Current Events > People who go on dates so the guy can pay for everything?

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I always pay for everything i am cool with it
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YookaLaylee posted...

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I really hope youre not offended by this but that sounds more like an escort service than a date

I actually read it as she's being polite and respectful (whilst also getting a meal out of it).

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If we do dinner, which I rarely do on the first date, I always go half. It works for me but then again most guys aren't me.

Austin_Era_II posted...

YookaLaylee posted...

Austin_Era_II posted...

First date should be a simple coffee date.

That doesn't sound like a date

It is. I'm in my 30s. First date would be a simple coffee. I don't waste time eating with a dumbass. My time is my money. If she ain't adding to my wealth I move on.

I like this mindset and its one I personally use. Coffee first, boba more recently, to get a feel for her or her personality to see if she is worth my time. I've also banged off of coffee dates too. Its no big thing if the chemistry is there.

I wonder if the girls in here who have admitted to using guys for free meals also believe in women's rights stuff. Talk about a contradiction.

OldIronKing posted...

I wonder if the girls in here who have admitted to using guys for free meals also believe in women's rights stuff. Talk about a contradiction.

Has nothing to do with womens rights though. Its basic supply and demand. If a girl has a dozen dudes lined up wanting and more than willing to take her out and pay for her dinner, why would she settle for the one dude who wont?

I usually pay for the first date because I know girls have to pay for their make up and **** and they are potentially meeting somebody that can rape them or something. Do I go to expensive places on the first date? No lol
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Sit down at restaurant and order drinks.
Waiter brings drinks and asks to take your order.
"Ladies first", you say with a smile.
She orders.
You order.
Before the waiter walks off, say "Oh this will be separate checks"
Watch the look of horror on her face.
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Guys should never splurge on a good dinner for a rando chick. But lets be honest that youre probably gonna have to at least buy the chick some drinks
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masticatingman posted...

Guys should never splurge on a good dinner for a rando chick. But lets be honest that youre probably gonna have to at least buy the chick some drinks

Groupon baby

OldIronKing posted...

Groupon baby

I tried to save coupons for the 2nd or 3rd date just to make sure we're aligned spending-wise.

My wife commends me on being stupendously cheap ass but I like to think I've even gotten her on board with hunting for discounts, getting cashbacks/shopbacks/etc, optimising credit card points/cashback, using discounted egift cards, etc. But then I remind her that's how I can afford to buy her a nice handbag.

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Summarizer posted...

YookaLaylee posted...

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I really hope youre not offended by this but that sounds more like an escort service than a date

Wasn't she a sex worker? I guess it's to be expected that she's so pragmatic about it. It's why I decided not to be a stripper even though I was tempted. The money may have been good, but I'd hate to see all the worst of people and to learn to see myself as a commodity.

Thanks I prefer that being seen as pragmatic- Im on dating apps doing the same shit everyone else is doing: hoping for a genuine spark or a person interesting enough to try to make something work with. Thats obviously not going to be just every guy with a phone app. Im okay with doing the leg work of fielding app messages from literally hundreds of people Im flooded with when I get on them, sorting it down to like 10 or so people, meeting up and trying to enjoy the experience while Im there whether or not it ends up being what either of us are looking for or not. I just so happen to prefer doing dinner. I love food and I love talking, and this lets me do both. Plus this bitch always hungry. just how she goes
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The Admiral posted...

If guys are dumb enough to take a girl to a nice restaurant (or restaurant at all, for that matter) on a first date, it's on them.

At the same time, people constantly rag on guys who don't want to pay full for the first date.
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jjp05c posted...

metallica846 posted...

I don't meet ladies online, but the first dates I have been on, we split the check.

Thats bc youre cheap.

And what are the women who do what the topic title says? Not cheap?

Twin3Turbo posted...

Basically, from what I've seen from women both online, talking to them in person, and actually going on dates. Women either fully expect you to pay OR even if they are willing and Ok with splitting, they like/appreciate/prefer if the man pays it all.

So basically, there is usually no benefit gained by not paying. Meaning, if you don't pay fully, you don't gain any favor with them. They either view it neutrally or negatively. If you do pay, they either view it neutrally or positively.

If you pay and then nothing happens, you lost bigger than if you didn't pay and nothing happened.
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Febrel posted...

And what are the women who do what the topic title says? Not cheap?

If you pay and then nothing happens, you lost bigger than if you didn't pay and nothing happened.

Keep in mind, in that post Im speaking strictly from a will you gain favor from her or not perspective. Similar to what you put, if you split and she views it negative, you could view that as a positive if you were looking to weed women with the I want the guy to pay mindset out.

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