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But here's the thing. It's not about sparing an hour of your day to work out. It's about having enough energy to use that hour to work out. Does Arnold not realize, he's an outlier with a fuel tank larger than normal? If I'm feeling tired, there's no way I can lift where I feel an adequate burn; it's just a futile attempt that only brings diminishing returns. I'll end up wasting an hour and have nothing positive to net.

Arnold is starting to sound like "red pill" logic to me now. I might as well categorize his self motivation quotes on the same level as every other toxic stunad with pension for machismo.

STEROLIZER posted...

You need to add a clear outro to the end of your message. It lets that person know that you will be hanging up the phone following their response

Do you mind if you could list me a few examples? I would REALLY appreciate this. You are a saint *bows down*

Kradek posted...

"It's been a pleasure speaking with you today, I look forward to our next conversation." Providing it would be normal for you to converse again, such as a client for a sale's company.

How would the other person usually respond to this? And how would you respond afterward?
I think this part is the hardest for me.

Maybe its because of my meds, but I've been forgetting how to interact with people in terms of small talk and phone etiquette. As a result, I've been missing my conversational timing and have been speaking with either long pauses or interrupting when they're speaking. The hardest part for me thus far, has been knowing when to say good bye and thank you. What would you do in this scenario?

Person A: "So yeah we'll get it for you. Don't worry you'll be in good shape right after."
Person B: ________*What do they say here?* ---

I'm terrible at phone etiquette. I really appreciate all the help I could get from here. Thanks guys.

I've been wanting to change therapist for weeks because I felt our sessions were more of an inquisition to see if I'm taking my meds than anything. She makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and our sessions feel more like her tailgating me with her authority to see if I'll eventually speed over the limit. I always feel like I can't be myself and my actions are slowly mimicking this narrative of self fulfilling prophecy where I feel like I'm about to screw up.

Well today, I gathered the courage to ask for a change. When I was asked why from the managing senior, I got extremely anxious and I couldn't form a coherent thought process. I felt like my tone of voice was confrontational and it may have given the impression that I was just an a**hole; when in reality I was just flustered and acted that way out of self-preservation. Now I'm really paranoid that I made a fool out of myself by putting myself on the spotlight and I'll have even more eyes on me as a result. WTF DO I DO? I FEEL SO ANXIOUS RIGHT NOW.

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I do...

• She's a nurse doctor who video chats with me every two months to check in with how I'm doing in terms of depression, mental health, etc.
• I get my anti-depressants prescribed through her

Issue: Whenever I chat with her about my mood and mention that I'm even slightly depressed, she follows with an extremely reprimanding tone of voice and tells me something invalidating like, "you need to go outside more," or "take a walk at the park." She doesn't try and listen to me for the sake of listening. I always feel like she ignores my problems, or fails to empathize at all, and tries to counter with a solution that doesn't align with my predispositions. She's carelessly mentioned that I should go to church, do some volunteer work, and even take up snowboarding classes; which I feel does not suit me at all. Every time I come to her expressing genuine grief, I get nothing but trite suggestions that make me feel like she falls a long way short from qualifying as a good therapist/counselor-whatever her role is.

I somehow get the feeling that this "all in one package" therapy program has a time limit and anyone experiencing depression beyond surface level problems gets gaslit to think all they need to do is exercise and go to church to cure their depression. Every time this nurse-doctor asks me how I'm doing, I feel a great deal of pressure to say "I'm okay" - and it leaves me feeling frustrated.

I would stop going, but my meds are paid for through this program and this doctor is the only way I could receive them for free. If I cancel my appointment, the doctor will presume I'm doing okay and cancel the meds that I've become dependent on. I'm in a catch-22 situation right?

jediknight0056 posted...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's common to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, frustration, and even numbness, after experiencing a significant financial loss. Here are some steps you can take to process your grief and prevent it from affecting you in the future:
1. Allow yourself to feel your emotions: It's okay to feel sad, disappointed, or even angry about the loss. Acknowledge and accept these feelings rather than trying to suppress them.
2. Talk about it: Share your feelings with someone you trust, whether it's a friend, family member, or therapist. Talking about your experience can help you process your emotions and gain perspective.
3. Reflect on your investment strategy: Take some time to review your investment decisions and what led to the loss. Consider what you could have done differently and what you've learned from the experience. This reflection can help you make more informed decisions in the future.
4. Focus on what you can control: While you can't change the outcome of your investments, you can control how you respond to the situation. Focus on taking positive steps, such as adjusting your investment strategy or seeking professional advice, rather than dwelling on what has already happened.
5. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically and emotionally during this time. Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones.
6. Set realistic expectations: Understand that investing involves risks, and losses are a natural part of the process. Set realistic expectations for your investments and avoid chasing quick gains or taking excessive risks.
By allowing yourself to process your emotions and taking proactive steps to learn from the experience, you can move forward with a healthier mindset and avoid projecting pent-up emotions in the future.

Weird how your response sounds like something you'd read out of Bing's search engine.

Alteres posted...

Its just back to the slog, and maybe in a couple years you might be back where you were yesterday of course its valid to feel a certain way about that.

