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| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 11:50:54 PM #185 | HornedLion posted... Sorry to break it to you but youre still in the honey moon phase of your current relationship.Lol people get married in less time but ok --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 11:50:02 PM #184 | deoxxys posted... I think something a lot of people have failed to mention in this topic is that when you get into a very serious relationship where you are at least living together or engaged, then often, regardless of sex or gender, friends even from your childhood take a backseat. I have seen it happen to many of a few of my friends.Also these are all bad takes. Keep friendships outside of your relationship strong, codependency is bad. And "there's always temptation" is just you being a horndog projecting that onto others. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 11:45:06 PM #179 | LinkPizza posted...
^ This. I'm living with my SO. We've been together 3.5 years now. Never needed to go through his phone. I've spent the night at male friend's homes. They're my friends. I sleep in the same bed with my girl friends. I'm bi. So, your (not link) rules going to apply to everyone for me? Cause I have slept with men and women. If not, I'm not following your logic. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Can someone explain the whole trans athlete thing to me? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 9:26:53 PM #48 | IronBornCorps posted... Trans athletes have been able to compete in the Olympics since 04. 17 years worth of data and zero trans gold medalist should be pretty clear it isn't really an issue. This. It's pretty much a non-issue virtue signal of the right. There are few trans people in the general population, and even fewer trans athletes, and even then there are plenty of cis women that can compete against the average male sex so their "advantage" is not even guaranteed. Just something to get the right wing base riled up. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Some guy just came up to me and started talking to me in the grocery store. |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 9:13:14 PM #22 | This is like every fucking time I go outside alone as a woman. Dudes on buses thinking you owe them lunch company. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 8:57:47 PM #166 | EvilMegas posted... Look man, your micro aggressions might work on your gf but not me lmao I mean your post really just sums this entire thing up EvilMegas posted... Yeah that's understandable but the other guy is like "we know each others pins because we can't trust each other!" And he's proud of it? --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 8:34:39 PM #164 | deoxxys posted... Its just a sign of respect for your partner.No, it's a sign of distrust. deoxxys posted... The way some people reacting would have you think this equates to post #142.Because these controlling behaviors are often red flags and they escalate to worse situations. As others have stated, abusers and cheaters project and control. You think it started all at once? The controlling behavior alone is shitty enough. If you have a healthy relationship, you're not paranoid about them cheating. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Went on a hike today |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 7:12:58 PM #4 | What is not to like about hikes. Nature, beauty, fresh air, exercise. All good things. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | How hard is it to see an ROI on an investment property in Hawaii? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 5:35:36 PM #5 | I have a coworker who moved to Hawaii in the pandemic. Seems nice. But the grocery situation (extra cost, less diverse selection) seems less than ideal. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 1:33:43 PM #144 | hockey7318 posted... Holy shit that's awful. I'm glad you're out of that relationship and in a healthier one. I can't imagine what kind of strength it takes to recover from that. My therapy sessions are $300/week! But yeah fuck that noise. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/06/21 1:24:32 PM #142 | Jen0125 posted... It's a common trope controlling partners have a history of cheating themselves. ^ My ex threatened to kill multiple of my male friends (including Zucafa lol). He did this at a work party too. He had passwords and access to all my accounts, phone, computer. He tracked my location without my knowledge with Google location history. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere alone or anywhere with male friends. Meanwhile he had been sleeping around for years but that was okay for some reason (I knew for the last few years -- at first it upset me that he was cheating but eventually he broke me down enough where I didn't care). Funny how that works. Also he was a violent, manipulative, abusive piece of shit. I have zero concern about my current SO cheating and we have no desire to log in to each other's accounts or be controlling. We trust each other. I know he would break up with me if things weren't working out. Like a non controlling adult should. I will never put up with the anxiety of being that controlled again. I'd rather be single. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 5:13:53 PM #39 | kukukupo posted... Male co-workers / associates, sure. I find it very strange that you felt this needed to be addressed at all --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:39:34 PM #33 | ReturnOfFa posted... I find that most poly people are pretty vocal about it lol poly is different from assuming all bisexuals are non-monogamous I could definitely see holier-than-thou-polys being that way though --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:36:50 PM #31 | LinkPizza posted... Most of the guys on the other board would want you to bring over women to have a threesome because guys are gross. Some even think its weird to be in a monogamous relationship when youre bi. We were trying to explain being bi doesnt mean you have to be non-monogamous. I dont think they liked that... I hope they're super vocal about that whenever they enter a relationship so people can nope right the fuck out of that --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:02:44 PM #17 | Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends? --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | should a gf or wife have guy friends? |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:01:39 PM #16 | Jen0125 posted... The insecurity in this topic already is palpable ^ been there, done that with a jealous partner. Never again. FrozenBananas posted... would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so yes this is fine. If you don't trust your partner, leave them or work on your trust issues. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Best Topping that ISN"T in the poll. |
