Lurker > Jen0125

LinkPizza posted...

It just depends for some people. Tbf, part of it is because they believe that people need to have a similar life to them to be happy. To them, raising a family made them happy They would have to understand that people want different things. Some people want children, and some dont. And thats fine But some people cant see life without children, even for other people

I think it's the opposite. Misery loves company. They want everyone to have tied down lives full of responsibility directed at others. A lot of parents are absolutely miserable with their decisions but don't feel safe to say so. So they want everyone else to be as miserable as them.

I hate to use the word jealousy ever but from personal experience a lot of parents are jealous of people who have all the free time in the world and freed up finances to do fun things instead of sending Johnny to soccer camp or getting Annie's tonsils out.

I've met more unhappy families than happy ones, anecdotally.

My entire life I haven't wanted kids. My entire life has been filled with people older than me telling me that I'll eventually want kids and I'm being silly. I'm 35 in June and still don't want kids. People really think they know better than you.

Are you under the care of a doctor? That isn't really a healthy weight loss amount. You should really only be trying to lose 2 lbs per week. You can have larger loss if you're more overweight but 250 isn't that level.

LinkPizza posted...

While all of it is crazy, this is the one thing I think is the worst Why should the choice be up to their husband? It makes absolutely no sense at all I think a lady should be able to have control of their own body without needing a man to make her decisions She not a child

It makes sense when you think of who makes the rules for society historically

Yeah, I'd like it if he'd get the surgery but he doesn't like the idea of altering his body so that's his choice ultimately, it's my responsibility to make sure I don't get pregnant.

Cupcake2006 posted...

Yeah ultimately his body his choice indeed, but make sure this kid conversation has been had. Not gonna pretend I know how long the two of you have been together, but better to find out now vs. later. If you don't want kids but he's hesitant to get a vasectomy, that might be a sign that his mind towards kids might change.

Oh it has. Neither of us want kids. He just doesn't like surgery. My last relationship of 6 years ended because of resentment of me not wanting kids even though I was clear the entire time. My relationship now I made sure my partner did not want kids at all.

I asked my boyfriend if he would be open to a vasectomy but he said no because he "doesn't want to alter his body" which is his choice but also a little weenie imo when his procedure is defintiely way easier. So I made an appointment for me right away. His body his choice.

Jkd91 posted...

Just so im aware, you pay for this right ? why would they say no if you do ?

My insurance covers the procedure at 100% so the provider is getting paid. It just has to do with whether the provider wants to do the surgery or not. A lot won't on fertile women who don't have kids.

Dikitain posted...

Could be that their KIDS used their google/facebook account to log into porn sites.

...not that I have any experience with that or anything...

I don't accept convenient excuses hehe

Archgoat posted...

If you have a hysterectomy without removing the ovaries you won't go through menopause. My wife had this done due to cancer.

That's good to know. I def need to talk to the doctor to see what's best for me. Thanks for the info.

I don't see how talking about restrictive abortion bills is NOT politics. Just because it's health related? So we can talk about health related politics? Like you said, I'd rather err on the side of caution.

Yeah that makes no sense

Yeah June 8th is when the 1864 law is supposed to go into effect. Then we also have the voter initiative that will defintiely be on the ballot in November as long as nothing WEIRD happens

Greenfox111 posted...

I can't believe the majority of voters also say black... this is the same model car that I have and the color is called "midnight blue" thank you to the sane posters

I was about to say it's a midnight blue

May or may not

Lokarin posted...

It's difficult to tell from the lighting, but the rear left door makes me think it's blue

Yeah the reflection coming off is definitely blue

Blue for sure

where will i get 100 shrimp for $25 now

i've seen feeds of boomer men who had nothing but porn shares on their page

wait is this hornyposting

connect with your facebook account instead

it'll be fun

Crimsoness posted...

I assume you live in one of those places in the US? That really sucks, I fear it becoming a thing here

I can neither confirm nor deny but you can make your assumptions ;)

yeah i'm just not trying to play ball on that court and i gotta take care of myself lol

slacker03150 posted...

Out of curiosity how did you decide on tubal ligation vs a bi slap, or hysterectomy? Sorry if thats too personal, just curious.

I might to a bi salp, it depends what information I get from my doctor. Edit: I'm reading bi salp can also trigger early menopause so I likely would not go that route.

