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| Topic | disney unprepared for popularity of luisa from encanto |
| OpenlyGator 01/24/22 6:53:09 AM #15 | I doubt many kids cared about Luisa's big muscles. She was a more likable character in personality (compared to some of the rest). --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | streamer maces her friend for no reason, and has cops called on her |
| OpenlyGator 01/24/22 12:41:30 AM #12 | What an abusive bitch. She basically put him in danger by blinding him far from home likely surrounded by strangers without immediate means of treating his eyes. It was also an unprovoked attack and the airhead even mentioned that her victim was probably the one who drove her there in the first place. If she's got 2 brain cells to knock together, I would be more shocked than her reaction to getting arrested. Yeah, it's possible for a victim to pull themselves out of those situations in one piece, but that's not the point. She should never be macing people recklessly like that. And the consequences of doing that were obviously lost on her, until the cops made her kiss pavement. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | What if a gay guy is a virgin? |
| OpenlyGator 01/23/22 4:45:52 AM #11 | ZannoL posted... I don't think I've ever seen anyone shame a gay guy for being a virgin. It seems like a non-issue.More like an issue that's typically easier to resolve due to the rate of partner participation being exponentially higher with less work compared to the heterosexual equivalent. It's fundamentally easier to find male partners open to casual sex with minimal requisites compared to hetero socializing. And that's often magnified between 2 or more male participants for obvious reasons. Many of us gay men consider that a fulfilling perk with dating rather than a con, despite outsiders judging it differently by their unassociated standards. However, this phenomena can also lead to a varying degree of backlash from gay/bi/etc males towards gay males who show little to no similar ambition for casually getting laid. This can become emotionally taxing for gay men who are more socially introvert and view meeting new people as challenging (the contrast to a social butterfly). --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Endless Space 2, what's with the big titty fish woman? |
| OpenlyGator 01/22/22 9:17:52 AM #5 | That's not furry. It's fishy. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Did any of your schools have a Gay-Straight Alliance? |
| OpenlyGator 12/29/21 6:35:15 PM #18 | Did any of your schools have a Gay-Straight Alliance?Yes, but I along with many other nonhetero students did not bother to join the groups. We were already out and comfortable in our own cliques. One infamous campus sponsored diversity "club" at my high school kept losing legit gay/bi members because of an abundance of straight members admittedly passing themselves off as bi for social cred (it basically became a fashion trend). The ratio of members from girls to guys was like 4/1 and it ironically pissed off my lesbian/bi friends because of the casual fakery in the ranks. They did not take kindly to watching their sexual orientation being treated like another accessory for the popular straight girls to exploit for clout. I joined for a little while and already knew what I was walking into. The teachers hosting the club seemed genuinely supportive, but they were not LGBTQ and kind of spectated our topic conversations like we were zoo animals. There was also some minor issues with them passively applying heteronormative gender "rules" to referee our discussions that clearly favored the feelings of the girls (ie: female members could literally say anything disparaging about boys and men without staff intervention...male members got the hammer dropped on them for even tame implications like "girls do that too"). The guys (who were already dealing with a truckload of typical teenage life issues) did not feel like it was a safe welcoming space where they could be open, so we bounced. My lady friends soon followed as they started feeling the same way thanks to the fakettes hijacking the conversations and the staff facilitating it. I see value in providing safe groups for LGBTQ youth to feel free and comfortable, but I have also seen dozens of said attempts go awkwardly wrong on campuses (even at university level). It all depends on the rules and who's running the show. And it's really easier for most of us now to just find other mediums to use with dramatically fewer restrictions (something that's practically a cultural tenet to live by for many average guy guys like me). Being in a zone where we could be 100% open about our conversations without rigid censorship was so much more educating and cathartic for finding constructive ways in living with our orientations. However, if a modern queer kid feels like they have no where else to go...I guess school clubs are worth a shot. Just don't have high expectations. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Encanto was terrible. My fiancé is angry. That bad. |
| OpenlyGator 12/27/21 6:38:28 AM #22 | For anyone who has not seen it and plans to: heads up, it's a bit of a musical. Even by Disney's standards. If you're not into that... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Gay test. Take the gay quiz today |
