Current Events > My manager keeps misgendering one of my coworkers

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Politics 11/15/19 10:44:12 AM #1:	We have a FtM new kid working here, and one of my assistant managers keeps referring to him as she/her. At first he would kinda try to correct himself and say she but it is getting to the point where I seriously think he is doing it on purpose. He is a Trump supporter too so surprise surprise. I want to say something but I try to keep a pretty low profile at work. Drama free and just do my job, but I feel obligated to help this person and he's been really nice to me (I trained him myself). I guess sometimes you have to do what you have to do >_< --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930172843] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>We have a FtM new kid working here, and one of my assistant managers keeps referring to him as she/her. At first he would kinda try to correct himself and say she but it is getting to the point where I seriously think he is doing it on purpose. He is a Trump supporter too so surprise surprise. I want to say something but I try to keep a pretty low profile at work. Drama free and just do my job, but I feel obligated to help this person and he's been really nice to me (I trained him myself). I guess sometimes you have to do what you have to do >_<</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BuckVanHammer 11/15/19 10:47:18 AM #2:	thats pretty shitty if you honestly think hes doing it on purpose. go to hr and complain. --- Minimal, yet feature rich. <cite>BuckVanHammer posted [p:930172954] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>thats pretty shitty if you honestly think hes doing it on purpose. go to hr and complain.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CyricZ 11/15/19 10:49:32 AM #4:	Whenever someone's sentences contain "....she ------- SORRY HE---", you know they're just doing it to piss them off. Shapiro does the same thing. Ask yourself if it's more important to do the right thing or keep the job stress free. We can't make the decision for you. --- CyricZ <cite>CyricZ posted [p:930173042] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Whenever someone's sentences contain "....she ------- SORRY HE---", you know they're just doing it to piss them off. Shapiro does the same thing. Ask yourself if it's more important to do the right thing or keep the job stress free. We can't make the decision for you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrMallard 11/15/19 10:50:44 AM #5:	Are you petty enough to contradict your boss whenever he gets shitty? Like when he's misgendering your co-worker, call out "Hey, can someone get Derek over here? I could really use his help right now!" Make it a game, whenever your boss uses she/her, try and replace it with a he/him as soon as possible. That affirmation of your co-worker's gender identity, and show of solidarity in the face of your Trumpeter boss, will help him cope just that little bit better. --- And I am done with my graceless heart, so tonight I'm gonna cut it out and then restart Now Playing: Yakuza 5, Final Fantasy X-2, Minecraft <cite>MrMallard posted [p:930173099] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Are you petty enough to contradict your boss whenever he gets shitty? Like when he's misgendering your co-worker, call out "Hey, can someone get Derek over here? I could really use his help right now!" Make it a game, whenever your boss uses she/her, try and replace it with a he/him as soon as possible. That affirmation of your co-worker's gender identity, and show of solidarity in the face of your Trumpeter boss, will help him cope just that little bit better.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CyricZ 11/15/19 10:51:46 AM #6:	You could be petty, but in my experience, no one out-petty's Trumpers. --- CyricZ <cite>CyricZ posted [p:930173142] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>You could be petty, but in my experience, no one out-petty's Trumpers. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 11/15/19 10:52:11 AM #7:	CyricZ posted... Whenever someone's sentences contain "....she ------- SORRY HE---", you know they're just doing it to piss them off. Shapiro does the same thing. Ask yourself if it's more important to do the right thing or keep the job stress free. We can't make the decision for you. Some benefit of the doubt: I can totally see myself making this mistake in earnest. But I'm certainly no Trump supporter. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:930173156] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>CyricZ posted... </cite> <quote>Whenever someone's sentences contain "....she ------- SORRY HE---", you know they're just doing it to piss them off. Shapiro does the same thing. Ask yourself if it's more important to do the right thing or keep the job stress free. We can't make the decision for you.</quote> Some benefit of the doubt: I can totally see myself making this mistake in earnest. But I'm certainly no Trump supporter. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PatrickMahomes 11/15/19 11:00:01 AM #8:	Politics posted... I try to keep a pretty low profile at work Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place. --- My knee feels better <cite>PatrickMahomes posted [p:930173480] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Politics posted...