You live with your parents?Mom and siblings. And I had a really hurtful conservation with my mom and sister a few weeks back where they told me it's gigantic mistake and I should cancel everything and stop talking to other people about it.
I still went and got my haircut this past weekend and somehow they haven't commented on it.
Youre 34-35 and living with your mom and siblings?
I still went and got my haircut this past weekend and somehow they haven't commented on it.Hopefully this is a good sign.
shit rough out here manShit, tell me about it. Inflation and the housing market is a mfer.
Youre 34-35 and living with your mom and siblings?Dude.
Ugg I'm sorry. I hope they become supportive and understanding, it's rough to have to live with thatI mean, that part is a pleasant surprise. I'm not fishing for compliments.
Youre 34-35 and living with your mom and siblings?Yeah. I've talked about that before. It's financially beneficial for us all and came out of necessity a while back.
I still went and got my haircut this past weekend and somehow they haven't commented on it.Well that's better at least. Still not great.
I feel so bad for you.Thanks. I'm like you. I don't see it as a big deal at all.
I guess I just come from a completely different upbringing, and I understand there's people out there like your mom and sister, and much worse, but I can't even fathom a world where a direct family member wouldn't be supportive of this journey you are on.
My heat truly goes out to you.
I'm just some stranger on the internet, but you have an ally in me.
i just want to say i expressed skepticism in the topic when you were gonna come out to your family because i suspected this would be the reality.I don't have any friends that are looking to move.
i dont even know if you remember, prolly not, i just wanted to say so.
anyway sorry about your family, this isn't something that words can fix, I think.
might wanna start apartment shopping with some friends.
People at work that I haven't come out to have commented on my "cute" new haircut and how "awesome" my curls are.
Gods I wish I had the goddamn courage to just say "fuck it" right now and start presenting as female full-time just like that. Stupid brain, stupid fear of losing the last of my genetic family.
The biggest problem I have is that my work schedule is so demanding i don't have time to do any of the things i need to for it.
I've almost fully social transitioned (except for makeup, still learning that) but as far as the medical stuff, I've done the therapy bit but getting a good time to see my Dr is near impossible cause I'm only able to schedule things 2 days of the week.
Idk maybe a slow transition might not be as overwhelming for you. But I'm not you so idk.I'm not really that bothered with a slow transition outside of home. Maybe I should have just not said anything and let them be surprised, but I told everyone and now I know my mom is extremely extremely opposed to the idea. So now I'm here worrying about how it's only a matter of time until hormones will make it impossible for me to put off discussing this further, and there's a big argument that probably makes me disown my family and struggle to find my own place. I'm not ready for that. I just want people to respect my identity and value my happiness.
But at some point it will just be oh they are doing this or that now. No big deal. Then they will start speculating and then by the time it'd all said and done nobody is surprised by this point.
I'm not really that bothered with a slow transition outside of home. Maybe I should have just not said anything and let them be surprised, but I told everyone and now I know my mom is extremely extremely opposed to the idea. So now I'm here worrying about how it's only a matter of time until hormones will make it impossible for me to put off discussing this further, and there's a big argument that probably makes me disown my family and struggle to find my own place. I'm not ready for that. I just want people to respect my identity and value my happiness.
If they are negative about there isnt much point in bringing it up with them and imo you should just be you.Yep, you dont owe them/your mom any information about your transition or coming out, especially if its going to cause big problems like threatening your livelihood, having a place to stay, etc. not to mention dealing with the emotional trauma during such a vulnerable time in your life.
I get that, but like, the information is gonna be out there just by virtue of me continuing to transition. That's where my fear is coming from. In my situation, I can't keep it to myself while continuing to transition. I've put myself in a box.