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Iwin2013
01/06/18 4:52:32 PM
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Just wondering if anyone on this board has.
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Steve Nick
01/06/18 4:53:34 PM
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Yep.

What do you wanna know?
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ImaAskAQuestion
01/06/18 4:59:38 PM
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I am sexual but prefer to be asexual.


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Lost_All_Senses
01/06/18 5:00:15 PM
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I am sexual but prefer to be asexual.



So you only have sex to make your SO happy?
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Sada_Pop
01/06/18 5:05:38 PM
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That sounds like a friendship
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 5:13:33 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Yep.

What do you wanna know?


So they don't ever have sexual feelings?
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ManBeast462
01/06/18 5:15:23 PM
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 5:20:28 PM
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ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.
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DrizztLink
01/06/18 5:22:43 PM
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Yeah.

I am not asexual.

The relationship ended with bridges burned, the river poisoned, and the earth salted.

For more than that, but it didn't help.
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Steve Nick
01/06/18 6:02:30 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 6:13:04 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.


Hmmm. Did she say how that happen? Or was she just never keen on doing it? Because I was raised in a family where love and sex are natural, for people to want.
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Offworlder1
01/06/18 6:15:30 PM
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No point in my book to date someone asexual, they can be good friends but nothing more.
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Steve Nick
01/06/18 6:18:27 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.


Hmmm. Did she say how that happen? Or was she just never keen on doing it? Because I was raised in a family where love and sex are natural, for people to want.


I don't know the 'why' of it. She seemed to have a healthy homelife and was just a normal girl. She liked cuddling and kissing. Just wouldn't do anything even related to sex.
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 6:49:05 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.


Hmmm. Did she say how that happen? Or was she just never keen on doing it? Because I was raised in a family where love and sex are natural, for people to want.


I don't know the 'why' of it. She seemed to have a healthy homelife and was just a normal girl. She liked cuddling and kissing. Just wouldn't do anything even related to sex.


I did read that for some women, it hurts them a lot.
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Steve Nick
01/06/18 6:52:08 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.


Hmmm. Did she say how that happen? Or was she just never keen on doing it? Because I was raised in a family where love and sex are natural, for people to want.


I don't know the 'why' of it. She seemed to have a healthy homelife and was just a normal girl. She liked cuddling and kissing. Just wouldn't do anything even related to sex.


I did read that for some women, it hurts them a lot.


No that wasn't a concern.

She just wasn't interested in at all. It just didn't matter to her. That's what being asexual is. She didn't have sexual desires. She didn't masturbate. Etc.
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 7:08:00 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.


Well, the girl I liked was cute and we were friends. I dated her before knowing she was asexual. She wasn't very upfront about it, and didn't really label herself.

She finally put it into plain terms eventually, saying she would never want sex, and that she had only had it once before, and was entirely indifferent to the process.

I broke up with her over it.


Hmmm. Did she say how that happen? Or was she just never keen on doing it? Because I was raised in a family where love and sex are natural, for people to want.


I don't know the 'why' of it. She seemed to have a healthy homelife and was just a normal girl. She liked cuddling and kissing. Just wouldn't do anything even related to sex.


I did read that for some women, it hurts them a lot.


No that wasn't a concern.

She just wasn't interested in at all. It just didn't matter to her. That's what being asexual is. She didn't have sexual desires. She didn't masturbate. Etc.


Hmmm.
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Ultima Dragon
01/06/18 7:15:03 PM
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It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 7:22:36 PM
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Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.
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Gamer99z
01/06/18 7:23:35 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
ManBeast462 posted...
Why bother?


That's what I'm saying. The whole point of dating is to find someone to love, make love/sex with, etc. Why bother with asexual people? I can see if it was a mental issue, because of a prior SO treating them like shit.

Even with that last part, if it's not something they're working on or ever changes, being in a situation where a woman is like "I indefinitely have no desire to be sexual with you in any way because of something someone did to me 5 years ago" would eventually start causing problems. Intimacy is an important part of a relationship. If the other person has no interest in one of the biggest areas of a relationship then why even be in one?
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ClockworkHare
01/06/18 7:27:37 PM
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Steve Nick
01/06/18 7:28:09 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.


Asexual people don't get turned on.
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Iwin2013
01/06/18 7:45:04 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.


Asexual people don't get turned on.


Then I guess shes just stingee.
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NonDairyMiltank
01/06/18 7:53:29 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.


Asexual people don't get turned on.

they do, just not in the typically sexualized sense
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REMercsChamp
01/06/18 7:54:58 PM
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Yeah, the sex was great
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Ryven
01/06/18 8:05:35 PM
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What people dont really realize is that asexual compared to not asexual isnt exactly black and white. Theres varying levels like Demisexuality, grey ace, etc. Some asexuals only get turned on from a fetish and nothing else. Some asexuals do feel sexual attraction but would never act upon it. Theres a whole bunch of info on that stuff on various websites.
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jmikla
01/06/18 8:09:39 PM
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Iwin2013 posted...
Just wondering if anyone on this board has.

nah just heard of someone who married an asexual and found out after the marriage. then she got an annulment
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Havik
01/06/18 8:36:25 PM
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NonDairyMiltank posted...
Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.


Asexual people don't get turned on.

they do, just not in the typically sexualized sense


Speaking specifically about myself, I don't. This however is generally correct.
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ImaAskAQuestion
01/06/18 11:35:09 PM
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
ImaAskAQuestion posted...
I am sexual but prefer to be asexual.



So you only have sex to make your SO happy?


I understand the human needs. I cannot just restrict them.
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Kajagogo
01/06/18 11:39:56 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
Iwin2013 posted...
Ultima Dragon posted...
It would be rough to be asexual, you've got to admit. I think that's a pretty big dealbreaker for 99% of people, they would probably break up with you immediately after finding out or once they couldn't "break" you. So your dating pool is basically limited to other asexuals, but what do they even want and does it differ from one asexual to another? Like do they desire some physical content like hugging, cuddling, kissing? Or do they just want something strictly platonic but maybe still enjoy doing things as a couple?

I've never dated one. I could have when I was still a virgin back in the day but definitely not now. Sometimes I feel like I could take or leave sex and sometimes it's not worth the trouble. I usually have some degree of post orgasmic dysphoria after the initial horniness and rush wears off. Then I just want to be alone pretty much. >_>

To be in a relationship and not even do it at least once a week wouldn't work for me though. So I guess I'll never be getting married then, mirite boys? Haha.


Well I mean, my GF has to be somewhat. She doesnt master bate, and isnt interested in sex even though I know she gets turned on.


Asexual people don't get turned on.


That's absolutely not true at all.
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