| OpenlyGator 12/25/21 7:41:01 AM #11 | Take the gay quiz todayNo need. I've had more wood in me than Santa's fireplace. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | This Batwoman show looks like it has potential. |
| OpenlyGator 12/20/21 12:38:13 AM #13 | It's like Selina Kyle got fed up with Bruce Wayne and said "fuck it, I'll do this shit myself ". --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Do you wish you were Jake Paul? |
| OpenlyGator 12/19/21 3:13:09 AM #11 | too busy staring at Woodley's fine ass tbh --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | So... was the sonic the hedgehog movie any good? |
| OpenlyGator 12/06/21 5:03:40 AM #16 | It was better received than expected, to say the least. Plenty of people thought Jim Carrey playing the villain was going to be horribly ridiculous, until they actually watched it. He may have gone off the rails in his personal life this last decade, but the guy still nails over-the-top eccentric roles and Robotnik qualifies. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Do you find semen to be sexy? |
| OpenlyGator 12/02/21 6:34:33 AM #19 | Do you find semen to be sexy?Yes, actually I do. A guy busting his load after sex is like being told a happy "thank you" after serving a meal to guests. When he doesn't, it can be just as jarring to our self esteem as gay guys as it can be for women. And some of us guy-on-guys basically enjoy rolling in it like dogs to mud (cultural differences). Like 99.9% of us could live without that cherry on top, but it legit bugs most of us when it's not there. He could just be exhausted or having health issues, but his lack of nut on demand can drive us squirrels crazy with insecurity. Not over him seeing other partners on the side (between male/male partners that's not always a controversy like for heteros). It's the idea that we could not get him to shoot any fireworks after what we felt was a good time. The first instinct for many of us is to question: did he really have a good time too...? It's not a fun feeling. Thankfully it's often customary to offer a handjob when our partners couldn't reach the finish line. It's part of why I get callbacks. I literally sleep better knowing my guys finish. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Apps that make it easy for kids to use their parents' credit card... |
| OpenlyGator 11/27/21 7:55:32 AM #3 | Apps that deliberately make it easy for kids to use their parents' credit card... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | As far as story settings go, do you prefer sci-fi or fantasy? |
| OpenlyGator 11/26/21 6:49:30 AM #36 | sci-fantasy --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Have you ever got someone to play Cupid for you? |
| OpenlyGator 11/26/21 6:46:01 AM #2 | Have you ever got someone to play Cupid for you?Hell no. People who are not gay men generally stink at setting up dates for their gay male friends. We really prefer you don't. And sorry not sorry, that includes LBT too. You got a gay guy friend who looks lonely and struggling, find another gay guy who can help him find partners. DO NOT bother setting him up with that gay guy. Leave that part to us, thanks. Give Cupid back his arrows, you all are fucking dangerous with them... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | I've really noticed the change in hospitality since things have reopened |
| OpenlyGator 11/22/21 6:59:44 AM #3 | Everywhere seems short staffed, meals take longer to come out, general quality has gone downwards.Oh sorry, I thought you were talking about nursing care facilities for a moment there... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | What is the correct way for a man to deal with being rejected by a woman? |
| OpenlyGator 11/22/21 6:07:03 AM #29 | On a related note: You should not feel villainous if you reach a point where a platonic connection after an awkward rejection is just too uncomfortable for you. It's practicing insight and being realistic about how you truly feel. It's not your obligation to stomped down your inconvenient feelings just for their sake. You're not obligated to drag things on as someone else's playmate when your interests have evolved past what a platonic connection can offer both of you. Long term "pretending" can become very damaging for BOTH of you because it's denying the emotional needs of the people involved. Friend A gets a half-hearted companion who's operating on a facade (deception/codependency) that hides inner turmoil that should instead be carefully addressed. Friend B begins to feel like they're rotting inside and about to explode because they're withholding a constant build up of emotional pressure around someone they believe they can not risk telling (self abuse/depression/fear). This inadvertently causes Friend B to become a powder keg that will inevitably blow up at their friend's expense (build up of hidden toxicity) likely ending the relationship anyway on a worse note. The old trope of "they rejected me romantically, but I will continue loving them from afar platonically " always sounded poisonous and delusional. Some people (fewer than most) can manage to still comfortably salvage a friendship without lingering toxicity after a heartfelt proposal gets awkwardly rejected. What you're more likely to find (outside of Hollywood illusions), however, is that many more of said people are just better off finding other friends at that point. It