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ApherosyLove posted...

No he said enjoy the food and I said "I like anime"

"oh really what kind of anime?" "I like hentai" "oh cool" "yeah" "...."
"so what is it about hentai you like?" "the tentacles" "oh really?" "yeah" "..."
I feel like I'm talking to a fish in a bowl most of the time.

I work in customer service and talk to people on daily basis. Lately I noticed with the younger generation, they sound like they're talking in text message format or lack insightful depth into their thought process when they speak. It's like they'll talk about their problems, then expect feed back, only to disregard the feedback and go back to talking about their problems as if they've never listened to you. I feel like I'm talking to a bot most of the time, so I dumb things down to better relate.

When someone would gripe about their problems, instead of giving advice and actually listening to their problems, I just nod and repeat back the last thing they said. Ironically, they think I'm a great listener this way than actually "listening" and responding to their problems with my own insight.

I'm not understanding the practicality of having two devices when one can sufficiently do both. Can someone here kindly explain to me why? I always thought kindles were a thing of the past, and are slowly getting antiquated out of the market. Just wondering.

FrankJaegr posted...

So you had an account to stalk a girl before you got to getting blackout drunk? >_>

Why bother doing that when you can just get blackout drunk <_______<

Yup, I have a fake account for stalking purposes =_=;
I am quite fortunate that I was blacked out using a fake. My identity was not compromised uhu*~

using an alt account I use to stalk a girl I'm crushing on. I got too drunk and wrote a bunch of nasty comments like "I bet you're just as fake as your tits!" "hope you die!"
The sad truth is, I know deep down in my unconscious mind, I was projecting what I had regressed as a means of dealing with rejection. Some how getting plastered drunk made me turn into that kid who got rejected in high school. I don't think I had the emotional capacity to handle the rejection so I ended up regressing through means of self defense and just blocked off that memory into a deeper realm of my unconscious mind. Now I feel like crap for ever going back to that helpless POS incel that I used to be.
Alcohol is the worst. Makes me literally turn into a 14 year old again.

brestugo posted...

Echo Park is gentrifying heavily. Highland Park too. If you move there, be sure to ask about parking as your first or second question.

OC was - in my GenX lifetime- very racist. Everything south of Long Beach was "behind the Orange Curtain". Skinheads, Nazis were rampant.

It's gotten better. I lived in Newport Beach from 2002-2003. But it still has a "feel" to it.

When the Chargers moved from San Diego to L.A., many players looked to move to the OC, close to their training facility. Despite putting up several months to a years worth of rent money up front, black players were denied at the last minute when they showed up in person over bullshit reasons - "oh a dog?" "oh kids?". White players didn't have that problem.

College campuses are generally pretty liberal, so unless you work at UCI, don't go by that. By Midwestern or Southern standards, the OC is liberal but the shit that goes on sometimes shouldn't happen in California.

The beaches are nice though.

Yikes. I had no idea how rampant the racism there was. Echo Park seems like first on my list then. How about Costa Mesa? There are tons of Japanese/Korean marts nearby if I can recall correctly and there's an international language school nearby. Did that change as well?
Irvine had a lot of international students living there as well. I remember going to the internet cafe near the bale after Uni on campus ave.

Everywhere I went I'd be surrounded by fobs from the motherland. I don't drive as well so I'll mostly be walking or catching Uber. My plan was to live there for a year, gain some inspiration from remembering fond memories there (maybe find a gf), then go back to Seattle for work.

In your opinion, where would be the best place to move to experience that "k-drama" soap opera life style? Students socializing at cafe's wearing their oversized hoodies while talking about their future admirations and goals. Going on a date getting pinkberry or spending weekends with your "hyungs" getting trashed talking about your ex-loves. It was a very innocent time in my life. I just want to re-live it again.
Thanks for your insight btw. Appreciate your help.

I went to UCI, 13 years ago and loved it. Didn't feel any type of bigotry or racism towards me. A good majority of the demographic there were international students or asian and my life style mimicked something out of a korean soap opera. I loved it so much that I want to go back in hopes I'll find new inspiration with my life.