</cite> <quote>I try to keep a pretty low profile at work</quote> Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 11/15/19 11:02:48 AM #9:	PatrickMahomes posted... Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place. Fuck does "not your place" even mean? There's no legal barrier here. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:930173583] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>PatrickMahomes posted... </cite> <quote>Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place.</quote> Fuck does "not your place" even mean? There's no legal barrier here. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ffmasterjose 11/15/19 11:03:34 AM #10:	PatrickMahomes posted... Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place. This. I'd mind my own business. Not your pig, not your farm . <cite>ffmasterjose posted [p:930173620] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>PatrickMahomes posted... </cite> <quote>Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place.</quote> This. I'd mind my own business. Not your pig, not your farm . </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CookieMarvin 11/15/19 11:05:56 AM #11:	ooh its time for the if you say a damn thing to hr you are scum insects to come crawling out again if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to. --- https://i.imgtc.com/tiJ2WDn.jpg <cite>CookieMarvin posted [p:930173707] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>ooh its time for the if you say a damn thing to hr you are scum insects to come crawling out again if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CommonStar 11/15/19 11:09:43 AM #12:	Go to HR and tell them about it. <cite>CommonStar posted [p:930173854] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Go to HR and tell them about it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Funkydog 11/15/19 11:11:13 AM #13:	CookieMarvin posted... ooh its time for the if you say a damn thing to hr you are scum insects to come crawling out again if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to. This. The "Just keep your head down" suggestions are frankly disappointing. Ignoring issues allow them to fester, and if you won't stand up for others then what if you suffer at the hands of the same dickish manager? Should everyone else just ignore it, or would you want someone in your corner? --- https://imgur.com/BGbZK <cite>Funkydog posted [p:930173920] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>CookieMarvin posted...</cite> <quote>ooh its time for the if you say a damn thing to hr you are scum insects to come crawling out again if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to. </quote> This. The "Just keep your head down" suggestions are frankly disappointing. Ignoring issues allow them to fester, and if you won't stand up for others then what if you suffer at the hands of the same dickish manager? Should everyone else just ignore it, or would you want someone in your corner?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ElatedVenusaur 11/15/19 11:20:25 AM #15:	Yeah, you definitely should say something. Saying something to your boss won't be helpful, of course: if they're enough of a dick to keep misgendering some one, calling them out isn't going to do anything. Bring the matter up with a superior. If you feel intimidated, you could even try to do so anonymously. <cite>ElatedVenusaur posted [p:930174278] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, you definitely should say something. Saying something to your boss won't be helpful, of course: if they're enough of a dick to keep misgendering some one, calling them out isn't going to do anything. Bring the matter up with a superior. If you feel intimidated, you could even try to do so anonymously.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Banjo2553 11/15/19 11:20:35 AM #16:	Yeah, I don't agree with the "keep your head down" comments, sorry. Most workplaces even encourage that if you see something in ethics that you don't agree with, to bring it up to a Manager or HR. --- Game collection: http://www.backloggery.com/bakonbitz Gaming channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwVQm69J7bGScbv3_50C0dA <cite>Banjo2553 posted [p:930174288] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, I don't agree with the "keep your head down" comments, sorry. Most workplaces even encourage that if you see something in ethics that you don't agree with, to bring it up to a Manager or HR.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Romes187 11/15/19 11:21:02 AM #17:	i wish i were brave <cite>Romes187 posted [p:930174306] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>i wish i were brave </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DifferentialEquation 11/15/19 11:21:05 AM #18:	PatrickMahomes posted... Politics posted... I try to keep a pretty low profile at work Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place. This. It's usually best not to get involved in arguments between coworkers. Take a side and you may have to work with the person you sided against on some project. Just let them work it out on their own. --- There's no business to be taxed. <cite>DifferentialEquation posted [p:930174307] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>PatrickMahomes posted...