but generally shes laid down to sleep somewhere safe.

Of course not. My husband had a say in every decision. Sure he didnt want a big wedding at all but he wanted me to be happy. But we picked out everything together except for decor and stuff where he just didnt care. His family loved our wedding so much, they still talk about it to this day and my husband is really happy we went through with it and made it memorable for them.

No, Ive been struggling with how I look lately. Trying to work on it and be kinder to myself but I have days where its really hard to cope.

_BlueMonk posted...

can't wait to see how CE defends this.

What did I defend exactly? I just think the focus should be on the employees who are fighting to be heard. In the first one, she doesnt name anyone just makes statements from years ago. Could be true or not. But I feel like it detracts from the real issues going on now.

I hope the employees continue to fight this. This isnt isolated to games. Ive had a creepy old man rub my shoulders at my desk at some small company. Ive had clients joke about dating me or joke about having me sit on their laps while on business trips with my colleagues, who sat there and laughed about it. Ive had male colleagues be given more resources and training while I had user manuals to read. Ive been passed up for promotions in favor of white men who did not perform better than me. I was denied a promotion for being pregnant though I cannot prove it with how the system is set up now.

People are just pointing fingers at Blizzard but its everywhere and there needs to be meaningful change.

The first one is a bit of a toss up. Im sure it happened. But she didnt report it until 2 years later and doesnt name who she actually spoke to.

The second one, while creepy af, had swift action taken as soon as it was found out.

It feels like people are looking to get their 15 min of fame. The real issue is about the systematic sexual harassment and discrimination against employees at the company that HR allowed to continue. Both women and men have been victims. It just feels like the media is digging for whatever and some people just want to jump on the bandwagon.

JustMyOpinion posted...

About a week ago I made the mistake of putting my info on lendingtree.com. I get like half a dozen calls a day from rocket mortgage and other lenders showing up under my now blocked numbers. I assumed lendingtree was safe. I was wrong.

I think my husband did something similar though he says he doesnt remember using my phone number. Im even getting calls where they ask for him by name. A couple have flat out hung up on me when I answered. I think because they expect a man to answer. Its strange.

Zeeak4444 posted...

ya super smart tbh, I was just discussing that with a buddy. Its a good revenue stream for the work it entails. Best of luck hope it works out well!

Thanks! My husband is very handy and will be able to fix things up for tenants. It just seems like a good market for it.

Zeeak4444 posted...

I filled out my app today, looks like Ive got some calls to look forward to >.>

what made you refinance if you dont mind me asking?

Enjoy lol

Were doing a cash out refinance to tap into the equity of our house. The goal is to use the cash to buy another house and put this one up for rent. Weve done the math and with the lower interest rates, current rent prices, etc, this house will just pay for itself.

No_U_L7 posted...

Same happened to me last week lmao

Good news is I got a 2.25% interest rate with 0 points

Nice! Im expecting it will be a bit higher than that since its a refinance but I hope its less than 3.

When did the calls stop?

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Shit after posting this I remembered my husband filled out those online applications too hoping to find a rate but I think it just sold off our info

Its only damage control since he only issued the email after the employees talked about a walk out.

My husband put in our application to a refinance yesterday. Suddenly Im being spammed by multiple lenders. Mostly calls but also some texts and emails. I have no idea where they got my info. We used the same lender we used when we first bought our home. Do they just sell off your information after? For some reason theyre calling me and not my husband when he is the one who did the application. Ive received 9 calls today alone. Im beyond annoyed.

I support this as I have for the reverse situation. While Kelly Clarkson makes a lot of money, theres no saying in what ways her spouse contributed in order to help support her and her earnings.

My entire labor experience, from shoving a foley bulb into my fully closed cervix to induce labor, to the horrible contractions that felt like my insides were being ripped apart, to my doctor shoving his hands up my still bleeding and sore cervix to forcibly break my water. All the while getting antibiotics in my arm that felt like it was burning the entire time. Then the recovery from my c section where I could barely move or breathe without intense pain. But heres a baby to try and breastfeed right after all that trauma kthxbye

Id make a fine man

Its horrible. But its not just Blizzard. This is every company thats male dominated. Ive had multiple instances of discrimination and sexual harassment at work. HR never does anything but try to sweep things under a rug so they dont have to deal with any of it. Women who speak out become a problem to the company no matter what their handbook or shit training says. I think we will just keep seeing more and more of these in the news.