can deliver closure and a new start without the baggage. Humanity is fickle, individual people break up and drift apart all the time over less. Dipping out of an uncomfortable friendship is always a valid option. Popular sociable people do it all the time, as they can afford to. Despite what some critics will screech, you're not callously "deserting" the other person if you realize that continuing to drag on the faade is just going to escalate badly no matter what you do. You're being a more responsible friend by not putting them through that sensitive rollercoaster when you notice it's not going to end well. That decision in itself can be a demonstration of emotional strength, not innately weakness, because you're actively choosing to spare each other a greater amount of grief and freeing up their time to find better connections at the sacrifice of yours. Sometimes politely bowing out of a friendship that hurts too much for you is the responsible thing to do in the long run. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Would you date someone who suffers through Body dysmorphic disorder? |
| OpenlyGator 11/14/21 4:30:15 PM #8 | I have and would again (cautiously), provided the partner had their shit together. Someone with baggage like that is just never my first option. It not a juggling act everyone can do. To my ex, our commitment was a big help to his self esteem and he admitted that us being together brought his mental health to a much better place. I was naturally his cheerleader; I never had to force myself to do it. And it was not difficult to give him compliments as he was charming, athletic, and very physically attractive along with his eagerness to be a couple (I recognized that age old red flag, still gave him a try). Put simply: he was outspoken about keeping me around because I helped him feel better. I was his security blanket. The problem was my ex was TOO serious about spending all my time with him and became overdependent on my support. He became very controlling. And it was incredibly awkward trying to explain what was causing "tension" in our relationship to bystanders because on paper he was practically a "Chad". But he was also a major headcase with unprecedented esteem issues lesser privileged people could barely grasp. To them, him having problems with confidence in his looks was like seeing a rich man feeling embarrassed in front of a cashier because he had to run to his sports car to grab the wallet he forgot. As far as they could see, he could never have any reason to feel inadequate and thought I was the clingy partner exaggerating everything. They figured I had nothing to complain about either... What I learned from experiences like that is a partner's disorder(s) can become a bottomless pit for you if you're not careful and realistic. Sometimes you can make it work, but like I said before: it's a constant juggling act full of risks and you need to gauge if it's all really worth your time. I'm just good at juggling with little effort. Most people are not. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Is it time for a transgender character in first party Nintendo? |
| OpenlyGator 10/27/21 7:38:24 AM #5 | Yeah isn't Birdo canonically a trans character named Catherine in Japan? --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | why was 'fury' the female darksider? |
| OpenlyGator 10/27/21 7:37:21 AM #3 | Well she effectively lived up to the part. She was gifted for the role and clearly not just some "diversity hire"... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | parents find son's spreadsheet of classmates problematic behavior |
| OpenlyGator 10/19/21 6:33:35 AM #30 | totalnerdken posted... This kid is kind of a piece of shit lol.The kid is just a product of extremist conditioning. He sounds like a victim of poor parenting from someone who likely has dysfunctional views themselves... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | What's your favorite shade of red? |
| OpenlyGator 10/09/21 8:40:29 AM #14 | "blood orange" lmao --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Being 5'4 as a guy is really tough out there. |
| OpenlyGator 09/29/21 8:25:22 AM #8 | Shortstack gymbros are always a welcome sight for me. As a taller guy, I get a birdseye view of their goods at some really nice angles. Can also confirm that their performance in bed can still be explosive and a bunch of them have MORE incentive dialing it up to impress because of the stigma. I have enjoyed that enthusiasm. short man =/= short equipment <3 --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Toxicity in online gaming is really sad when you think about it. |
| OpenlyGator 09/08/21 5:28:59 PM #7 | Toxicity in online gaming is really sad when you think about it.But expected. Pvp games are especially sweet honey for edgelords angry at the world they can't really control and eager to take it out their frustrations on pixels. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | The judge system in Final Fantasy Tactics sucks ass |
| OpenlyGator 09/08/21 8:36:55 AM #18 | FFT Judge system is in that weird area of extremes where having the system can sometimes terminate any fun to be had, while not having the system makes the game too piss easy. Not the best design... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Can physically attractive people be creepy? |