Lately I'm seeing a lot of hate for OC through tiktok, claiming the place is very racist and the KKK of SoCal. Is this true? I just didn't expect things to change so much in 13 years. Anybody familiar with SoCal that can verify this?
If all things are true, I might just move to Los Angeles, Echo Park instead.

Lately I decided to change my style into something more "k-pop boy band" like and noticed that my hair was cut much shorter than the picture I showed my stylist. Like the fringe was cut much shorter revealing more of my forehead (which I expected to be mostly covered). I didn't want to ask the stylist directly if that was her intention as I didn't want to seem unpleasant and offend.

A friend tried to give me reassurance by telling me that Japanese salons usually do this so that the hair grows into the style. Not sure if she was spilling nonsense inorder to make me feel better but I remain unconvinced and in need of more validation. Please share me your thoughts. I appreciate you all. No really I do.

Watching Adam Sandler's Punch Drunk Love, I noticed him beating himself up for saying "bye bye" to a girl he liked. Just wondering if I'm incorrectly saying bye and making an embarrassment out of myself every time.

What are some other creative ways to say bye?

• Sayonara, and good bye
• Bonjour and bye
• Cheers
• namaste

Not too slang, and not colloquial terms used between friends. What are some ideas?

What do you guys think about me using my money to open a vintage VHS shop where you rent out a room that's designed to look like a typical 80s home. You'll get to watch your old movies on a tube box tv and relive your past through a familiar setting. I'll target a niche demographic of people that are looking to escape reality and regress into their youth form.

Charge $100 flat fee for 4 hours of use? Then again, there's also the possibility that people are just going to be fornicating in their rooms. Hmmmm

ModLogic posted...

we were like 10 at the time

Hey man...some kids start hitting puberty early >_>;;

ModLogic posted...

i remember browsing the porn section with my friend when we were kids.
the employee was a young woman at the time and she came to find us to kick us out.

I've fantasized a scenario where that employee goes "so have you ever seen a live woman naked before?" Then takes off her clothes and bites her thong playfully as she signals you to walk in the backroom with her. Man I have a hard on now.

ArianaGrandSlam posted...

No, I never once rented a porno. By the time I hit puberty, I had internet access and was able to have time alone here and there.

I remember working at a video store in twenty-fucking-thirteen and still having old guys come in to buy and rent it, though. Like dude, the internet. And also adult shops if you really need to buy them, you dont need to come into this chain video store where all the regular people are.

Maybe these guys get turned on by associating certain stimuli with the past by watching videos instead of the internet. Kind of like when you smell or taste something, you suddenly remember things you normally wouldn't have.
FREEZE ME AND WAKE ME UP when skynet has taken over and AI sentient beings rule over sovereigns and monarchies.

Let's all drink the koolaid and relive our 90s youth in eternal slumber.

Started watching the show Red Oaks and made me feel a bit of nostalgia. I remember as a kid/teen going into tower records and sneaking a peak at X rated magazines. I miss the culture of spending a week planning what to rent and anticipating "movie nights" with your family. Or spending most of the days after school at an arcade while you wait for mom to cook you supper at home. Times were a lot more innocent for kids and adults back in the days. When did everything suddenly turn to ****? I can't help but feel a deep sense of melancholy when I look at how fast everything is pacing today. I suppose the only constant in life is change, but it's brutal. Really is.

eston posted...

Context matters, but when I was in my 20s my friend group had one of those and I think most of us low key thought he was a creep

THIS.
I remember being in my 20s and there was a 40 something year old DJ that hung out in our "scene." I never really said anything but I felt deep down inside that this guy was a loser and a creep who probably didn't have the capacity to handle a more sophisticated age- appropriate setting.

Sometimes I catch myself thinking that I don't want to be 40 and tell myself in hindsight that, "I should have experienced the club/party life style more."

Every time I look in the mirror, I can't help but think I'm a walking remnant of my past mistakes. I'm just a loser who makes barely enough to get by and it pains to think I've already wasted a decade of my adult life doing nothing. I wish I could go back in my twenties and applied myself more instead of drinking my money away at bars.

