Went to the doctor, who checked her out. Based on her current medical conditions, the doctor said that she won't be able to carry the child without undergoing excruciating pain for 9 months-- and the pain is already begun. To put it in perspective, when she tried using an IUD she was incapacitated for 2 weeks and had to go to the ER to have it removed. A baby is a lot bigger than an IUD.
So I am taking her for the abortion on Friday. I still feel horrible about this whole situation, and I am thinking that I don't deserve to ever be a father, but the fact that this is medically necessary (or at least, medically advised) is helping me sleep better at night-- maybe not better, but in the very least I am not thinking about killing myself anymore.
Oh, and my aunt has about a year to live.
-- SephirothG, channeling awesomeness from Mershiness. The Resurrection
I know we are basically enemies, but I had to get my girlfriend one a few months ago. Was not proud of it. The important thing you need to do is be there for your girl and take the lumps on your own. If you are scared, she is at least 1000 times more scared and needs you more than ever.
facepaImer posted... though if she didn't have the condition that made sex and pregnancy extremely painful you guys would keep the child correct?
I wanted to, but she didn't. And as much as I am opposed to abortion, it's not like I can force her not to have one. So I settled on just being there for her through this process.
-- SephirothG, channeling awesomeness from Mershiness. The Resurrection
UltimaterializerX posted... I'm really disappointed people are trolling such a serious topic. Grow up, the lot of you children.
And yeah, if her health is in danger then I can agree with the decision. It's obviously not something you guys reached lightly, and sorry to hear about your aunt :(
This board seriously needs more people like Ulti-- users who can goof off in less serious topics / obvious troll topics, but who can be really kind and respectful when the time is right.
I'll still never be able to forgive myself for doing this-- because her life isn't actually in danger per se. But no situation is black and white, and I am feeling better knowing that we aren't doing this out of purely self-serving aims.
Hopefully whatever karma I just earned will transfer to my aunt's health.
-- SephirothG, channeling awesomeness from Mershiness. The Resurrection
jesus christ your girlfriend got pregnant because you did something foolish and you are getting an abortion, do you really expect anyone to feel sorry for you for that? takes some responsibility.
she deserves our pity for having such a crappy boyfriend who probably makes her feel like an awful person by disapproving of her decision to get an abortion. you go around talking about how "hur im an ivy league grad with the best life ever" and then you expect everyone to not only not laugh, but feel sorry for you? get real. man up, do what needs to be done.
the most pathetic part of all is that you literally said you can only talk about this with the board. that, i think, shows just how sad of a person you are.
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I'm "kind of a big deal". http://img.imgcake.com/cyclo/Cyclopngegpngre.png
do you guys really think sephy should've expected sympathy from Cyclo? really?
Anyways my condolences about your aunt, but I just don't see abortion as that big of a deal so I don't feel like it should bother you as much as it seems to be. You'll get through it.
While I don't agree with the harshness of what cyclo is saying, SephG has said pretty nasty things to cyclo, and I've never seen anyone speak up and call out SephG (or maybe it was sess) for what they are saying. Either you guys are hypocrites or homophobes.
Not that I can ever believe anything that SephG says is true anyway since he trolls so much. "The Boy who Cried Wolf" so to speak.
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"Ahem! There is *sand* on my *boot*!"--Kefka Black Turtle beat me, Yesmar in the Fall 2010 Guru Contest!
I'm pretty sure SephG's "lol i'm an ivy league grad and better than all of you" is a fake internet persona. Sort of like I doubt Ulti really looks down on everyone as much as he pretends to.