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fenderbender321
10/12/18 11:53:31 AM
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If somebody says something offensive and mean or something in one instance, it could mean they are just having a bad day. It doesn't meant they mean what they said forever.

Yet, we treat them that way. "This one person said _____ ______ ______ ____ one time, so they are a piece of shit."

It's like...no...they were a piece of shit in that moment.
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EzeDoesIt
10/12/18 11:56:25 AM
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I agree and there are a bunch of celebrities feeling the consequences of this misconception right now.
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CyricZ
10/12/18 12:00:55 PM
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fenderbender321 posted...
It's like...no...they were a piece of shit in that moment.

And the question then becomes "is it worth the risk supporting them if it means they will be a piece of shit in other moments"?

Oh, and the people we tend to properly turn on as a society? It's rarely just one incident. It tends to be a pattern. It may be one incident that's the straw that breaks the camel's back, but it only caps off a typically already storied history.
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fenderbender321
10/12/18 12:03:39 PM
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I started thinking about this when researching the Beatles. John Lennon died young, so we didn't get to hear a lot of his side of the songs.

People would ask him about a particular song, and he'd say "Oh that's the a throwaway song". And then a bunch of people would say "That song sucks, John even hated it!"

But upon uncovering more testimony from the other Beatles, and all the takes and practice session recordings, you can see that John more than likely did like that song to a certain degree, and was simply just expressing how he felt about that particular song on that particular day during that particular interview in that particular mode, which appeared to be passive.

I thought about this, and thought....you know, this sort of understanding should apply to other things. People should be allowed to be in a bad mood and say things they don't mean every now and then. We should have a certain degree of tolerance for that. But we are quickly losing that tolerance.
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fenderbender321
10/12/18 12:04:01 PM
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CyricZ posted...
fenderbender321 posted...
It's like...no...they were a piece of shit in that moment.

And the question then becomes "is it worth the risk supporting them if it means they will be a piece of shit in other moments"?

Oh, and the people we tend to properly turn on as a society? It's rarely just one incident. It tends to be a pattern. It may be one incident that's the straw that breaks the camel's back, but it only caps off a typically already storied history.


Fair points.
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Megaman50100
10/12/18 12:05:03 PM
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I like people who don't have bad days.
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CyricZ
10/12/18 12:10:02 PM
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fenderbender321 posted...
I thought about this, and thought....you know, this sort of understanding should apply to other things. People should be allowed to be in a bad mood and say things they don't mean every now and then. We should have a certain degree of tolerance for that. But we are quickly losing that tolerance.

In typical real-life social interactions (work, family, etc.), I'd agree with you. The problem is given the ephemeral nature of online interactions, it's tough to maintain cohesiveness between every SINGLE person you interact with, because you interact with so many, and the vast majority of them you know very little besides their immediate communication at that moment, so there's a tendency to make quicker judgments.

In the end, you're basically getting hundreds of first impressions at once in an online social interaction (like CE), and they're the ones that will stick.

And even then, there are always going to be SOME things in life where, even in a real world situation, saying a certain thing will stick with people forever.

I would never remove the onus from the person *saying* the thing and put it on the people *hearing* the thing. We should always be responsible for ourselves, bad days or no.
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Guide
10/12/18 12:12:16 PM
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I agree with the concept, but at the same time, no one I know has ever had a racist outburst even on their worst days. There are things may happen once that can signal other, deeper problems.
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