</cite> <quote>Politics posted...</cite> <quote>I try to keep a pretty low profile at work</quote> Do this. Stay out of it. It sucks but it's not your place.</quote> This. It's usually best not to get involved in arguments between coworkers. Take a side and you may have to work with the person you sided against on some project. Just let them work it out on their own.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 11/15/19 11:22:30 AM #19:	Depending on the dynamics at work, you could also confront the boss directly, but I don't know your environment or situation. Even if he's generally an asshole otherwise, I'd want to be certain before I pulled the trigger. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:930174363] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Depending on the dynamics at work, you could also confront the boss directly, but I don't know your environment or situation. Even if he's generally an asshole otherwise, I'd want to be certain before I pulled the trigger. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The23rdMagus 11/15/19 11:31:53 AM #20:	Do the right thing. --- ~Drewnami~ A beacon of Light from a burning screen. <cite>The23rdMagus posted [p:930174733] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Do the right thing. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PatrickMahomes 11/15/19 11:32:45 AM #21:	CommonStar posted... Go to HR and tell them about it. Actually this is a better idea than getting involved face-to-face, but your goal is still to remain anonymous. There has to be some sort of "whistleblower hotline" you can call. Do it from some anonymous number when you aren't at work so your boss has no way of tracking it back to you. --- My knee feels better <cite>PatrickMahomes posted [p:930174779] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>CommonStar posted...</cite> <quote>Go to HR and tell them about it.</quote> Actually this is a better idea than getting involved face-to-face, but your goal is still to remain anonymous. There has to be some sort of "whistleblower hotline" you can call. Do it from some anonymous number when you aren't at work so your boss has no way of tracking it back to you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CommonStar 11/15/19 11:36:37 AM #22:	PatrickMahomes posted... CommonStar posted... Go to HR and tell them about it. Actually this is a better idea than getting involved face-to-face, but your goal is still to remain anonymous. There has to be some sort of "whistleblower hotline" you can call. Do it from some anonymous number when you aren't at work so your boss has no way of tracking it back to you. You can tell HR to keep it anonymous. They'll investigate your concerns. And if the boss finds out somehow, workplace retaliation would be against policy anyway. <cite>CommonStar posted [p:930174925] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>PatrickMahomes posted...</cite> <quote>CommonStar posted...</cite> <quote>Go to HR and tell them about it.</quote> Actually this is a better idea than getting involved face-to-face, but your goal is still to remain anonymous. There has to be some sort of "whistleblower hotline" you can call. Do it from some anonymous number when you aren't at work so your boss has no way of tracking it back to you.</quote> You can tell HR to keep it anonymous. They'll investigate your concerns. And if the boss finds out somehow, workplace retaliation would be against policy anyway.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
iPhone_7 11/15/19 11:40:57 AM #23:	Always do the right thing. Its never wrong to do the right thing. Always do it and youll have a clean conscious & no regrets. Always. Thats how were going to win, not by fighting what we hate, saving what we love. --- Sig User Logic https://imgur.com/lA5fm7w <cite>iPhone_7 posted [p:930175133] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Always do the right thing. Its never wrong to do the right thing. Always do it and youll have a clean conscious & no regrets. Always. Thats how were going to win, not by fighting what we hate, saving what we love.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nidhoggr 11/15/19 11:40:59 AM #24:	Why should all of society have to change for the sake of 0.5% of the population? You can have your equal rights but don't expect anything more from me. <cite>Nidhoggr posted [p:930175134] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Why should all of society have to change for the sake of 0.5% of the population? You can have your equal rights but don't expect anything more from me.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 11/15/19 11:42:13 AM #25:	Your coworkers have to constantly avoid calling you a dick, so surely you'd be able to relate. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:930175181] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Your coworkers have to constantly avoid calling you a dick, so surely you'd be able to relate. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