| OpenlyGator 09/08/21 8:31:37 AM #16 | Can physically attractive people be creepy?Yes. Good looks can only mask a sinister intent for so long, especially when the person is blatantly toxic. Can it still take far longer for people to see through the pretty person's bad character? Also yes, because we're predominately a visual species, which means exceptional looks will always grants bonus points. What different people consider bad (deplorable) behavior is also subjective. One person will immediately think being a serial killer is an instant turn off. A thirsty ass fucker, on the other hand, might not... Pretty people can still cross a threshold where they too can come across creepy and unhinged. It just takes the audience longer to realize it. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Which is more overrated? Shower sex or morning sex? |
| OpenlyGator 08/21/21 6:46:57 PM #26 | Which is more overrated? Shower sex or morning sex?Shower sex. Media always paints it smooth and perfectly coordinated, which is not the case for most folks. People have literally died in bathroom accidents while trying to have shower sex. Also water is not the best lubricant for sex by comparison and it washes the others off... There's ways to pull off amazing sex in the shower, but there's typically a bunch of other places in a home you could do it easier. Morning sex can be awful or great depending on partner performance and whether someone's a wussy lightweight who gets bothered by a night's worth of natural musk. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | are you comfortable calling another man hot? |
| OpenlyGator 08/09/21 10:28:24 PM #29 | Trickfinger posted... How do the straight guys respond to you flirting with them?I know not to poke a tiger. I can usually tell when a certain guy is sensitive about what kind of interaction he gets and from who; I don't bother them. I have good luck picking up guys because I learned to read a room (I had to for both success and caution). And that's often played out well when I decided to compliment a straight man to pick up his confidence (literally the only reason I do it). They usually pick up the real intent either through wisdom or the simple realization that we're not sexually compatible, so it's no big deal. In short, most of the straight guys did not take offense because they believed there was no reason to get offended over my benign comments. I've actually offended more of the women in their lives because THEY were the ones hard to convince that I was just being friendly to a fellow man. It showed me that a bunch of men with wives are left emotionally starved for compliments because the women use them so sparingly (and know it). So I do my part. Some of those girlfriends/wives get pissed at me brushing their man's ego because to them it's like a stranger throwing a T-bone steak to a guard dog the owners want to keep disciplined. The owners feel threatened when someone else upsets the chain of command with their pet. I hate the analogy, but it fits. Called a good friend of mine out on it when she was getting jealous over me faux flirt ONCE towards her good looking man...who was indisputably hetero in his interests...yet comfortable with my solitary comment. I was literally doing it to compliment her skill at finding a man by association. She didn't see it that way and confronted me in her kitchen. I apologized for seeming like I crossed a line, but she chilled out once I explained my intent and realized I was never going to waste my time chasing a straight guy. She also started complimenting her man a lot more once she understood what a catch she actually reeled in. It was a bit of a 180 compared to how she originally viewed their relationship. I never pointed out what a Plain Jane she was by comparison, but her lady friends did and that coincidentally coordinated with our chat in the kitchen. They're doing pretty well together and raising kids. She's got her priorities together is what I'm saying, and I don't mind taking a little credit for that. It used to be asking for trouble for me to fake flirt with straight guys, but more and more of them have been accepting of the attention since 2010. Obviously I'm not their ideal source, but I'm supportive when they need me to be. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | are you comfortable calling another man hot? |
| OpenlyGator 08/09/21 9:31:00 PM #2 | Yes. That's basically how I get callbacks. Men also love compliments. I flirt with straight guys too because most of them are starving and underappreciated... --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Is there therapy for stuff like motivation and procrastination |
| OpenlyGator 08/09/21 5:19:53 PM #5 | Is there therapy for stuff like motivation and procrastinationYeah, it's typically called poverty, illness, or starvation. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Bane is a such a stupid Batman villian. |
| OpenlyGator 08/09/21 5:11:45 PM #12 | A bunch of villain parodies on the Netflix Harley Quinn are hilarious. I just treat the show as an alt universe where every character is a sitcom counterpart. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png |
| Topic | Would your life be ruined if you turned into a centaur? |
| OpenlyGator 08/09/21 5:08:09 PM #13 | Verdekal posted... Don't want to be a world famous mutant.Understandable. Most people don't want:
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