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averagejoel posted...

OpenlyGator posted...

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.

you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be an extrovert or an introvert

We're not going to agree on that, but it's okay. Different interpretations.

I'm just saying from my lengthy experience hanging out with extroverts addicted to partying: when they're dying to get buzzed, saying "hold on a minute" doesn't often work. And that's especially true when a "newbie" like TC gets invited to tag along and does exactly that. They were not invested much in him socially yet, so they were less likely to reason waiting for him when they were already set to go.

It's a tough break, but not an uncommon one. It happens to a lot of people, even those of us who know "the rules". TC is better off not taking it personally and just treat it as a life lesson. Now that he knows what to do, he might enjoy catching that boat next time.
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joe40001 posted...

AwesomeToTheMAX posted...

It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you.

Why the fuck would you go to get lemonade and chips if they're going out to dinner and then taking shots. You were the one that came off as uninterested, not them.

I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them.

I get where you're coming from, but I'm afraid you made a fatal mistake in this common scenario. At least common for extroverted people.

From what you described, it sounds like the Party Boat sent you a free pass that was only valid if you jumped on RIGHT THEN...and you said "gimme 15 minutes, I'll be right back". Unfortunately, that was the wrong answer if you wanted to go. You might not realize that because you seem a bit introverted (which is not a bad thing). Usually when a bunch of outgoing social drinkers want to head out and party...they're not going to hit the pause button if it stands between them and their booze. If you want to tag along, you have to be ready to spontaneously move out as soon as THEY'RE ready. That's how it typically works...

I know because I dated my fair share of frat boys and hung out with party girls who loved to drink. It doesn't matter if you're best friends or they're dating you. It doesn't matter if you're smoking hot...they will still ditch you if you're slowing them down. Because the prospect of having fun and getting buzzed SOONER is more attractive to a group of people who want to do it pronto.

One of my past friends was a prime example. She looked like a photoshopped supermodel with supreme genes. However, her preparation needs were high maintenance and she sucked at doing anything spontaneously on the fly. Keep in mind this chick was gorgeous and had a great personality. She still got ditched because nobody wanted to wait for her to put on makeup and pick out a sexy outfit. They wanted to leave NOW.

After dating party guys for so long, I just learned to pack an regular-sized emergency backpack full of things I could need for a spontaneous fun time out and threw it in my trunk whenever we were going to be hanging out with anybody known for random changes in plans.

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.
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Zikten posted...

MSNBC is the liberal Fox News. I stick to CNN. They are more balanced

LMAO no

CNN is laughably partisan too.
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s0nicfan posted...

Yes, but they call it Snu Snu.

I know you're joking, but it's basically the truth.

Most of the guys down for that have a fetish for it. But it's mostly with the muscle women who bother to keep up their femininity at the same time (wear makeup, women's clothes, feminine personality, etc).

The buff women who basically resemble and act like male jocks don't get many calls from men...
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Da real problem with CE is da severe lack of female users

What incentive do they have to post here...?
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pinky0926 posted...

Admins should be sorting that nonsense out.

They literally can't lmao. They don't have the resources.
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Your girlfriend sounds like an idiot...
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Not as many of those guys are "dating" these women as much as you assume lmao...

Sometimes a great looking guy will hold out for a 9/10 hook up.
Sometimes he'll just call over any average girl who's easy so he can sleep.

Thanks, Tinder.
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Because he was literally Hitler.
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Helping a girl get over a breakup; 2 weeks later she's back with him?

Sounds like she solved the issue herself lmao.
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If she's not your wife, you're not obligated to pay for her life.
She's just a girlfriend...

Her mom can suck eggs.
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BeantownHero posted...

pres_madagascar posted...

Every single mom I know won't even introduce a man to their kids until 1-3 months into things, when they're sure that it's going somewhere. Kids are quick to attach to people and it fucks them up if someone just up and leaves their life. I've seen it happen many a time.

This. The majority of women I fucked who had children never introduced me to them. This notion that single mothers are on the hunt for new daddies is laughable in its ignorance

The notion that ALL single mothers are looking for new dads for their children is ignorant.
However, denying that a noteworthy percentage of single mothers intent on dating men DO have that inevitable goal would also be ignorant.
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If she's up front about already having kids from another guy, be up front about whether or not you're down with being the new dad. Don't string her along.

If she lied her ass off in her profile, etc and dropped the "btw I'm mom" at the last minute, feel free to use her up like a Dixie cup before you bail...

Don't play games unless you want games.
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lmao he really did rip one, the poor fucker
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+20 for epic trolling

-10 for potential animal abuse by triggered crazies more interested in smashing the poor turtles over a bad paint job than saving them...
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When he was young, yeah.

Keep in mind his prime was before the internet.
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Vishdraco needs to be the new Little Mermaid.
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The "woke" branding of the movie was not entirely from the critics either.