thrashmetal14 11/15/19 11:42:19 AM #26:	I would say something to the managers face. If you got a real career job though I'd just go to HR. <cite>thrashmetal14 posted [p:930175191] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>I would say something to the managers face. If you got a real career job though I'd just go to HR. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
shnangyboos 11/15/19 11:46:26 AM #27:	Does he actually care? Does he want you to do this for him? You might get this dude in the middle of some shit that he doesn't want to be involved in. --- How's my posting? Call http://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/182361-human-resource-machine for any comments or concerns. <cite>shnangyboos posted [p:930175388] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Does he actually care? Does he want you to do this for him? You might get this dude in the middle of some shit that he doesn't want to be involved in. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
teepan95 11/15/19 11:50:57 AM #28:	CookieMarvin posted... if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to. --- I use Gameraven and you should too. "I don't f****** care about anyone's penis but mine..." - Machete <cite>teepan95 posted [p:930175587] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>CookieMarvin posted... </cite> <quote>if you legitimately think hes doing it out of bad faith, tc, you should say something. marginalized people need other folks looking out for them in the workplace. it would be infinitely safer for you to say something than for him to.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Politics 11/15/19 11:51:31 AM #29:	shnangyboos posted... Does he actually care? Does he want you to do this for him? You might get this dude in the middle of some shit that he doesn't want to be involved in. The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause. --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930175617] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>shnangyboos posted...</cite> <quote>Does he actually care? Does he want you to do this for him? You might get this dude in the middle of some shit that he doesn't want to be involved in. </quote> The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Sonic 11/15/19 11:52:43 AM #30:	I want the word "misgender" banned from GameFAQs, it's just a powder keg. --- Tell me how you feel upon learning that I write MLP fanfiction. <cite>Solid Sonic posted [p:930175660] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>I want the word "misgender" banned from GameFAQs, it's just a powder keg. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EzeDoesIt 11/15/19 11:55:05 AM #31:	--- "Beef is when I quote you, guaranteed to break the TOU." -The Notorious Shablagoo <cite>EzeDoesIt posted [p:930175756] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Feline_Heart 11/15/19 11:55:10 AM #32:	Hopefully he'll sue your manager or something --- Pickles the Drummer doodily doo ding dong doodily doodily doo <cite>Feline_Heart posted [p:930175762] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Hopefully he'll sue your manager or something</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Politics 11/15/19 11:57:46 AM #34:	kewldude475 posted... Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too. ??? --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930175880] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>kewldude475 posted...</cite> <quote>Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too.</quote> ???</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Feline_Heart 11/15/19 11:58:38 AM #35:	kewldude475 posted... Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too. This is some really tasteless trolling --- Pickles the Drummer doodily doo ding dong doodily doodily doo <cite>Feline_Heart posted [p:930175921] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>kewldude475 posted...</cite> <quote>Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too.</quote> This is some really tasteless trolling</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The23rdMagus 11/15/19 12:00:11 PM #36:	kewldude475 posted... Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too. Thought we were supposed to stand with our bros. --- ~Drewnami~ A beacon of Light from a burning screen. <cite>The23rdMagus posted [p:930175984] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>kewldude475 posted... </cite> <quote>Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too.</quote>Thought we were supposed to stand with our bros. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pogo_Marimo 11/15/19 12:00:28 PM #37:	Yeah man, it would be really rough if you had to speak with HR a couple of times. Meanwhile your coworker is being demeaned on a daily basis and living with constant harassment, but just think about how difficult YOUR life would be. Ah, what a shame. Sounds like a true burden YOU have to bear. Guess it just sucks to be your coworker, right? I mean, the problems you'd have to face would just be so, so much worse though, you know? Like, uh, doing the right thing, am I right? What a burden. You fucking know what you need to do. Grow a spine and stop just thinking about what's comfortable for YOU. --- I presume my time here in my darkblack dragondark steel-obliterating solitude has come to its end as well. http://www.last.fm/user/Pogo92 <cite>Pogo_Marimo posted [p:930176001] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Yeah man, it would be really rough if you had to speak with HR a couple of times. Meanwhile your coworker is being demeaned on a daily basis and living with constant harassment, but just think about how difficult YOUR life would be. Ah, what a shame. Sounds like a true burden YOU have to bear. Guess it just sucks to be your coworker, right? I mean, the problems you'd have to face would just be so, so much worse though, you know? Like, uh, doing the right thing, am I right? What a burden. You fucking know what you need to do. Grow a spine and stop just thinking about what's comfortable for YOU. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
shnangyboos 11/15/19 12:04:32 PM #38:	Politics posted... The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause. Personally, I'd talk to the manager before escalating it. Nothing accusatory or hostile, just look man, you keep calling him her and it's really bothering him, just bringing it to your attention in case you were unaware. I don't know your relationship with the manager, though, so that might not work. --- How's my posting? Call http://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/182361-human-resource-machine for any comments or concerns. <cite>shnangyboos posted [p:930176179] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Politics posted... </cite> <quote>The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause.</quote> Personally, I'd talk to the manager before escalating it. Nothing accusatory or hostile, just look man, you keep calling him her and it's really bothering him, just bringing it to your attention in case you were unaware. I don't know your relationship with the manager, though, so that might not work. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Politics 11/15/19 12:08:29 PM #39:	shnangyboos posted... Politics posted... The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause. Personally, I'd talk to the manager before escalating it. Nothing accusatory or hostile, just look man, you keep calling him her and it's really bothering him, just bringing it to your attention in case you were unaware. I don't know your relationship with the manager, though, so that might not work. The thing is its just an assistant manager who is saying this. The general manager is actually a lesbian so I think if I talked to her about it she might be able to do something. I just need to be there a day she is there and he isn't --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930176336] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>shnangyboos posted...</cite> <quote>Politics posted... </cite> <quote>The trans co worker was literally just complaining about it to me yesterday, and my boss literally several times has misgendered him right to his face, like literally standing right next to him. The thing is I'm getting my Masters in a few months and I'm planning on leaving this job (its just a crappy retail job I do on the side to support myself while finishing up grad school) so the thing is I'm trying to keep my work life as mellow and drama free as I can while I'm still here. I am literally MONTHS away from putting in my two weeks and I have jobs I'm lining up in the mean time. I also have relatives that would let me live with them while I look for other jobs so either way I am getting the hell out of here relatively soon. That being said I'm literally Politics and I feel like I should be doing something to help the cause.</quote> Personally, I'd talk to the manager before escalating it. Nothing accusatory or hostile, just look man, you keep calling him her and it's really bothering him, just bringing it to your attention in case you were unaware. I don't know your relationship with the manager, though, so that might not work. </quote> The thing is its just an assistant manager who is saying this. The general manager is actually a lesbian so I think if I talked to her about it she might be able to do something. I just need to be there a day she is there and he isn't</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Alpha218 11/15/19 12:13:31 PM #41:	How would you feel if you were in a similar situation, and someone with the power to help, didnt? --- I'm Commander Shepard, and this is my favorite user on the Citadel. Mario Maker 2 Maker ID: X6G-JGS-BFG; Dead by Daylight Discord: https://discord.gg/s6gDduM <cite>Alpha218 posted [p:930176556] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>How would you feel if you were in a similar situation, and someone with the power to help, didnt? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Politics 11/15/19 12:14:29 PM #42:	Alpha218 posted... How would you feel if you were in a similar situation, and someone with the power to help, didnt? Okay good point. I will deal with this the next day I work there. I promise CE. I am Politics. --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930176593] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Alpha218 posted...</cite> <quote>How would you feel if you were in a similar situation, and someone with the power to help, didnt? </quote> Okay good point. I will deal with this the next day I work there. I promise CE. I am Politics.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