Id want to know why he missed several work trips before. Sounds like if he had attended them, he might have been able to skip this one. The question is, was it his or her decision to skip the other trips?

Well everything seems fine, my doc just thinks its my PCOS and my hormones are being whacky. Cleared to continue exercise. Im down 4 lbs since I started this topic a week ago. Although I still look the same so I think its just water.

Zodd3224 posted...

Oof.

Try not to get too discouraged. See what the doctor says and get back I'm the zone.

Thank you. Hoping its just my hormones being whacky and nothing more.

Seeing my doctor in the morning. Felt worse today. Like just drained of all energy as well as still crampy. Havent really exercised and just ate whatever but just not much of an appetite anyway.

I did order some new clothes that were a bigger size. Everything was still too small even though I ordered 2 sizes bigger than usual. Felt pretty shitty about it. I dont have any clothes that fit me and its summer.

Congrats! If you want the second one more just email/call and tell them you have an offer in hand and ask if they could update you sooner.

Lorenzo_2003 posted...

What were you expecting the male coworkers to do?

I wasnt expecting them to do anything. I was expecting them NOT to sit there and laugh at that kind of shit like it was fucking hilarious.

Its true. Glad theyre finally being called out on it.

Im glad they are being called out for this shit finally. I have sources that have confirmed rampant sexual harassment and discrimination there. To the point they quit because HR wouldnt do anything about it and just made it out like they were the ones causing issues.

I hope this trend of exposing these companies continues. I used to be an engineer as well and faced rampant sexual harassment. I had a client joke that I should sit on his lap while we were at a work lunch, in front of my male coworkers who sat by and chuckled at it. Its like its expected that women should just accept it and it needs to end.

Im not in pharmacy but my whole team quit recently. We had merged with another company last year and of course they floated how great things would be, promised new systems that would lighten our loads, automation, etc. Instead created convoluted and backassward processes that made ours jobs much harder to do while also tripling our workloads.

Im one of the few remaining from the original company within our org, the very last on my team. Supposed to be returning in September but jokes on them I already accepted a new offer and Im not telling them shit until my leave is almost over.

$150k is perfectly fine to buy a $500k condo and the occasional fancy watch. I never got the impression No U was some super high roller. You can buy a house for like 5% down. I dont see how its so unbelievable

I havent watched that but I watched Bling Empire and Selling Sunset and came out feeling the same lol

Very and Im pretty much constantly looking to keep making more or building wealth. Financial security is important and also being able to set up our daughter as best as possible. I like being able to live a little luxuriously and travel too.

No_U_L7 posted...

thanks!

worst case, it sounds like your current house is p good. just looking to upgrade?

Yeah we love our house. It just has a pretty small yard and Id like something bigger and with a pool now that we have a kid. Not in any rush though. Im fine waiting a few years even but with how low interest rates are were just passively looking.

Congrats and nice going on the negotiation

We went to look at a couple of houses yesterday. We really loved one but we found out they already had 11 offers over the weekend and already accepted one lol

R1masher posted...

neat, its crazy how many people I know or my wife knows that never had their shit together growing up now have realtor licenses

Im not sure Id want to be a realtor in this market. So much competition and crazy hours. Sounds stressful af

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Were looking at doing a cash out refinance since the value of our house went up so much. Then we could rent it out and break even on it since rent went up. Were unsure if we should try and buy a new house at the same time or just rent somewhere, lay low and buy when the market settles. But it would mean higher interest rates so were unsure.

No but my husband has been.

It feels like an alien inside you. Feeling kicks and squirming, etc, especially in the later months. Near the end it looked like I had a chest burster inside of me, I could pull my shirt up and show people her squirming across my belly. It gets extremely uncomfortable in the last weeks.

And yeah pregnancy in general is terrible

R1masher posted...

Howd you settle on a realtor?

We used Redfin when buying our first house and he was assigned to us. He was great so were working with him again through Redfin.