If you look up articles from the past few months, you'll find promotional quotes from Elizabeth Banks and Kristen Stewart attaching the label to the flick themselves...

crowkillers posted...

The reboot from 2000 didn't get the greatest reviews but still made 40 million opening weekend(on a 90 million budget and went on to make 250 million worldwide). It starred Cameron Diaz, Drew Barrymore, and Lucy Liu. All 3 actresses were very well known actresses at the time and had a very distinct look from each other.

They were also well known sex symbols at the time. Which meant women had an easier time convincing their men to tag along, adequately increasing the movie's market.
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Was she aware that you thought of it as a hook up? Does she understand what that typically means?
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Supposedly the trailer reeked too much of "wokeness" and a lot of movie-goers (both men and women) said nope before it even hit theaters.

Yes, folks. There's even modern women ages 18-40 now who are turned off by what this movie tried to be. And, no, they're not all conservative/republican lmao. Some older women were actually looking forward to a reboot of a classic series, but what they got was boring as fuck...
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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

I kinda miss the topics where the TC pretended like he was a really player, and lied about picking up women as a PUA, its just sad topics he makes now.

I don't know, the topics can still be entertaining.

Posts #1 and #2 were epic jokes for sure...
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The bully was the one who set all this in motion by being a douche in the first place.
Doesn't really matter how much time past.

If he eventually got backlash for it later (any type of backlash), wow omg what a shocker. Gosh, how rare and unexpected...

When you bully other people, don't whine about getting nailed back with revenge when you let your guard down.
You literally gave someone else an incentive to fuck with you back.

Don't want shit, don't start shit.
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Don't feel too bad.

Plenty of women over 30+ as well who stink at talking to men and keeping them interested. It's not really a gendered issue...
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She was obviously impressed that day you told her you were wearing a grocery bag.

Such a caring recycler.
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Score Bunny
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Megas XLR had it's moments and poked fun at tropes, but it was too formulaic to last. In the end it died because it was a trope itself.

Time Squad was not really memorable to the average viewer...
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Over-consumption of energy drinks can lead to kidney stones and other related problems. There are also not medically recommended for people over 40.

Many of the people chugging energy drinks like 6 packs of soda on a daily basis are going to have similar health issues in their later years. Most notably a high chance of incontinence before the age of 70. If they don't die of heart attack or stroke first...
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JebronLames posted...

dangling the carrot out of reach?

It's when a crafty rich man sets up the relationship so his golddigger girlfriend/bride can enjoy the perks of the his wealth he chooses to share, but she will never get her hands on his pin codes herself.

In other words: she can only enjoy the rich life with him when he says so. And only when he says so. His money, his rules. Plenty of wealthy men have known multiple ways of how to pull that off for decades.
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DaveTheUseless posted...

I actually didn't know the prenup = worthless thing

ruh roh raggy

Yeah, oddly enough it's also had a negative impact on women looking to marry as well. Higher caliber men (high status/success/intelligence) tend to be harder to convince into settling down with marriage today. Before the turn of the century the prenup USED TO BE a go-to for reassuring those men that their assets were safe if the marriage fell apart. And for a time it worked. Some women eager to get hitched to a successful man could have convinced him to finally propose by agreeing to a prenup, which still had merit back then.

Thanks to the western legal system casually dismissing or tossing out prenups in a multitude of documented cases (including the wealthy and powerful), prenups lost their former credibility. They're no longer treated as a "guarantee" among educated successful men anymore. And guarantees are what most educated successful men are looking for with long term investments...including marriage.

This has has contributed to the modern woman's difficulty in reeling in an intelligent husband with success under his belt because that very caliber of man would likely be one of the most aware that a prenup is now worthless.
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ssj3vegeta_ posted...

OpenlyGator posted...

can be arbitrarily thrown out like toilet paper if the court decides it

Well dats bs, wtf

Yeah, that's why more men today are not accepting that as assurance of a safe marriage anymore. The older guys, including the ones experienced in actual law...even some fucking judges...are casually letting younger men in on the secret that a prenup does not do shit anymore. Mass media just opened the flood gates for it.

And that's not all. Some of the older marriage arrangements that were settled with a prenup like 30 years ago can be challenged in court today...and actually overturned. Like seriously, a prenup is toilet paper. Look it up lmao.

Every time I catch a bro considering a prenup like it's a holy grail I tell him to do his research first. And I don't do that to piss all over their idea of marriage. I just want them to approach it with a clear lens and not get duped into thinking it's suckerproof.
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CADE FOSTER posted...

she is a gold digger plain and simple

Some old men are fine with that and literally consent lmao.
Especially the ones smart enough to keep dangling the carrot just out of reach...
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Prenups have been debunked anyway. They don't work anymore and can be arbitrarily thrown out like toilet paper if the court decides it...

Men KNOW this shit now and it's been impacting the marriage rates lmao.
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Women are struggling to find men who make as much money as they do

Men are struggling to find women who weigh less than they do.
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If that's real...

