Current Events > help me out with my ex here, CE

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my ex who i would like to get back together with at some point.

Sooo just a tiny bit of backstory I suppose to give some context. We broke up back at the beginning of november. We haven't really talked a whole lot since then, what little we did talk was usually not, you know, good. She's since been on a few dates and I think made something official with a guy like a week or two ago. Huge ass rebound but it is what it is.

So this morning I texted her and I was just like sup dood. Well we texted for a little bit, nothing serious, showed each other a couple songs to listen to and stuff like that. Learned that her family had gone out of town to see her other extended family, and she stayed behind and was making dinner, for her new bae I just figured out in the last hour or two. Spent all day on it.

So a couple hours ago we were texting, just sending random shit back and forth every so often, blah blah. Tbh it was nice just talking like old times after 2 months of insane depression on my end, even though as far as she was concerned it's just friendly and obviously i want a little more than that. Well she told me that her bf stood her up, or at least rescheduled or some shit. They were gonna have dinner and go for a walk. I know she would have really gone for that so bullet dodged on my part.

her texts to me:

"lol it's w.e. i kind of expected it. Not that I expected a romantic ass date on christmas eve or anything"
"ooo changing his mind when he gets a one word response, classic."
"it might be over for him"



the 3 texts she quoted:

her: you're the man w the shots, call em
him: haha wanna wait till it's warmer for [the park]?
her: sure

to me: "idk. idc anymore. I already cried my makeup off so I don't want to go "

To sum up my end of stuff it was just the usual you know like, what a jerk, who does that, blah blah. I asked if she wanted to find a christmas movie or something to watch but she said she's just gonna drink and play xbox in a bit after she took a bath. Asked if I could join and got a yes. Should also say that we were in like half a long distance relationship, we saw each other a couple times a year when we were together (about 4 1/2 years) but the rest of it was long distance, hadn't committed to moving one way or the other yet.

I kind of was dropping hints all day about certain physical stuff which she just played off, though not outright rejecting. Did something similar when she said she was gonna take a shower just now which she did shut down pretty hard though. Fair enough cause I'm sure it was probably getting old. "not happening. You are a friend right? Act like one, please. I aint interested in anyone like that"

Anyways, I'm just chilling here now, ball's in her court if she wants to text back when she's done.

So, ladies men of CE, do you have any suggestions on how I should go about things from here? I've never really tried to get anyone back before. And I do want to be her friend obviously. I'd take that over not having her in my life at all any day. But I would like to try and get her back. Should I just be a good friend and drop more subtle hints every now and then or what? Help meh.
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ayudame
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HighOnSolar posted...

So, ladies men of CE, do you have any suggestions on how I should go about things from here?

Move on.
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You're torturing yourself, or will be, if you continue on like this. She straight up told you to be her friend and that she's not interested. Help yourself here, man. Only more pain waits for you down this road.
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