Poll of the Day > This HS have a 'Lottery System' to determine Their Prom Dates...

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https://www.yahoo.com/style/prom-dates-are-assigned-by-lottery-at-this-high-school-170223442.html

Would you participate in getting your date by chance?

I'd rather just not go to Prom.

Which is what I did.
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I'd participate, sure.

My biggest issue with romance is making the first move and actually locking down a time and date and activity. Once I get that first step, I can easily charm and warm over my company with intelligent conversation. This would take away the weakest part of my game.
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Tropic_Sunset posted...

I'd rather just not go to Prom.

Which is what I did.

Why didn't you go to prom? My money says "no date and no friends."

I wouldn't participate because I'd be afraid of them withdrawing the second they find out who they got paired with.
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Hell yes I would. I'd never have asked out a girl on my own.

So what are the odds of it being shut down because the boys are the ones drawing the names or because it doesn't allow for same sex couples?
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I wouldn't participate. If I actually cared enough to attend the prom I would only do so with someone I find agreeable. Though honestly I figure some folks attend the prom as a group and simply have a fun time together instead of worrying about finding that one person to go with you.

sounds like a good way to equalize the playing field and get kids to interact with different people in their school

Is this actually a good thing though or would this actually make a difference? Majority of high school students lose contacts with their classmates after graduating. Even with social medias nowadays how many actually keep in touch with former classmates that they weren't close friends with?

JTekashiro posted...

Why didn't you go to prom? My money says "no date and no friends."

In my case you would lose said bet as I simply had no interest in attending the prom. No one bothered to approach me nor did I approach anyone. If I actually wanted to attend the prom I doubt I coulda find anyone wanting to go with me.

Several of my close friends didn't go either. Hell, during middle school, some of us went back to our science class instead of getting the freebie period to attend the 8th grade dance. We actually enjoyed the science class whereas the dance was bloody boring for us.
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Question, is your date being random mandatory or voluntary? Are you allowed to choose your own date if you want to?

“No matter who you get, you know you’re going to have a good time."
That really depends on who you get.

You got that kid who smells and refuses to shower. Good luck with that.
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I went to senior prom by myself. I figured they've have at least one song that wasn't a slow song... but nope! So I just sat there in my nice suit, eating chicken wings, chillin' with my best friend.

InfestedAdam posted...

I wouldn't participate. If I actually cared enough to attend the prom I would only do so with someone I find agreeable. Though honestly I figure some folks attend the prom as a group and simply have a fun time together instead of worrying about finding that one person to go with you.

sounds like a good way to equalize the playing field and get kids to interact with different people in their school

Is this actually a good thing though or would this actually make a difference? Majority of high school students lose contacts with their classmates after graduating. Even with social medias nowadays how many actually keep in touch with former classmates that they weren't close friends with?

JTekashiro posted...

Why didn't you go to prom? My money says "no date and no friends."

In my case you would lose said bet as I simply had no interest in attending the prom. No one bothered to approach me nor did I approach anyone. If I actually wanted to attend the prom I doubt I coulda find anyone wanting to go with me.

Several of my close friends didn't go either. Hell, during middle school, some of us went back to our science class instead of getting the freebie period to attend the 8th grade dance. We actually enjoyed the science class whereas the dance was bloody boring for us.

Sounds like I win, thanks for confirming my suspicions. You didn't go because you lacked friends and a date. You literally said you couldn't have found anybody to go with you even if you wanted to (which you did but it emboldens your pride to say "I never wanted to go"). It is always the same reasons with people.

My advice to you, go live life. Go out there, get dirty and make mistakes. No matter how cool you are somebody will always think you're a loser anyway. Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself once in a while (such as asking a girl to the prom who you are pretty darned sure will say no anyway).

JTekashiro posted...

You didn't go because you lacked friends

Please clarify by what you meant by friends then because I clearly stated I do have friends and among my closest high school friends, all of whom I still hang out with 15+ years later, only one attended the prom. The rest of us didn't have any interest. How did you misinterpret that as me having no friends? We are as close to the stereotypical geeks/nerds as possible. Us not attending the prom should be no surprise.

JTekashiro posted...

You literally said you couldn't have found anybody to go with you even if you wanted to (which you did but it emboldens your pride to say "I never wanted to go"). It is always the same reasons with people.

