Lurker > bsp77

I didn't read all of the responses here, but this is a dumb argument. I have bought 2 tickets for concerts I am interested in plenty of times without a big discussion first. I will then ask who I am with if she is interested. If she isn't, I go with some friend. This should not be a big fucking deal.

This isn't about communication; this is about her needing to chill out. However, if TC was at all upset that she didn't want to go, then maybe that is on him.

Doom_Art posted...

My still-waking up brain was all fuzzy and was totally mixing him up with another performer, disregard that crap lol

Well, I will admit that Bowie did some seriously messed up stuff in the 70s. But the guy completely changed his way in the 80s onward and fought for some great causes and everyone says he was a kind, standup guy.

Hi! :)

Nobody was truly mean to me in high school, but there were a couple guys who were kinda dicks. The funny thing was when I returned back after being in college for a year or two, then we suddenly got along. But it wasn't that they were suddenly different, but I was. I realized I was my own biggest issue in high school by being weird and asocial with lots of people. They probably would have given me a chance earlier if I had been different.

I have learned this to be true from quite a few other people as well. Usually people who didn't get along with others in high school brought it upon themselves.

FelineCyborg posted...

I have a lot of empathy for people. I put people's needs before mine a lot of time , so yea I could logically say on a message board "I need to leave I'm seeing the crazy" but when it happens it's harder when the tears and the dramatics begin. She promised me this would change and that would change and she needed me in her life. That's powerful manipulation that works on me

Sounds exactly like me actually. I get it

FelineCyborg posted...

I put a ton of money in this girls house. She didn't even have a microwave when I got there. I'd always take her out to eat or want to do stuff with her. So I'm just a little defensive when my intentions are questioned , I didn't suddenly wake up and was like "oh I'm just gonna pump and dump"

The problem is when she thought me moving in was in the bag she started getting complacent and doing whatever she wanted to do

I wasn't questioning your intentions. I was only saying you knew she was nuts all along, and I was surprised when you didn't agree.

But let's end this argument, as I am not your enemy here.

FelineCyborg posted...

Yea I hear that. This experience was really trippy that way.

After my divorce, my friend called the person I was dating a "supernova"

It was ultimately a great experience even if wrong

FelineCyborg posted...

Bruh I never said you were the bad guy, but you love to judge me like "I should've known better" and I'm just explaining the dynamics were more complicated then just staying for sex. I don't even value sex that highly to use somebody like that.

Oh, I apologize if I was came off as saying you should have known better. Pretty sure I have mentioned that I was in a similar position after my divorce and I made similar decisions. I think these can be useful situations to learn from after a bad breakup. This kind of fucked up stuff is how I figured out who I really did want long term.

FelineCyborg posted...

Yea I did make those comments bsp and I did try to break up earlier but she kept manipulating me to stay. I'm a push over sometimes and get my dick locked in a pussy like some chinese dick trap but i didnt have malicious intentions.

Hey, that's fine. I only said you knew this all along and you denied it and made it out like I was assuming the worst. I have been being very supportive of you ever since your breakup and flat out said everything was water under the bridge. But then you just lied to me and made it out like I was the bad guy. So I gave proof. :)

FelineCyborg posted...

Maybe I don't put people in categories and give them the benefit of the doubt until they cross my boundaries? (Which she did)

You are making it sound like I was just using this person for sex and had a predetermined date to bail. I'm not like that.

I am afraid to link the sex board topic, as I know CE frowns upon that. Here are some choice comments from your June thread:

"So I'm calling it off I think. She already split on me and asking me all these deep personal questions about her I can't answer because we just met ("what do you like about me?)

Well that was fun while it lasted. Not in the mood for another crazy tho"

"She still wants me to move in and she says "me being an asshole is sexy" (again I wasn't even an asshole more gaslighting shit) but I'm calling it off. I can fuck less crazy elsewhere"

"This entire week she was positive and I asked her so many times if there's any hang ups and today it was a torrent of negativity about how she's been so "patient" with me. It's typical insane bitch crap. And yes I'm not mad. I knew what I was doing. It was fun."

"I think it's still on but prob gonna put my valuables in a storage shed. She blew up my texts yesterday because I had a wedding and a lot of social obligations to go to on my day off. Was really really close to blocking her and walking away cuz she was starting to effect my chi or whatever.. kind of pushed me to make a dick remark and that kind of escalated things further. I'm definitely getting Kurt cobained over here , definitely some Courtney love toxicity going on but the pussy is still fire. So there's that."

"Oh dude there's so many red flags I'm not even denying that. So so many. The issue you bring up is like tip of the iceberg shit. I don't even want to go into this chick's past because it's obvious one shouldn't be playing with this kind of fire. But I'm fire too so we are going nuclear together. I mean who let's somebody move in after knowing them a week?"

FelineCyborg posted...

Don't know why you always assume the worst about me dude

I have in the past when you were making terrible sexist comments back when you were still with your ex. You even admitted that she led to some of those feelings.

But where did I assume the worst here? I even said I understand. But I have no idea why you are pretending like you didn't know how nuts she was all along. You have play by play commentary for the first few weeks you were dating her. It is all on the sex board where topics linger for months. I can go find them and start quoting them here if you want.

