Lurker > KogaSteelfang

I'll buy a testing kit tomorrow and see if it's confirmed. Apparently you lose your sense of smell for like 18 months on average? I didn't know that. I kinda just assumed it came back in a week or two.

Welcome to the wonderful world of Covid, my man. Trust me, losing your sense of taste is worse, Being super hungry and eating your favorite food yet you can't taste any of it is a torture I wouldn't wish on my worse enemies. ):

I don't like me either so it makes sense

So what's your point?

Doubt.

"Who's the villain of the next Avengers' movie?!"
"That guy Ant-man almost soloed 5 movies back."
"Oh... when is it on Disney+?"

ew, was it really...

Dr. Palmer-838 is an unreliable narrator.

That I didn't jump into video games out of fear of being a person in this world, How to act, what to like, what to dislike, what to do, it was all so terrifying, it was so terrifying trying to do it that for a long time I just didn't talk to people, said nothing, did nothing no matter what, just kept silent, never said anything about myself all because of so much fear and insecurity that sticks with me to this day. To the me back then, being online was an escape too, at least back then when anonymity was the norm, I could like things and if the other person or persons didn't like them I could pretend I never liked it and not be hated,, scorned, rejected. The me then, the me now saw/sees life as a constant quiz where the ones who live and prosper get all the right answers and the ones who die, or remain in bad situcations are the ones who get the wrong answers but it's much more complicated than that, much much much more. There are no right answers only the ability to stand by your personal answeres and either dfeend them, change them or compromise them , I couldn't do it back then, I can barely do it now, so by at least taking away the escape plan the me then would be forced to try and change, my very being is a mistake. 2 right answers and 1 wrong. It's just, I'm just trash, worthless.

I don't know how Koga has kept up this gimmick for so long.

You're wasting your time lol.

I've seen you try to help this dude in every topic like these that come up and then in the very next one of these he's back all "Oh woe is me".

At some point he needs to help himself. You cant guide his junk into a woman.

It's possible that you misread her friendliness as attraction. That happens to most guys too. Don't get hung up on your failures. It will just make you feel worse. And, if I'm understanding this right, you never actually talked to her about it? It was your coworkers that told her about it?

So you have no idea what they even said to her. The fact that they were so shocked that you actually did like her, just screams jealousy. It's also possible that they lied to her about you, which she believed and avoided you. For instance, back in high school, my best friend started dating this girl that a bunch of us had a crush on. Her single friends got jealous and told her that he was making fun of her when she wasn't around and that he didn't actually like her. It wasn't true, but she believed them and broke up with him. So without knowing what they told her, that's not really proof that you were wrong about how she felt. Or that you're completely unwanted.

And I'm not trying to force you to do something you don't want to do. But if you truly want to find someone, then don't give up on yourself. You worry that your social anxiety will be a hindrance in your relationships. It might in some of them, but plenty of women will be willing to work with your flaws. Because nobody is perfect and you'll run into women with plenty of flaws of their own.

So I don't think you understand the nuances of my past, and just assume "oh, he had it easy". I didn't, I simply had a bunch of affectionate female friends because I was on their floor and I was nice to them and not a creep. You easily could have had the same from what I know of you.

Jesus Christ.

Your dad sent dick pics to your crush?

And your mom is still with him?

WTF

Exercise is easy though and helps with everything

A woman who acts like that has issues

I have had quite a few women who were like that with me, and it was always platonic (well, almost always. Alcohol, lol, but was only kissing). Anyway, you can't let that one experience get you down. As I had a few women like that prior to ever having a gf. They simply trusted me.

It felt the same to me back before dating who would become my wife. This actually sounds like the experience a LOT of guys have prior to figuring it out. You just can't give up.

Note: I ignored all the f'ed up stuff about your shitty father.

How are your finances and your free time? Could you afford to join a gym? Do you think you would go?

how tall are you? how much do you weigh? do you exercise?

finding some form of success likely should do that but maybe your issues are a little more deeply rooted and you may need more than just finding success in whatever area

really though from what I've read (because I've got a form of crippling anxiety although it's not specifically social) you just have to expose yourself to whatever is causing you anxiety, one step at a time, in your case slowly normalizing the behavior of being social, expressing your opinions a bit more, going out a bit more, wish I could help more with specifics but really you kind of have to tackle it head on, no other way

did you tell her this part though? about how you may just have misread the situation and thought she was interested but she wasn't and it's cool, no need for anything to be awkward

sorry you felt bad in the moment but it's really not uncommon and it's also really not a big deal, on to the next one

also everyone really only care about themselves, they want to talk about themselves, they care about what happens in their own lives, they don't REALLY care about you or judging you, it's irrelevent, don't focus on what you think people think of you (I know it's easier said than done, but it should be the goal)

Nah, you say that no woman have ever wanted you, but I can guarantee that's not true. The problem is, that women traditionally don't do the pursuing. For better or worse, it's all put on the guy.

So there were women that were interested in you, but you didn't notice. And don't feel bad about that, plenty of guys have been completely oblivious to a woman's interest at one time or another. I've been guilty of it too.

Do you try at all? Have you joined any dating apps? Are you uncomfortable talking to women? Do you put any effort into improving your appearance?

its not because you are unwanted though, its because you choose not to engage, you choose comfort over discomfort (which is ironic because it ultimately end up causing you discomfort)

like Im not just saying that so you feel better, you are objectively not universally unwanted, if you want that to happen you will have to put yourself in motion though, its not going to fall from the sky or happen randomly, you are going to have to put yourself out there, build confidence in some sort of way (different for everyone I guess)

You realize that this ^ makes you feel...

...this ^

You are not universally unwanted no matter how many times you repeat it to me or give me examples.

agreed with bsp77 there, you are not universally unwanted

Why do you think that is? What is holding you back?

Have you done anything physical with a woman?

Not my pet, but this cat is so cute it looks like a cartoon.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/7/4/6/AABqjYAAEGoi.jpg

Why do you think that? How old are you?