How did you interpret that from what I stated? I reinforced my lack of interest in attending these school dances when I added that my close friends and I passed on the middle school dance and went back to our science class. If a girl had asked me out I woulda gone but that didn't happen and I didn't care for asking anyone either.

Yes I stated if I had tried I probably wouldn't have found anyone but I didn't try because I didn't care. Please don't assume that I didn't care nor try because I didn't believe I'll find anyone. Are you suggesting I'm lying about not having interest in the prom because I didn't want to try and be rejected? Why is it difficult to accept not everyone have the same social desires as others?

And honestly, this is the internet, pride means nothing. I've admitted on multiple occasions that I was wrong to another PotD and that I'm still at virgin at 33 years old and have never gone on a date. Some folks would sooner sleep with a prostitute than be a virgin for this long. Maybe at one point I cared but that has long been extinguished and even then I would not stoop to that low of a level to lose it to a prostitute.

JTekashiro posted...

My advice to you, go live life. Go out there, get dirty and make mistakes.

At 33 years old certain mistakes now can be dangerous and permanent. I've already made some major mistakes that are hurting me financially and limiting my career growth.

JTekashiro posted...

No matter how cool you are somebody will always think you're a loser anyway.

If that is true, and I'm sure it is with the various jealous comments I see across the internet, there's no point in trying to impress everyone. I should just live my life how I want and if I'm happy that's all that matters. There's no need to prove others, especially strangers, that they're wrong. Plus isn't being happy the best way to prove someone wrong? Or was it the best way of getting revenge? I forgot....Though I guess that happiness can also be a delusion....

Granted I'm trying to defend my stance against you so I guess to some degree I do care but it's more so of me wanting to understand why you automatically assume something of someone just because they haven't done certain things in their lives. We could go back and forth with you making assumptions and me trying to debunk them. At the end of the day I'm just asking you, stop assuming. Plus this is the internet, nothing I say about my personal life can be proven nor debunked. One can only take it at face value.
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WarGreymon77 posted...

I just sat there in my nice suit, eating chicken wings, chillin' with my best friend.

I assume in most cases folks go as a group to simply have fun together and for safety. Whether or not some folks want that one-on-one dance might vary between individuals. I was actually concern when my sister went to her prom with a coworker because the decision to go with her coworker was a last minute thing. Fortunately she and her friends went as a group so there wasn't too much concerns of fowl play.

Honestly I feel the fond memories you make with your friends is all that matters at the end. My friends and I have experienced numerous mishaps in our lives and when looking back at them they were pretty stupid mistakes but we lived through them and laugh at ourselves now for what happened.
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Tropic_Sunset posted...

I'd rather just not go to Prom.

Which is what I did.

This.



JTekashiro posted...

Why didn't you go to prom? My money says "no date and no friends."

I personally didn't go because I've always found the entire concept of prom kind of stupid. All it really is is an awkward school dance where everyone has to pay a ton of money for formal wear and a limo (which was pretty much required where I went to school), and ultimately have a mediocre time. There are far better ways to spend your time and money.

The REAL fun is at the prom afterparties anyway. It was pretty much tradition in my school that everyone would head down to the beach for the weekend after prom, share hotel rooms, indulge in a fair amount of underage drinking, and engage in impulsive and ill-considered hook-ups (at least one of which nearly plunged our town into a West Side Story-esque gang war afterwards, good times). Also, there was go-karting and minigolf, and how can you not love that?

I had way more fun doing that than I ever would have had at prom. And since I didn't have to GO to prom to go to the afterparties, it was win-win.

It wasn't really a money issue (my parents could easily have paid for everything, and almost certainly would have if I'd wanted to go), and it wasn't a "no date" issue (I was dating someone at the time, and she didn't want to go either). It also wasn't a "no friends" issue, because I had plenty of friends in high school (and hung out with most of them that weekend).

Prom sort of falls into the same category as homecoming for a lot of schools, as well into the same category as things like sweet sixteen or cotillion do sociologically - they haven't really been relevant or meaningful for decades, and at this point it's really only social inertia that keeps them existing at all.

Class reunions are starting to fall into that category as well, with modern technology making it easier than ever to stay in touch with the people you actually want to remember from high school while ignoring the others. In an era when 90% of the people you went to school with are all on Facebook anyway, there really isn't much reason to arrange a special formal dinner occasion to bring everyone together (and charge upwards of $100 per person).