I feel a bigger pressure to succeed, become financially stable, have a family with wife and kids. I feel like I missed the opportunity to play the naivety card, and that there are less chances for me to make mistakes.

brestugo posted...

One more thing Kimosabe. California moves at 45 RPM. NYC is about 2-3 weeks behind. The rest of the country is about 9-10 months.

I'm an L.A native but have lived in NYC, London, Paris, Rome, Tokyo and Vientiane. Interesting places but not that close.

If you really want to live in L.A. coming as an outsider, you change your address then your mind. How can you innovate, develop, research or develop your thing even more or better? This is the R&D state. Has been since day 1 if you think about it.

If you're a native it's muscle memory. If you came recently, it may be a challenge.

so if I'm a bit of a recluse and I'm socially awkward, what are some things you recommend me to do inorder to feel less of a struggle? I really want to soak in the L.A. life style, so that I can come across as a native to newcomers.

Arcanine2009 posted...

Liberal Florida (except Orange County)

what's wrong with OC?

brestugo posted...

This.

Don't judge L.A. by the Westside or downtown/Arts district. Many (most?) there are transplants LARPING as locals.

I mean...to be frank, all I really want is a cute anime loving girl who wouldn't mind spending the weekends watching re-runs of Dragon Ball Z with me. I'm not exactly sure why I made the commitment to move but where can I find those of type of girls in LA?

DowntownMrSmith posted...

Downtown LA kind of sucks, move to Venice or Santa Monica.

I can barely afford to pay for my living expenses and I paying on cheaper end $1600 a month for rent. Santa Monica or Venice has a higher cost of living for me. Finding affordable rent in SoCal is super difficult, especially with the constant application fees and waiting period.

gamer167 posted...

I lived there for about 4 years and SoCal has a very high concentration of superficial, smug, and fake individuals. Probably more so than anywhere else in the country.

Theres way more normal people though, theyre just more reserved so they dont stick out as much as the fake shit heads.

So how do I cope with them? Any skills you picked along the way, you'd like to share? or do I have to be equally smug and superficial to get along?

gna647 posted...

upper class Californians are probably the worst and most smug.

source: grew up in upper class neighborhood

What would you consider upper class? net worth of a couple mil and an annual seven figure income?

MedeaLysistrata posted...

Isnt this normal? Or is it just a city thing

It's a pretty inappropriate question to ask people that question. What if the other person's embarrassed of telling you their job, just so that they can get 20 seconds of your validation? Sometimes people work jobs they're not exactly fond of, and aren't keen to answering probing questions like that.

theAteam posted...

San Diego is like the rest of the world because everyone here is from the rest of the world lmao

I mean people that are local to SoCal. I want to give off an aura to people that tells them I'm distinctly from LA.

Itachi157 posted...

I've lived in SoCal all my life. That's probably like some sort of LA/big city attitude to have. Average people around here (outside of super rich or wannabe rich areas) aren't super vapid or judgmental or anything like that.

Well I do live right by FIDM in downtown LA. I guess people here are always looking to "network" and I can't help but feel like it's one big popularity contest.

Recently moved to LA district and have difficulty adjusting to the people here. I feel like people here openly ask "so what do you do?" in the first 2 minutes of a conversation and judge your worth based on your occupation.

So I started to lie here and there because I'm...sort of insecure. Sometimes I'm a script writer, or a coding geek trying to build his start up. Other times I'm a professional GO player (pick a game westerners are unfamiliar with so they can't fact check you). Everybody then starts to want a piece of you. If I'm being honest and tell them I'm some waiter at a restaurant? People won't bother holding a conversation.

Dark_SilverX posted...

that is why you keep a pot by your bed

Not a bad idea actually. Just the effort to aim seems a bit challenging compared to walking to the bathroom out of muscle memory.

Ever since I turned 30, I've been noticing changes to my body where I have to wake up twice to pee at night. Anybody else going through this issue? I miss being able to sleep uninterrupted and 8-10 hours goes by. I never seem to feel fully rested anymore because of my constant peeing at night.

bsp77 posted...

Well, considering that is a legit complaint and you are simply a misogynist, I take her side. Yeah yeah, call me a white knight or a simp, I don't care.

