I've never dated or slept with a woman...

I've dated and slept with a woman, it ain't all that tbh

In my experience it just opens you up to manipulation and abuse.

They won't make you happier anyway and then they'll break your heart

And you're no less valuable of a person for not having done so

Well then do it!

Every time Koga posts, I want to find his dad and punch him in the face

What this guy said.

I've dated and slept with a woman, it ain't all that tbh

In my experience it just opens you up to manipulation and abuse.

It's fun

You are a tremendously great guy also, they are missing out.

Same brah

Being alive opens you up to manipulation and abuse.

That's not particularly uncommon on video game forums.

You can always have sex with someone

I'd like to find out for myself. Just to know, y'know?

TC, do not take this dude's advice.

Christ, I still can't believe people post this crap lmao

TC, do not listen to this guy.

Christ, I can't believe people still post this crap lmao

I think you should, just to determine it for yourself.

I have seen your posts and topics before. IMO you should see an escort. It doesnt completely take away the shitty feelings regarding missing out etc but it takes A LOT of the edge off of them. And its not like you cant start dating normally after seeing the escort. Dont get a shady hooker in the US (assuming youre American) but rather go somewhere where its legal/regulated and make a little vacation out of it.

I think you should, just to determine it for yourself.
I remember losing my virginity at 15 years old and even back then thinking "Wait...this is what everyone loses their shit over? It's nice, but really? That's it? "
Don't get me wrong, it's an entirely different experience when it's someone you love with all your heart and soul. But even then...it really isn't anything to decide your worth as a person over.

This. TC is over 40 right?

I had sex recently. It was amazing.

-___-

Wish I had that option.

My first time was very similar feeling. I've been with... A lot of women and honestly it's been a largely empty experience. Sex with someone you love really is drastically different.

I don't think I've ever directly talked to TC before, but I've seen his posts and he genuinely seems like a good guy (and apparently good-looking). What exactly is stopping you, TC? Just a supreme lack of confidence? If you've tried before, how exactly did it go? You don't need to answer if you don't want to.

You do.

the "Wait, that's it?"

I'm kind of in the same boat as the TC, but a step further. I can have sex whenever I want, but I want it to be with someone I feel an actual connection with beyond "let's slap genitals"

Have you ever gone to a strip club?

Because somebody who feels like garbage about not having dated or had sex with a woman naturally is not going to magically become more confident after having paid for it or less bad about their own shortcomings. It just flat out isn't a thing that happens. Yeah, you're totally gonna feel more confident knowing it got so bad you had to resort to paying for it.

I would understand it if people suggested it because they wanted the other person to experience sex that badly, rather than fabricate psychological effects

I haven't made it to 40 in this situation by having the option. It takes 2, and I'm just half of the equation. The half that ruins the whole thing, but I would've thought I could've found someone by now if it was possible.

You should be able to understand then. I mean, can't toy pay an escort to pretend to care about you? That's solves your emotional connection as much as it solves my physical one.

Besides, who says I don't crave the emotional connection more anyway?

Every time Koga posts, I want to find his dad and punch him in the face

They won't make you happier anyway and then they'll break your heart

And you're no less valuable of a person for not having done so

you don't have to literally lie

I mean, it depends...

For most people a good relationship > single > bad relationship

There are unfortunately quite a few who only had the bad. My first marriage was not great and that was all I knew. Being single was better. My current marriage though has brought me a level of contentment I had never known.

All I'm saying is there's no upside to saying that a relationship can't/won't make you happy. Lying about it does nothing for Koga except maybe (MAYBE) act as a temporary salve at best, or discourage them from seeking relationships out in the future at worst.

I'm rooting for Koga, and I think 40 is way too young to just tap out and give up. Relationships can add a level of fulfillment to your life, and it's an important part of the human experience. He clearly feels anguish about his luck so far, but giving up means it's never going to get better.

Koga, be candid, kind and patient. Make efforts to go out of your comfort zone, and pursue your interests with larger groups of people, and don't sweat it too hard. Relationships only develop when you're making connections with people, so getting out and doing things socially is the biggest step you can take. Don't give up, you got this!

I have zero experience with escorts myself

That's what we all crave. But you can get that without having sex

I agree with you

But there are people out there who think being in a relationship makes your life worse

Fair enough, but I wanted to push back on the blanket statement that relationships will make your life worse. because it's not helpful, nor is it always true (and more often not, in my experience).

I have tried, and I got plenty of matches off of tinder, okcupid and bumble. But that's as far as it went. They either just never responded to a message, or did fir 1-2 then ghosted, or unmatched me. It really just wore me down more than anything and I gave up.

You get wizard powers yet?