I wish I could have lived blissfully being ignorant of my portfolio. It was practically in a super position existing in two states. I would have gained nothing from looking at my portfolio, but I felt compelled to log in for no reason and realize my loss. Now I feel like that goal I've kept in mind has become another endless slog I'll have to strike for. Everything suddenly feels heavier now.

ItsNotA2Mer posted...

How much is a "big chunk"?

20% of my portfolio, which is a sizable amount considering the fact that I'm not an active trader. It took me several years to see those gains and now it's all gone in a single day. Somehow this loss makes me feel like I've taken a couple steps back in life. Now I won't be able to buy a car or pay the down-payment on a home. Am I valid to feel concerned about this?

I invested my money in a couple stock plays and I found out this morning that I lost a big chunk of my portfolio. I can't really put how I feel into words. I think I feel sad, but at the same time, I feel this sense of "blagh-ness" like nothing matters anymore. I think my mind is trying not to process the trauma and is subconsciously compartmentalizing the emotions elsewhere. I should be feeling sad, depressed, whatever. But I don't. It's like if the world were to burn down tomorrow, I wouldn't care.

How do I properly process grief from this investment loss so that I don't unconsciously project pent up emotions from this in the future?

Nirvanas_Nox posted...

Buck totally would. This is the same guy that partnered with his rival propane companies to price gouge their customers.

I thought they were wholesalers? I don't think Hank gets paid commission considering Buck would have to increase the sale price of his propane to pay that expense. If he's greedy enough to price gouge partnering up with his rival, I doubt he has the decency to pay his staff a decent wage.

Hank was living where again? Lcol? I bet he would have been doing fine getting paid minimum wage.

What the heck is a propane salesman anyway?
Are they mainly consumer facing where you're able to buy from retail or are they more focused on industrial and business enterprise? Why do you need someone to sell you propane when you can go into a store and grab it yourself?

It's just that Hank always talks so proudly about propane like it's a special trade, it makes me wonder how how much he makes? Was he earning more than the median?

I guess what I really wanted to ask was: How can you tell if someone is a good person vs a dirt bag degenerate?

I've always assumed the only person that has actual empathy for you is your family. Friends come and go, therefore it's hard to assess if their concern for you is only conditional. I'm at this age point in my life where I need to be more discerning of whom I interact with. But lately I can't seem to tell the difference between someone that's faking "niceness" vs someone that genuinely cares.

I'm asking for too much right? It's better to assume human beings are intrinsically evil.

Dakimakura posted...

What is the difference between a neo-hipster and a regular hipster? Do they wear sunglasses like the guy in the Matrix?

neo-hipsters focus more on crystals and "spirituality"

KanWan posted...

Eyyyyyy, nice job TC

probably better off in Cali than in Texas tbh

Thank you. You were right. It's either I sleep in a car or decide to room share.

I'm going to choose the latter.

The last time I room shared with anyone was with a group of neo-hipsters that did nothing but smoke weed and burn sage. They were great for the most part, except for bringing random strangers into the home like it was some type of communion; a gathering of like minded spiritual individuals that mooched off of our toilet paper and perishable foods. Other than that minor encumbrance, I felt safe for the most part. They didn't bring in drama, or pick fights with each other. As long as I paid my rent and minded my own business, people were friendly with me.

This was 10 years ago though. I'm sure the world has drastically changed and those same neo-hipster types have been replaced with another trending subculture. What should I expect if I decide to move to California or Texas to room share? What are some red flags I need to look out for when looking for a place to rent? Room sharing would cut my rent expense by 60%. I need this.

Irony posted...

I've been aggressively delusional yes

Alcohol helped. Now that I'm in a alcohol rehabilitation plan, I'm not sure I can fall back on old habits.

KanWan posted...

Shit, man. That's rough. I have no clue why you're doing things this way either, have you asked yourself why? We already know one of the answers, but what about the other answers? They're equally as valid and require your inspection. The world isn't telling you to die, homie. It's telling you to wake up to the idea that no one is doing things the way you're doing things for a reason. It's not your fault and I can tell you're trying, but man, you need to really think about a second job. You'd be surprised how much better you're going to feel having more money.

Hell, you may even fall in love with it. You can always organize a better job structure/routine later too.

But you need to get rid of that debt. You need to stop dipping into the credit card to pay your bills.

How do you work a second job when I'm working 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week? I barely have any energy when I'm done. I don't think I'll have the mental capacity to handle a second job without fainting from exhaustion at some point.

I wish I was a hot a girl with an onlyfans. There's no place in this hyper-capitalistic society for guys like me.

SilvosForever posted...

Fake it til you make it.

What happens when you realize you didn't make it?

KanWan posted...

What is the debt from? What is your job?

Credit card debt to pay off bills just to sustain. My job only pays me $20 an hour. My rent is $1600. I don't drive either.
The world is telling me to die or something right?

GeminiDeus posted...

Anyone who has only positive thoughts is a delusional psychopath.

Seems like psychopathic traits really attribute to "survival of the fittest." In 1000 years from now, I bet neuroticism will die out and everybody will be a lifeless robot with a less developed prefrontal cortex.