winstonthewhite 11/15/19 12:19:11 PM #43:	https://i.imgur.com/344JSrn.png . --- -WtW- <cite>winstonthewhite posted [p:930176813] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>https://i.imgur.com/344JSrn.png . </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EdgeMaster 11/15/19 12:28:42 PM #46:	Politics posted... shnangyboos posted... (its just a crappy retail job) So much for taking it up with HR then lol. kewldude475 posted... Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too. Lmao. This is true on several different levels. Guy or girl, they are their own person and can fight their own battles at their min wage job. If you think you need to protect your coworker because theyre a girl then thats sexist and transphobic. --- If you don't have anything nice to say, say it on the internet. ****poster Extraordinaire <cite>EdgeMaster posted [p:930177257] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Politics posted...</cite> <quote>shnangyboos posted...</cite> (its just a crappy retail job)</quote> So much for taking it up with HR then lol. kewldude475 posted...</cite> <quote>Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too.</quote> Lmao. This is true on several different levels. Guy or girl, they are their own person and can fight their own battles at their min wage job. If you think you need to protect your coworker because theyre a girl then thats sexist and transphobic.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Politics 11/15/19 1:00:26 PM #48:	kewldude475 posted... EdgeMaster posted... Politics posted... shnangyboos posted... (its just a crappy retail job) So much for taking it up with HR then lol. kewldude475 posted... Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too. Lmao. This is true on several different levels. Guy or girl, they are their own person and can fight their own battles at their min wage job. If you think you need to protect your coworker because theyre a girl then thats sexist and transphobic. Oh it's a minimum wage job? Lmao then yes, your coworker needs to address this himself. What's the worst they can do to him? Fire him? LMAO. On the other hand, it being a menial job makes it easier for you to get involved, since you don't need that job anyways. Do what you wanna do TC. It's not minimum wage lol. I won't say how much I make but it's a decent wage for where I live. I also get a special name tag and get paid extra to train people. Not saying it isn't a shit job but at least I'm not constantly broke haha. I don't know we are having quarterly meetings pretty soon where we have one on one's with a manager to bring up concerns, I think I'll just slyly mention it then. --- penis <cite>Politics posted [p:930178618] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>kewldude475 posted...</cite> <quote>EdgeMaster posted...</cite> <quote>Politics posted...</cite> <quote>shnangyboos posted...</cite> (its just a crappy retail job)</quote> So much for taking it up with HR then lol. kewldude475 posted...</cite> <quote>Your coworker is a man. Let him be a man and go to HR himself. He's not some little girl that needs protecting. Sounds like YOU'RE the one misgendering him too.</quote> Lmao. This is true on several different levels. Guy or girl, they are their own person and can fight their own battles at their min wage job. If you think you need to protect your coworker because theyre a girl then thats sexist and transphobic.</quote> Oh it's a minimum wage job? Lmao then yes, your coworker needs to address this himself. What's the worst they can do to him? Fire him? LMAO. On the other hand, it being a menial job makes it easier for you to get involved, since you don't need that job anyways. Do what you wanna do TC.</quote> It's not minimum wage lol. I won't say how much I make but it's a decent wage for where I live. I also get a special name tag and get paid extra to train people. Not saying it isn't a shit job but at least I'm not constantly broke haha. I don't know we are having quarterly meetings pretty soon where we have one on one's with a manager to bring up concerns, I think I'll just slyly mention it then.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lairen 11/15/19 1:04:25 PM #49:	Ive had times i went to hr, 100% right, but it dissolved into a "Well you cant really prove that" and nothing happened at all. Good luck. --- When it rains, it pours. <cite>Lairen posted [p:930178788] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>Ive had times i went to hr, 100% right, but it dissolved into a "Well you cant really prove that" and nothing happened at all. Good luck.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_Matchabuu_ 11/15/19 1:06:24 PM #50:	BuckVanHammer posted... thats pretty shitty if you honestly think hes doing it on purpose. go to hr and complain. This --- uwu SW-0239-3946-8686 <cite>_Matchabuu_ posted [p:930178874] in My manager... [t:78162637]...</cite> <quote>BuckVanHammer posted...</cite> <quote>thats pretty shitty if you honestly think hes doing it on purpose. go to hr and complain.</quote> This</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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