I say buy it and then ideally you could save enough to buy a house in the future and rent out the condo.

It got 11 offers already. It was on the market 4 days. Totally bonkers. Our realtor said the trend is to list a house on a Friday, have folks come in during the weekend and then review/accept offers by Monday or Tuesday.

We are only passively looking anyway but it was a stunning house. My friend has put 3 offers on homes that have each been outbid. I wonder how long this trend will continue?

Zodd3224 posted...

That sucks. How long ago did you give birth?

Its been 3 months. I had thought I would be fine now. But the spotting started right when I started adding more intensity to my exercising. Could also be hormonal because my hair started shedding too and that happens a few months postpartum when hormones get all whacky. Just need to check with my doc.

Can this topic not turn into some debate of the diets? I think people should just stick to what works for them. Veganism isnt for me but I fully appreciate that it works for others. In any case, Id like to keep this topic positive.

Yesterday I didnt workout at all and also ate like crap. Was just out and about all day and we hit up a place we love that we hadnt been to since the pandemic. But I made sure to eat carefully the rest of the day.

I may have to step away from exercising or tone it down. I am experiencing some cramping and spotting even though Im 2 weeks away from my period. Need to call my doctor about it. I did have a c section 3 months ago but maybe Im not ready for this level of exercising and I may just stick to walking and something lighter.

MrPeppers posted...

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this was 7 weeks EGA. Im an OBGYN and it is kind of ludicrous to demand pregnancy accommodations at 7 weeks, although you would hope an employer would work with you. The most common cause of early pregnancy loss, especially the mid first trimester (about 1-2 weeks after people find out theyre pregnant much like this woman), is due to a genetic anomaly associated with the pregnancy

Why should it be ludicrous? Its ludicrous that its not a given, especially in the first trimester when the rate of miscarriage is higher. In Canada, she would have automatically been placed on leave without jumping through any hoops at all. My friend worked at Benjamin Moore and she was placed on immediate leave after discovering her pregnancy because of the dangers of paint fumes. My sister in law is a daycare manager and was also placed on immediate leave so as not to be exposed to sick children. Americas attitude towards working pregnant women is what is really ludicrous.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

If she had family members you do all you can to save the baby over caring about bills as family is suppose to help when your in a really bad situation. Her doctor should have been the first stop to inform what was happening and where she can go for emergency help, housing, etc.

She had cousins working there, live with them in the short term, whatever it takes to keep that baby alive.

Hell I did not go in to work when my pet was sick, and my parent was in the hospital, did I get fired ? yes but I gave zero fucks because my family came first. The pets are still alive, my parent is healthy again, and I got a better job. Never sacrifice for a job when shit that matters more is at stake.

You dont know anyones financial situations. Maybe those cousins cant afford taking her in for an indefinite amount of time. Maybe her parents are shit heads. Maybe her family relied on her income to support them.

Im glad things worked out for you and you have strong family support. I do too and I appreciate that. But I also understand its not everyones situation and it can be easy to just point fingers. The bottom line is this is a common practice against women in a highly vulnerable position and more attention needs to be given to it so it can be changed.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

The moment she was told by her manager that they were not going to listen to her doctors order she should have quit immediately on the spot. Clearly they did not care so her decision should have been to value her doctors orders and the baby over the shitty job and sue them before now for failing to heed the doctors orders.

Easy to say but she most likely has bills to pay. Its not feasible for everyone to just quit a job with nothing else lined up. And these sorts of cases can take months, even years to battle.

Thats so tragic. I really hope they sue the shit out of them.

eston posted...

I wasn't aware they could deny that sort of thing

They do all the time. My doctor also submitted a note for me for reduced hours near the end of my pregnancy. But he fully said he would expect pushback because it happens all the time and said some companies look for ways of firing employees after they submit that. I opted not to send it since I work from home and was able to phone it in enough.

Also california pregnancy disability leave allows you to leave 4 weeks from your due date but I had to battle my insurance to pay for it. They required a ton of documentation from my doctor. Initially denied it but then I got additional paperwork from my pain care doctor that outlined a history of treatment. It took weeks to get it approved. They make you jump through so many hoops.

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