I don't want to get a hysterectomy because I'm only 34 and I don't want to be on hormone replacement therapy until I go the age I'd be going through menopause/forever. My mom had to have a hysterectomy after I was born due to extreme endometriosis and she said she hated going through early menopause and having to deal with that. I also am a little nervous if they go in to do the laproscopic surgery they may find endo on my uterus and I won't have a choice.

The part where I stopped having to go in the office to work. And the part where no one was driving anywhere so my leisure drives would be just me on the road.

Cupcake2006 posted...

That's fucked up in this context

Yes

Cruddy_horse posted...

Is the consult part of having difficulty with getting this done as a Woman?

The consultation is the hurdle. The consultation is where you find out if the provider wants to do their job or you need a new consultation with someone else.

Cupcake2006 posted...

What happens June 8?

I can't talk about politics

Desperately want to be sterile before June 8

adjl posted...

We don't keep all of the Christmas decor up, but we do keep some of the string lights. They're just nice to have regardless of the season.

I agree. It's just a fun decoration. I leave the lights and trees up all year and then decorate outside and inside more during the season.

My lights and two Christmas trees stay up year round. You should try it!

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/arizona-alternate-electors-indictment/

Local elections matter, people. The GOP AG wasn't investigating his friends in earnest. Dem AG after a year we get indictments.

Lynyrd_Skynyrd posted...

I heard it's worse now

It was still crappy when I worked because they barely gave any hours to associates. I was getting 3 hours a week some weeks.

I wouldn't report that.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

My girlfriend of nearly 25 years has continued to stay with me in spite of one of our first dates involving me emphatically pointing out that I was never, ever going to get married.

Of course, considering one of our first dates also had her voicing her opinion that "Babies are like alien parasites that grow inside of you, no thanks", we've fortunately been on the same page when it comes to relationship stuff from fairly early on.

But with someone else, who viewed marriage and kids to be a huge part of their ideal future plans, it wouldn't have been a very appealing option. And it would have been unfair to everyone involved to just string each other along for months (or years) in the hopes of convincing the other person to eventually change their mind. Or eventually coercing them into changing their mind via threats or emotional blackmail.

If two people have radically different ideas of what they want a relationship to be, it's much better to try and discuss that in advance rather than just wait until it turns into a huge fight/breakup over it.

This shit is why I don't get my ex. I spent 6 years telling him I didn't want kids. From the day we met. Then we broke up mainly due to his displeasure because he wants kids. Why did you waste so much of your prime parenting years??? Make sense.

slacker03150 posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/e/ec77667c.jpg
I guess it is closer to the source than the all red star. My bigger problem with it is the points look all fucked up. The bottom 2 are these skinny little twigs while the top 3 are thick. It doesn't even follow the pattern of the show's star. It just looks like a star a kindergarten would make.

Okay yeah it's definitely closer to that. It does not translate well to real skin imo

The shape and orientation are completely off in TC's tattoo as well

Good. Who wants a voucher for an airline that is giving you horrendous service? "Sorry we mistreated you. Please allow us to mistreat you again at a later date."

I just wonder about the stippling and gradient. Why did you choose to make that change? The stippling and darker red make it look infected.

Happy birthday!!

Whether you choose to engage or not

ItIsSoOver posted...

only if you are a terminally political person

some of us can have conversations without them turning into a political fuckfest
granted, its becoming less common, but we do exist

Almost everything is political by nature whether you choose to engage or not

Everything is politics lol like I don't get it

CyborgSage00x0 posted...

I was going to say that gap is small, but 5,000 lives a year is something.

But yeah, it seems male doctors not being in tune with female patient needs as well.

It's not "not being in tune" it's that there is misinformation taught and a lack of sympathy and empathy.

It's almost always "anxiety" or "your cycle" lol. Doctors just don't want to do work to figure things out.

I love blue footed boobies

Yeah, someone having a religion affects everyone because they feel everyone should live that way because of their religious texts. Atheists just want to be left alone to live life the way they want.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/8/872da3d3.jpg
Random kitty

Glob posted...

Theres also really no harm in not having a religion, is there?

Right? Lmao like TC said who gives a shit?

Venixon posted...

It looks nice so far, can't wait to see it completed. You must be eager and excited to be able to take a dip. Especially with summer only a couple months away.

Summer is here where I live lol it was over 100F today

Cheater87 posted...

Why is he allowed to walk?

They can't charge children under 10 in that state.

Shadowblade posted...

Where's the slide?

Definitely not deep enough lol