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Im in my 30s and people ask this a decent amount of times. Roughly half the time, they seem to be practically offended when I say I dont want kids. It gets even worse if I give my reasons.

The two reasons are that kids are expensive and I like my freedom to do what I want. The faces I get for saying these things is just nasty at times. Like Im scum of the earth. I dont know why the idea that kids are expensive, which is factual, rubs some people the wrong way. The real one that gets people though is the freedom aspect.

It just makes people mad. I already know I will be severely limited when I have kids. I have a niece I spend a good amount of time with. Every time she is around, she follows me like a shadow and always wants to play. I do play with her of course. I dont want her to be sad or have people ignore her when they are tired. So I try to play with her so she wont feel neglected.

I cant imagine doing that everyday most of the day. It has to be exhausting and annoying to always sacrifice everything for your kid. Let me be clear, if I had a child, I would do that exact thing. It may be annoying but you are doing it for your childs happiness. That is far more important than your personal feelings on the matter. However, knowing the sacrifices to have a kid just from being an uncle, there is no way I want one. That experience had pretty much sealed the deal for me on that regard.

There is nothing wrong with wanting kids but there is no reason to get mad at other people for not wanting what you want