I can't be a misogynist. One day my future daughter will get marginalized on the football team for being a woman, and I'll bring hell over to the PTA meetings if she doesn't get drafted. I'm all for woman, just not the ones that are bringing e-thot culture to the mainstream. "It's okay to have an onlyfans, you're not a complete whore as long as you don't make porn. Oh cool, let me make an onlyfans because it seems like all the cool girls are doing it." Next thing you know, it's not second base as long as you're giving oral.

JaleelWhite posted...

holy fuck you are seething

she has repressed anger from that one time her bf stole money from her purse in order to pay and sleep with her "hotter" friend.

sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...

Sex with attractive people is about the memories.

No one wants to remember sleeping with someone who makes them feel bad

Like that girl who laughed at me when the lights accidently turned on? Yeah, eff her.

bsp77 posted...

That is obviously not something to be proud of, and shitting on people who have girlfriends and wives comes across as envy. You gonna call us "Chads" next?

I am not S****ting on anybody, you are surely mistaken. I am just foreshadowing what is to come. If I ever call you a Chad it's because you're sitting on the bench at your son's baseball game with a gut bigger than your receding hairline.

bsp77 posted...

You gonna respond to people calling you out for your misogynistic and jaded worldview on women?

Yes. I am somewhat misogynistic but only because I have anti-feministic views. It's not something I'm conscious of, but every now and then, repressed feelings of resentment tend to surface. Like for example: a girl shows a half naked picture on social media with a thong so thin it's barely noticeable but continues to gripe about how she's being hyper-sexualized by a bunch of creeps. The apparent contradiction kind of triggers me sometimes.

marthsheretoo posted...

I'm married to an amazing woman, and if it's all a con, I'm confused as to what she's trying to con me out of.

your self-worth, dignity, and a potential pursuit at happiness. You'll look in the mirror one day and ask yourself, "what if?"
MIND BLOWING EXISTENTIALISM

*boner bump*

Didn't file my tax 2020 and I owe about 2-4 g. I'm depressed and super emo because...of mixed up neurons and disrupted hormones.

majority wins the verdict. I will watch the south park episode. That show makes me want to smoke weed. Wish I wasn't dry.

Naysaspace posted...

The answer is obviously Cartman eating all the chicken skins.

nice.

Can't think of anything other than "the wire" where Avon asks wee-bay if he wanted to take a bite in jail.
I have a 4 piece KFC with me right now and trying to build an appetite. A nice recollection of a show is all I need to build some appetite.

bsp77 posted...

C'mon. There are plenty of fantastic women out there. My gf is one of them.

She's playing long on the con game. Are you guys getting married? lol

MrAntisocial posted...

You mean it isn't normal to pay? Have I been paying all this time for nothing?

You always pay. The ones where you don't, con you into marrying them.

Will_VIIII posted...

Everything about the guy in general screams incel

or he's 13 and just learning about sex and its glory.

Will_VIIII posted...

People who have experienced sex and intimacy don't talk like this.

You mean sex and intimacy outside the high school prom parking lot? This man clearly fucks but not sure if he's aiming the right demographic.

Girls are you tired of fornicating guys with dad bods because you have no choice? With cryptocurrency, you can now pay your boy toys with BTC.X and have them fly across the world. You will learn first hand that not all penis sizes are equal. They come in various shapes, color, and girth.

Only if there was an open market for woman soliciting sex from men, can we really tell if sex with a hot guy is the same or not for them.

Pepys Monster posted...

Sex with hot women is much, much better than with a woman who is barely fuckable.

Not when you have the lights turned off and her moans sound hot. I call that an auditory catfish.

Christian RULES posted...

Wait, why did you pay her? Whenever I have sex with hot women, there's no monetary transactions involved.

Are you a pimp or are you just coercing hot woman into having sex with you?

except the sushi quality at buffets is mostly rice ratio of 2/3 with 1-2 day old sushi. Not even close to actual sushi and its intended taste.

Except the hot one told me to pay her and leave. What an entitled independent contractor.

Pepys Monster posted...

Dont catcall.

Meoooow! Says the kitty to the cougar.