I understand your mindset, it's good to set boundaries and it's good to set expectations for yourself. One year is what you think you'd need, but it's arbitrary. You shouldn't deny your feeling for that sake of sticking to a rule you came up with at a low point. Consider why you wanted to wait a year, and what you felt you needed to work on in that time. If both of you are interested in a relationship, think of what a relationship would look like if you honored the intent of the rule. You want become more independent and have your own routines. Do that. Don't move in together or visit every day. Try to make it only a couple times a week. Live separate lives, with enough open schedule that could become a hangout. If affection is growing, let it. Be as into each other as you're going to be when you're together, but keep some distance. The time apart will just make you happier next time you meet. Stick with it until it starts to feel like you need more time together, then let things progress.

As far as telling her about other women, be careful. It sounds like she enjoys it, but regardless of why that could change very quickly. If she seems to dislike hearing about any particular detail or any particular girl, don't bring it up again