i mean most people dont cheat because they are bad people. Its always because of something lacking in a relationship. Ive never cheated but I've had times where my own relationships are having issues and someone new comes along giving me attention. So i get how some people can fall into the trap.
i mean most people dont cheat because they are bad people. Its always because of something lacking in a relationshipSelf-respect? Good character? Morals? Common courtesy? General decency?
I've been cheated on quite a few times in my life. The part that gets me is no one ever comes back. No one ever has looked behind and missed me. I've never had an on-off relationship under any terms. When they get tired of me, they leave. Forever.
Not that I'd want a cheating ex to crawl back but I know plenty of friends who that's happened to, they regret their choice, etc. I wish I had the confidence in life that all my ex girlfriends had in cheating on me.
I dont agree with this at all. Yes, there can be a number of other pressures, but if you cheat its still a shitty thing to do of pretty great magnitude.
i mean most people dont cheat because they are bad people. Its always because of something lacking in a relationship. Ive never cheated but I've had times where my own relationships are having issues and someone new comes along giving me attention. So i get how some people can fall into the trap.I'd say that a majority of the time it's just a combination of temptation, opportunity, and lack of self control. Being tempted by someone new and exciting is more of a "grass is greener" syndrome rather than a symptom of that person being unhappy in their current relationship.
i never said it wasn't a shitty thing to do
I'm just saying that i can see how it can happen so easily.
You said they arent bad people. People are defined by their choices. If you choose to do a shitty thing (cheating), that makes you a shitty person.
i mean most people dont cheat because they are bad people. Its always because of something lacking in a relationship. Ive never cheated but I've had times where my own relationships are having issues and someone new comes along giving me attention. So i get how some people can fall into the trap.
People can do a bad thing and not be a bad person.
The world isn't that black and white. Its cheating not murder my dude
People can do a bad thing and not be a bad person.People can do some bad things without being a bad person, depending on the justification for the bad things. A hungry person stealing to feed themselves is desperate rather than bad.
The world isn't that black and white. Its cheating not murder my dude
The bar for being a good person should be higher than not murdering. Theyre not evil, but they need to be better.
i mean yeah they should but the topic was "how do people cheat so easily"It just depends on the cheaters course of action after.
my point is that it's not that crazy in the real world to imagine. Ideally, no one would cheat and everyone would be happy with their partners. Except we live the real world where real people can make mistakes.
Cheating sucks but sometimes normal people make bad decisions. This topic is making it seem like its some unredeemable thing.
This topic is making it seem like its some unredeemable thing.
I've only had one serious girlfriend, who would probably qualify as an amazing partner by most people's criteria, yet I still cheated on her. I felt and still feel terrible about it to this day. She foregave me, but it was incredibly difficult to resist the allure of other women. Our sexual incompatibility eventually ended our relationship, and I've been single for three years.
"Single" is probably a good place for me to be until/unless I can find a partner that's as polyamorous (or at least as sexually open-minded) as I am. I found a girlfriend who was honest, hard-working, supportive, honorable, adventurous, fun, and loyal, and I let all of that go because the idea of having sex with, being intimate with, and flirting with only one person for the rest of my life was like purgatory to me.
I was still a piece of shit for cheating, but I've now at least come to (better) terms with who I am and what I want out of life.
If you have never cheated, you just haven't met the wrong person yet.
Or maybe, and stay with me here, maybe not everybody is a piece of shit?It wasn't an entirely serious comment. Nor really a justification.
People use so many forms of mental gymnastics to try to justify cheating.
Some people aren't built for monogamy and instead of pursuing lifestyles that match what they really want, they instead constantly resort to cheating. The flip side of this is that some people are miserable in their relationship and they don't know when to stop it or talk to their partners