I start my day thinking that I'm worthless. As I try and start anything, there's a constant feeling of dread that follows me wherever I go. When I try and be happy, through forms of meditation and other stress relieving activities, I end up feeling worse than before. There's a thought that I'm only running away from my problems by only band-aiding the issue through therapy, instead of actually solving the root issue: my lack of overall job satisfaction.

No matter how I think, I just can't seem to get rid of the thought that I'm living paycheck to paycheck. I don't have any savings. I'm not married and have kids. Like...how the heck am I supposed to trick myself into having positive affirmations? I feel forever enslaved to this never ending debt cycle; I only feel like a fool by pretending to be happy.

wackyteen posted...

https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements-flaxseed-and-flaxseed-oil/art-20366457

* Oral drugs. Taking flaxseed might decrease absorption of oral drugs. Consider taking oral drugs and flaxseed an hour or two apart.

While I can't imagine it'd have that profound of an impact as to make you (irrationally or additionally) angry, if you're taking it the same time as the wellbutrin then maybe consider taking them a few hours apart.

As soon as I stopped taking the flaxseed, I felt much better. That's a bit strange to me considering I've never had issues with irritability before. I've never thought to think a simple supplement could have such dramatic effects on my mood. Maybe I'll reconsider taking multi-vitamins or B vitamin supplements as well.

wackyteen posted...

Calling your provider aside, have you changed anything about your lifestyle? Food intake? New OTC medication? Increase or decrease in caffeine/nicotine/alcohol (not that you should with prescription meds but still) intake? Hell, started going to the gym?

I'm just going to stop taking it. I have an appointment with my provider in March. They're not the most reliable as my insurance is shit. If I call them now, they'll just feel inclined to prescribe me another anti-depressant; which may make my condition worse.

The only thing I changed recently was taking vitamin D pills, and flaxseed oil to boost my omega intake.

I've been taking it for 2 years now, and all of a sudden, I'm experiencing these mood changes where I'm easily upset over the most trivial things. I've never been upset with a slow driver before, but today, I felt the urge to honk and roll down my window venting a few cuss words.

Now I want to punch the wall. I just finished screaming "F********" at almost 140 decibels. I'm sure my neighbors will start asking questions the next morning.

I just don't care anymore. I'm so blind with rage. Has this happened to anyone taking anti-depressants before? I was doing fine for 2 years.

I want to cry.

ai123 posted...

As long as they blame other disadvantaged groups, like immigrants and those on welfare, for their problems, those who really oppress them will continue to get away with it.

Stupid defacto segregation policies that are deep rooted since Jim Crow Law. The American socioeconomic system is designed to be RACIST. The nuance in its meaning is just hidden so well, you can't tell.

If you're from a marginalized community and didn't grow up with all the resources needed to do well in school, you're fighting against some pretty big odds.

I hate caste systems. I hate how there's so much of a gap in living between 'poor working people' and those that have a college degree. The latter gets to put away "x" amount into their retirement savings, while the former has to spend their money on basic necessities. It's not fucking fair. AHHHHHH *raises fist into the air*

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGzzWBbg40U

"46.7 million Americans live in poverty with around 15% of the US population living below the poverty line. But they arent unemployed most of them have at least two jobs. Theyre the working poor. Meet the people behind Americas economic recovery."

If you guys want to feel incredibly melancholy, I suggest watching this documentary from start to finish. The broken system forcibly puts anyone without a college degree or trade/certificate to work paycheck to paycheck with little to show for. Man...life is a rigged game.

It's hot to me because their disposition to smoke helps mask whatever body odor others with sensitive noses have claimed to smell off me. I shower, I wash my clothes, but for some reason I quickly smell like onions whenever I sweat. I've never noticed this, as I've always been surrounded by smokers. It was when I quit smoking and hung around non smokers when people started commenting on my body odor.

pokeweeb30 posted...

Its insane how Japan went from being one of the most evil countries in the world to what they are now, in the span of 80 years.

I mean if you add meth and whole bunch nationalistic propaganda leading to jingoism, along with high levels of poverty and exposure to violence, it's a recipe for criminality for any country. In Japan's case, there were a few bad apples (imperial military leaders) that really spoiled the batch.

Glob posted...

You can totally travel round South East Asia on a very low budget. Its more fun if money is less of a concern though.

I guess my biggest concern is the language barrier and the safety of traveling alone there. Do you think I should bring a travel companion equally on edge as myself or the experience is better done aloe?

Also note that 3 months in Chiang Mai would cost me $2k. I could get drunk, hit on random girls at the pub, and probably have the greatest time of my life.

Instead of searching for another job just so that I can pay taxes and a laughable sum to my retirement account, why not use that opportunity cost traveling to areas that are cheaper than the rent I'm currently paying? I could visit Thailand for a month, spend a quarter of what I would in rent, and have a much better time there. The next month to Philippines and do the same. I bet with the amount I save in daily expenses, I would even out in ticket costs.

I'm getting older. My health is deteriorating. Fuck this. Life is short and is all about the swings you don't take.