People love the IDEA of prom because the media has repeatedly drummed the idea that prom is in some way important or meaningful into people's heads for years, but it really isn't. You aren't missing anything if you don't go, and you won't spend the rest of your life regretting that you didn't (unless you're living a very, very sad life).


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In high school I dated the same guy junior and senior year and we went to prom together.

Having students choose via a lottery system would have screwed that up.

It's one thing if students without dates want to take a chance on the lottery to avoid going alone, but forcing it is ridiculous.
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are they're bringing back arranged marriages too?

the core of the equality movement seems to be make everyone equally miserable.
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Fuck no. I was capable of getting attractive dates already. I didn't need a lottery for that.
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So long as it's a voluntary thing. If everyone going to the prom is required to participate then you're going to have a lot of people who ditch their lottery "date" as soon as they get there, to spend the evening with their gf/bf.
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Well in high school I just went with a friend so going with a random selected wouldn't be a huge deal but that's pretty bogus to screw couples.
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Zangulus posted...

I love how the article brings up several valid issues: gay students, students that want to go alone, dubious pasts, etc. and then absolutely says nothing about those issues.

Well, it's Yahoo, expectations should have been low enough as is.
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JTekashiro posted...

Why didn't you go to prom? My money says "no date and no friends."

Good one. I, too, like to view the world through stereotypes and assume things about people based on a single factoid about them. Such as their skin color.

My money says "no date"

I...just said I didn't go to prom. Of course I didn't have a date, you dunce. Did you mean, "Nobody would go with you"?
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Why would you go to school dance instead of a real date or just hang out with friends?
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Claude_Frollo posted...

I wouldn't participate because I'd be afraid of them withdrawing the second they find out who they got paired with.

This.
My class did something similar for Christmas once. We all brought in a gift, then drew names to determine who recieved our gift. The person who got mine traded it away asap hust because they didn't want anything from me. When I got my gift, the guy who brought it in started throwing a fit because he didn't want me to have his action figure. He wanted his friend to get it. I ended up just giving it to his friend anyway because of the tantrum they were both throwing.

I can just imagine how it would've gone for some girl to get stuck with me for prom. I would've ducked out just to avoid ruining anyone's night. Plus, who ever it would've been would have just ditched me anyway.
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^
This makes me sad.
It sounds like you're so used to your family being terrible to you, that you've normalized it, and expect other people to treat you the same way for no reason.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

^
This makes me sad.
It sounds like you're so used to your family being terrible to you, that you've normalized it, and expect other people to treat you the same way for no reason.

There's that, plus I was like the second or 3rd least popular guy in school. I was bullied a lot.
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Ha, girls are just property that is to be assigned at random.

Good job school.
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Ha, girls are just property that is to be assigned at random.

Good job school.

haha good catch. they might as well have an auction, but with grades as your bid.
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Ha, girls are just property that is to be assigned at random.

Good job school.

So the only way the school can save face is by putting all the news (boys and girls) in the bowl and keep drawing two names at random?
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Participate? Yeah. Go? No.

Junior and senior year I was asked to the prom. But I was too poor and chickenshit and told the girls no.
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No, that's pretty dumb, especially if you're already seeing someone. I get where they're coming from, no one wants to be the dateless loser, but coddling them by assigning them dates isn't going to help. They need to get experience being rejected so that when they're older they can shake it off, move on and try again. Life isn't going to just hand you opportunity very often.

EightySeven posted...

No, that's pretty dumb, especially if you're already seeing someone. I get where they're coming from, no one wants to be the dateless loser, but coddling them by assigning them dates isn't going to help. They need to get experience being rejected so that when they're older they can shake it off, move on and try again. Life isn't going to just hand you opportunity very often.

They've been doing this for like 90 years. Also nobody is forcing you to be with your date the whole time. You get assigned, and show up. What you do then is up to you.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

I'd participate, sure.

My biggest issue with romance is making the first move and actually locking down a time and date and activity. Once I get that first step, I can easily charm and warm over my company with intelligent conversation. This would take away the weakest part of my game.

According to the article, guys still have to ask out the girl they drew
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Muffinz0rz posted...

I'd participate, sure.

My biggest issue with romance is making the first move and actually locking down a time and date and activity. Once I get that first step, I can easily charm and warm over my company with intelligent conversation. This would take away the weakest part of my game.

Don't you enjoy wearing fedora's, by any chance?
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