That seems like an incredibly unhealthy mindset.
It kinda felt like that for me at first, but as the plans progressed and we got closer to the date I found that I stopped caring about that and I eventually only cared about what my wife and I thought of our wedding.
No... We got married at the courthouse. Went to the mountains for a few days then the beach. Had a reception a couple weeks later at a local park. We did all of the decorating and stuff and my mom did the food.
I don't understand the big wedding thing. We've been married thirteen years and still going strong. With what we saved by not having a fancy wedding we were able to get a house.
My wedding was extremely cheap (maybe $5,000?) and I expected none of my family to show up since I hopped the border and married a Canadian which beyond my parents none of them did. Our wedding was mainly for legal reasons so we could live together and 11 amazing years later we are still together and still perfectly happy.
Weddings seem to border dangerously on the unhinged in my opinion.
No, because our wedding was one of the excessive ones.
I think they can bring out the worst in people sometimes but I wouldnt like to generalise quite as much as your statement seems to.I would say there is a difference between a wedding and a whats that word Teep used?
I would say there is a difference between a wedding and a whats that word Teep used?
Forgive my ignorance but who is Teep?Dont worry about it.
Dont worry about it.
Civil ceremony will suffice.
Okay. I really have no idea what point youre trying to make here though.Literally all but one of the weddings I have attended have been irresponsibly expensive.
Literally all but one of the weddings I have attended have been irresponsibly expensive.
Like you could have bought a brand new sports car and paid it off level of irresponsible.
Forgive my ignorance but who is Teep?Hello
Hello
The word I used was "civil registration". My wife and I got married legally, the religious and cultural weddings have yet to take place
Hi. Thanks for clarifying.Gotcha.
The ceremonial side of things is completely separate to the legal side here, and some people do one without the other. We did the legal process first but did have a (non-religious) ceremony afterwards.
How excessive are we talking?Not Indian-excessive, but still up there. 250+ people, live band with horn section. Open bar. One of the nicest hotels in a major city. Photographer. Videographer. Flowers. Etc. Why not just get married in court? We did that a few days prior! That was 17 years ago.
Not Indian-excessive, but still up there. 250+ people, live band with horn section. Open bar. One of the nicest hotels in a major city. Photographer. Videographer. Flowers. Etc. Why not just get married in court? We did that a few days prior! That was 17 years ago.Thats the thing. Theres never any middle ground.
Not Indian-excessive, but still up there. 250+ people, live band with horn section. Open bar. One of the nicest hotels in a major city. Photographer. Videographer. Flowers. Etc. Why not just get married in court? We did that a few days prior! That was 17 years ago.Well, at least you're still together. The worst is when they have a wedding like that and don't even make it a year.
did you feel when it came to the wedding that it was a bit of a competition with peers and comparisons to their weddings?I'm not married, but that's almost exactly what my sister said about her own wedding when she got married.
Thats the thing. Theres never any middle ground.
Its either court wedding or something that would make Caligula blush.
Well, at least you're still together. The worst is when they have a wedding like that and don't even make it a year.My cousin had a decent sized wedding and then filed for an annulment 7 months later.
My wedding wasn't a court wedding but it wasn't really expensive and extravagant either.