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Last Topic: 4:21:17pm, 04/25/2024
Last Post: 6:26:57pm, 02/17/2024
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
It definitely wasn't easy to do. Made me cry at times as I wrote it, scared to death to start, scared to share it, but that is part of the process I would imagine. I'm doing as my therapist suggests and I read it every day. The ultimate goal I think is to be comfortable with those negative emotions and realize that they should not be a source of shame and that the negative realities of the relationship I chose to be in won't change the love, respect, and admiration I have for my wife.
It's scary as hell and challenging to say the least, but I'm going to do as my therapist recommends.
I can imagine that after going through what you have, that there is tendency to feel the need to place your spouse on a pedestal. It is good to remember that relationships have good and bad parts, and that doesn't change simply because she is gone. It seems it would be hard to move on and have a fulfilling life if you feel you can only think positively about her without shame. That wouldn't allow for you to find happiness with another in time.
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