Most women do to some extent. To be fair, I think a lot of men do as well.

FelineCyborg posted...

I had gut feelings but I still wanted to give her a chance

Nah, man. You provided enough details and you knew she was seriously unstable the whole time. You kept going for the sex, which is fine and I understand, but don't pretend otherwise.

Of course I do. I have legit friendships with women as they aren't just sex toys. One of my closest friends is a woman, and I have been friends with her long before my gf, so it isn't just a single vs not thing for me.

You have known how unstable she was for months

I have never dated a woman who didn't shave (legs and armpits I mean). I am not sure if I would care or not.

One woman I briefly dated, I could tell she hadn't shaved her armpits when wearing really short sleeves. But by the time we had sex, she was shaved because she didn't want to freak me out. I was oddly disappointed but likely because it looked more wispy and blonde as opposed to the nasty coarse black stuff I have.

a-c-a-b posted...

It's my day off. I earned the right to drink myself stupid.

Not that much, no

I don't understand why you do this to yourself. It is especially hard because you seem like a good dude

It took me and my ex wife a long time for our first. After that, the rest of the kids were super fast. Too fast actually, as I enjoyed all of the "trying". Lol

Hopefully you will get there soon

Flockaveli posted...

Absolutely.

Ha! Certainly no one I have dated

Flockaveli posted...

You want to be penetrating someone for more than 10 minutes?

You are making it sound like she doesn't enjoy that...

DeadBankerDream posted...

I wasn't aware this was an inherent issue with the game and not just the store being a big dum penis.

Yeah, there were lots of arguments are articles about it before launch. I was of course just being snarky in my response.

FelineCyborg posted...

Acting like anybody has a ps5 back then

So around 17 million then vs around 21 million now? Hmm...

DeadBankerDream posted...

But... then won't people keep buying games from the sold companies, but this time Square sees none of that profit?

Exactly. What a bunch of morons.

Welcome to all of the discussions we had back in February

Surprisingly, one thing that can help is ED pills. You can do tactics to slow yourself down mentally (like Margaret Thatcher above) while still staying really strong physically.

Pretty sure I have kissed a lot more women than held hands with. Some people talk about holding hands as a step before kissing, but it actually seems more intimate to me.

VayneSolo posted...

FtM or MtF?

Wow...

(moderation incoming)

What a fucking clueless topic

Not the fake looking ones, but kinda big, yeah

How is Wednesday higher than Thursday and Sunday? And how is Monday not dead last?

TheHoldSteady posted...

nah but i'm a 5 hour drive from minneapolis. this was earlier this year when we got that huge wave of covid. i was going to a concert there that got cancelled so decided to go to the mall instead.

Ah, I am in the Twin Cities

before anyone asks i had just gotten over covid myself and tested neg at that point and wasn't worried about giving it to anyone

You know, it is sad how much people have to justify themselves on CE because of all the criticism that happens

TheHoldSteady posted...

I was there not too long ago. kind of eerie seeing everyone running away from it all terrified.

You in MN?

And you couldn't simply have a discussion about it?

I do find her attractive but it also has made me uneasy. A few years ago, I dated soneone who looked very much like her. She was 32 but looked mid 20s at most and I started noticing how much Billie Eilish loooked like her, even when she was like 16 and 17. So I had to purposefully try to NOT find her attractive.

Who cares? I played the new Kirby game when it came out and I am 45

It seems like it may be related to the fact that the CEO does not believe in creating original movies for HBO Max. He wants theatrical and then the movies to simply appear on HBO Max later. As far as I know, he is still behind TV shows though, as that has always been a driver for HBO.

Mt gf bought me two Lego sets this year. The Seinfeld one for Valentine's Day, and the Horizon Tallneck for Father's Day.

I'm content, thank you

I have 4 daughters

[LFAQs-redacted-quote]

Cuz CE lurkers be thinking...

Naysaspace posted...

itt: people think hanging out = sex? or something?

fuckin creepers

Pitlord_Special posted...

Ok, let's try reversing the genders.

One girl hanging out with 3 guys.

Do you think every time this has happened, the girl totally relates to what the dudes are talking about and that she can share her ideas and perspective and the guys are accepting and validating what she has to say?

With me and my friends, yeah. Happened plenty of times. In general? I do know it can be an issue.

I have also hung with multiple women many times with no issue.

I have a pretty good social group. Or used to, as it is pretty fractured now from failed relationships. That... doesn't help my case lol

Pitlord_Special posted...

I'd say other dudes for sure. Girls can end up talking about things that a guy can't relate to well, and even if he does, his perspective on the topic is often devalued by the women because he's a guy.

I have never found this to be true

Technically never tested positive even though I had it in June

Meh. I've had it happen a few times. It never lasted but I know of others who had sex on a first date and later got married.

[LFAQs-redacted-quote]

Second favorite :)

Supersonic is my favorite Oasis song

HovaRex posted...

He just really looks like shit then. Doesn't make the age gap any better. He could be her grandpa.

27 years? I guess technically. More realistically he could be her dad.

I don't usually care about age gaps (hell, I have a fairly big one), but the fact that she is 23 and it has been a long time is what is raising some flags for me.

Hayame_Zero posted...

That's exactly how long they've been dating

Sketch