Poll of the Day > Have you ever been a FAKE NICE PERSON before???

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Are you one of those people who has to act super fake nice to someone before? Whether it was because you didn't want to make waves with that person or you were trying to butter them up to get something you want even though you hate their guts?.

According to statistics,80% of people are GUILTY of doing that..mainly for job purposes and friendship benefits. super fake nice people are a guilty pleasure for most people, especially if it's an enemy from the past who happens to now have something you want...

Are you guilty of that?

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Ya, it's called working retail

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Lokarin posted...

Ya, it's called working

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I was a team lead so it pretty much comes with the territory. Part of the reason I'm no longer doing it is because I could no longer keep up the facade.


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Yes, I too have had a job before. Literally everyone who has been employed for more than a day has been "fake nice".

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Its my job to be fake nice

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Once, long time ago, for personal gain, someone else bribed me into it. Landed me in a one-sided friendship with a suffocating clingy fatass.

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no I really cherish you all.

It's call work. Happy clients are more agreeable. Happy employees are more productive. Keeping everyone happy makes work smooth.

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Lokarin posted...

Ya, it's called working retail

Damn, I voted no, but this is very true.

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What if I am a good person at one given time but am a bad person later without any lies whatsoever?

If I had a button that would blow up the world I would push it instantly, but since I can't do that I try to improve the world instead?

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Lokarin posted...

Ya, it's called working retail

Literally came to this topic just to reply, "Yes, I've worked in retail"
And there you are, nailing it in the first reply :)

I would say at the worst I have just been indifferent to certain co-workers when directly dealing with them. I do not fake being courteous. I am either on friendly terms with them or I see them as just someone I work with and nothing more.

There are a handful that are difficult to deal with but only one that I occasionally vent about with other coworkers during our lunch breaks and it really depends on how difficult that coworker has been that particular work week. But despite this, I do not actually hate that coworker. He is helpful at certain times but his behavior and personality is difficult to tolerate at his worst.

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Unfortunately, I'm an evil person who always fakes being nice.

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Not in years.

But it has happened.

For short interactions sometimes it's just faster and easier to be nice. I don't think I've done it to anyone that I planned on interacting with a lot though. I guess I was actually fake nice to a friend's girlfriend before. Did not like her at all but I'm not gonna mess things up for my friend.

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Just because you pretend to be nice doesn't mean you don't like confrontation. depending on the situation pretending to be nice can help you win confrontations often by virtue of not appearing like a total wanker

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On another note, I am so accustomed to saying "thank you", "please", and "you're welcome" to the point that I feel I am kinda overusing them and saying them without thinking. My mentor says it is good I at least say those because some folks do not but I cannot help but feel it is almost like being "fake courteous". Did I really say those because I meant it or I said them out of instinct?

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I can be professional when I need to be and civil sure. As others have said though having worked in retail this is a must. In general though I'm a open book and speak my mind. That's not always a good thing.

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Yeah, because I dont really like people.

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Yeah to me its called being an adult. I play nice even with those I don't like its not that I care if they like me it just makes things easier for everyone involved. Of course I have my limits.

I do work in a place though you kinda do want your co workers to not hate you. Your life might be in their hands one day.

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wwinterj25 posted...

In general though I'm a open book and speak my mind. That's not always a good thing.

Sometime some folks need that harsh honest opinion. Granted some folks might need to be a bit more tactful in how they express their opinions and/or express them in some constructive manner.

I recall a discussion years ago, a friend posted on Facebook about not wanting negative opinions when no opinions were asked for. I do not know what is the context of the post but few of us chimed in and expressed our own beliefs that sometimes people need to be harsh with their opinions especially if something might be detrimental.

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InfestedAdam posted...

Sometime some folks need that harsh honest opinion. Granted some folks might need to be a bit more tactful in how they express their opinions and/or express them in some constructive manner.

I recall a discussion years ago, a friend posted on Facebook about not wanting negative opinions when no opinions were asked for. I do not know what is the context of the post but few of us chimed in and expressed our own beliefs that sometimes people need to be harsh with their opinions especially if something might be detrimental.

Depends on the person. If i know nothing I say will make them even consider changing it becomes a why bother scenario to me. Dont see the point in pissing someone off if it will accomplish absolutely nothing.

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mooreandrew58 posted...

Depends on the person. If i know nothing I say will make them even consider changing it becomes a why bother scenario to me. Dont see the point in pissing someone off if it will accomplish absolutely nothing.

Fair point. For me it depends on the risks involved, if any. Some folks need to be burned to learn a lesson and I can only hope they can recover from the burn.

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As others have said, that's called work. If I wasn't being paid to be nice I wouldn't be nice

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InfestedAdam posted...

Fair point. For me it depends on the risks involved, if any. Some folks need to be burned to learn a lesson and I can only hope they can recover from the burn.

I understand that too. Depends on the approach with me though. Do it in a asinine/assholish manner youbchance just making me dig my heels in. But sometimes I get upset that a person didnt say something to me cause I woulda been willing to fix the problem.

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mrduckbear posted...

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...genuine people can still want others to like him. You're confusing them with asocial people. (Not to be confused with antisocial people who often want to be disliked.)

Nor is "being nice" to someone a way to get them to like you. In fact, being overly nice can make people dislike you. When it comes to building relationships, shared interests and compatible personalities are generally the way to go. If you want to get somebody to like you, usually the best course is to figure out what they like, do enough research to fake interest in that same subject, and then find a way to "reveal" your interest in the subject without directly acknowledging that you know they're into the same thing. It's usually a more effective trick than merely being a sycophant, although you need to know enough and be okay enough with the activity to actually carry through on feigned interest because if you're going out of your way to get in somebody's good graces, they often have enough people doing the same that they're wise to people merely faking it *or* you'll need to be able to carry through to further build that relationship.

Of course, the fakest way to try to get somebody to like you is to outright lie about your background, but that tactic is a lot more prone to falling apart and can end disastrously. If you get caught substantially lying about your background, there are going to be some serious trust issues with the person.

Otherwise, living in a society generally necessitates being nice (or at least courteous) to people you might dislike. However, it's not so much to get them to like you -- often times you don't want that at all -- but to just get along.

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i do it constantly, and consistently, ok?

Lokarin posted...

Ya, it's called working retail

how the fuck would you know?

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I have a job, yes.

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No, all my niceness is genuine.

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Lokarin posted...

Ya, it's called working retail

But are they people?

Fierce_Deity_08 posted...

Yeah, because I dont really like people.

dedbus posted...

But are they people?

Morons are people too.

Always be nice to the iT guts. You never want to anger the troubled shooter

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as anyone whose known me can attest to, i am always a genuine and kind, being fake feels like a lot of effort, ok?

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