Damn_Underscore posted...

This guy dodged a bulltet

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Your opinion on female empowerment being synonymous with sexual promiscuity?

That's only empowering if it leads to accomplishing what the woman as an individual actually wants.

It's not empowering when it fucks over her chances of accomplishing one of her primary goals in life.
And yes, depending on what she wants to accomplish, that can happen...

Plenty of modern women who are willing to tell you their stories of falling into that pit and struggling to climb out.
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Martian Manhunter is one of those characters who's arbitrary superpowers depend on how drunk the writer is.
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No link?
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Blue_Inigo posted...

You're not a ho for fucking on the first date tbh

Not everyone agrees on that.

Including some of the desirable men many women are looking for commitment. Some of the women they're related to may also be critical about it (ie: mother, sister, friends, other competing women, etc). This has lead to some women feeling the need to be less than honest about their sexual history in order to avoid messing up their chances with said men.

I'm not condoning the perspective, but there it is and there's not much that can be done to change it.
Just as modern women get to have arbitrary standards, so do the men.
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CruelBuffalo posted...

nemu posted...

Seems fair. Regardless if the bully was just an asshole or using the bullying as a coping mechanism for his own physical or mental abuse, tormenting another person is not in any way justifiable. Maybe in some universe it would have been possible to open up a dialogue of understanding, but the victim owes nothing to the bully.

Correct, the victim never has to forgive the bully. However the question is was he being an asshole with that post, and yes he was. He could have moved on, ignored it, blocked him, etc.

Did he think everyone was gonna gang up on him with a passive aggressive post and be like yeah go kill yourself asshole!!!

The bully left himself open for possible retaliation for *drumroll* being a bully. He did the deed, he accepted the potential consequences. Never mind that his victim's retaliation was just text over the internet...

If the bully also participated in physical harassment towards the victim (very common in high school bullying), I certainly would not fault the victim for merely casting justifiable shade at a ripe opportunity. Many victims would have understandably sought to do worse.

Either way, it's the bully's fault for getting snubbed later on for being an ass in youth. Morally it's not the victim's responsibility to reach out on that for closure. A reformed bully would seek to make amends, which apparently was not attempted in this case. So you will see no sympathy for the bully from me. His actions set himself up for backlash.
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Smells like a set up for some unnecessary passing-of-the-torch bullshit...

No thanks.
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Bass_X0 posted...

Is this common with many gay people?

Not really, but it has been known to happen.
In general it's fairly safe to say nobody legit gay magically turns straight because of this.

The likelihood of this happening depends mostly on the age group. What is a common phenomena is gay teens and college students in their 20's sexually experimenting in order to get a better grasp on what their orientation really is (they want to be sure they're gay). That includes cases in which their first sexual experiences were attempts at heterosexual intercourse that obviously did not pan out well with their actual sexual attractions.

The older the gay person gets, however, the less believable their account is with the scenario your friend described. It's very untypical for a 25+ gay virgin to "take one for the team just to lose the V-card and a straight friend can have a Hallmark moment ". It just doesn't regularly happen that way. Like 99.9% of gay virgins are too busy trying to nail their dream partners who are ideally going to be homosexual too. It's not an exaggeration to say the idea of straight sex is awkward, repulsive, or even terrifying to many of them (they've never experienced it). So naturally they aim for a gay partner for that first time presuming it would work out best. Some of them will actually turn down an opportunity to lose their virginity with a bisexual partner just because it's not the gay-on-gay ideal they're looking for...

That being said, your friend could be bullshitting altogether just to look edgy and different. Some wannabe scene queens are known for making up controversial stuff like that just to have a weird sex story for chat. Similar to straight guys, gay guys occasionally get shamed for having boring sex lives (or worse, none at all).
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Sounds like you both have differing accounts of what friendship is supposed to be and how yours played out.

Plus the whole fiancee thing...it's not uncommon for some friends to drift away once you start bringing the marriage game into the social circle while they're still flying solo. There's a multitude of reasons singles get turned-off hanging out with their newly engaged friends. This commonly applies to both men and women.

I'm not saying condone it, but it's not a rare phenomena. The whole "best friends forever" deal can be surprisingly conditional. And when those conditions change, which is very typical with life, sometimes it can rip out the foundations in which the friendship existed on. For example, I suspect you getting engaged changed more between you two than you realize...
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ScionTC_07 posted...

OpenlyGator posted...

Is the position in the US?

If so, it sounds like a logical requirement....

yeah but I would think a green card is enough....

Clearly your auntie disagrees.
Considering childcare and possible access into the home may be involved, I'm not surprised. If that's the case, it's not a rare perspective at all.
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Is the position in the US?

If so, it sounds like a logical requirement....
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It's even better when it's someone else's.
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What does the Q even stand for?

Quaker Oats

They're the sponsor.
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