| grimhilde00 04/05/21 3:54:08 PM #2 | jalapeos --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | The question that needs to be asked every few months |
| grimhilde00 04/02/21 8:01:52 PM #8 | ParanoidObsessive posted... My general stance on meat is "rare" for steak and "medium rare" for burgers --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Controversial Opinion #1. Universal basic income. |
| grimhilde00 04/02/21 5:15:00 PM #32 | Mead posted... in places where they have done UBI the vast majority of people have chosen to keep working because they want more than just the basic necessities looks like some people just like to ignore this --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Controversial Opinion #1. Universal basic income. |
| grimhilde00 04/02/21 4:05:55 PM #18 | CoorsLight posted... I feel like I already talked about it a bunch the other day with that ex-social worker guy so I don't want to rewrite all that stuff, but basically I think the concept of people being lazy/addicted/moochers is part myth, part a result of not having systems that fully ensure people are able to live a stable life. I don't know how you can say that UBI is bad when we don't even have it - or universal healthcare. Those are two pretty big missing pieces of the puzzle that could make a huge difference. Almost all of these boogeyman "lazy" people are poor, don't have access to good treatment for mental health issues, don't have access to drug treatment, or some combination of the three. Maybe if we solved those problems it would solve a lot of theirs too? What a concept. related, canada study linked above: > There was an 8.5% decline in hospitalisations primarily because there were fewer alcohol-related accidents and hospitalisations due to mental health issues and a reduction in visits to family physicians. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Controversial Opinion #1. Universal basic income. |
| grimhilde00 04/02/21 3:55:15 PM #15 | |
| Topic | Controversial Opinion #1. Universal basic income. |
| grimhilde00 04/02/21 3:48:39 PM #11 | https://www.npr.org/2021/03/04/973653719/california-program-giving-500-no-strings-attached-stipends-pays-off-study-finds tl;dr A study of the period from February 2019 to February 2020, conducted by a team of independent researchers, determined that full-time employment rose among those who received the guaranteed income and that their financial, physical and emotional health improved. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Today's the most boring & uninspired day of the year. |
| grimhilde00 04/01/21 7:01:08 PM #5 | When I picked April 1st as a wedding date it sure caused some confusion when I cancelled it less than 30 days out lol --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | ITT: You come up with baby names for me. |
| grimhilde00 04/01/21 12:10:33 PM #47 | I like Astrid and Adelaide for girl names --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Nice to meet you. Have you had dinner yet? |
| grimhilde00 03/31/21 11:47:32 PM #6 | Having some edamame with a dressing I made with miso, mirin, tamari, apple cider vinegar, sriracha and maple syrup now --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Nice to meet you. Have you had dinner yet? |
| grimhilde00 03/31/21 10:39:36 PM #3 | Yes it was yummy. Zucchini, sundried tomato, basil, balsamic drizzle, mozzarella panini. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Why do people think pointing out I had cosmetic surgery is a negative? |
| grimhilde00 03/29/21 10:15:04 PM #46 | It's like people shitting on CGI. The really bad CGI stands out so it gets a bad rep, but the really good CGI with just nice little bits here and there isn't even noticed, but it looks nice. Lots of people get plastic surgery. Good ones you don't know it. Some jobs are really botched and that gets a lot of attention and biases a dialogue around it in general. You look great, it looks natural. Also people are critical of women, perceived vanity, jealousy, etc. Haters gonna hate. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Billie Eilish debuts her NEW LOOK as she DROPS her ANDROGYNOUS style. She Hot??? |
| grimhilde00 03/24/21 11:36:12 AM #28 | deoxxys posted... Also pretty sure she dressed that way because she didnt want stupid people from the media making a show out of how she looks....oh wait. She specifically didn't want her body to be scrutinized or a topic for the media so she wore clothes to obscure her body. She's spoken before about having body dysmorphia. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | I killed my rooster today |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 10:52:03 PM #7 | Coq au vin time --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Battle of the Condiments |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 10:49:15 PM #46 | I feel like if we had ranked choice voting ketchup would be at or near the bottom Maybe I'm biased cause I would have voted for everything else before ketchup and was divided about a few (idk wtf salad cream is though) --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | It's funny when someone retires |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 9:38:57 PM #3 | Anyone else planning on FIRE-ing? I realize that's a privilege though --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Favorite beer |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 7:18:33 PM #35 | Dark: Samuel Smith's Oatmeal Stout Light: Live Oak Hefeweisen --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Ranch or Blue Cheese? |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 6:57:32 PM #45 | Wait until helly finds out about that cheese with live maggots in it --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Ranch or Blue Cheese? |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 2:43:49 PM #41 | Ogurisama posted... Its fucking amazing on Burgers/Steak/Pizza+1 burgers and steak. I've had gorgonzola on pizza which is like same idea. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Ranch or Blue Cheese? |
| grimhilde00 03/23/21 12:01:38 PM #38 | helIy posted... there is mold in blue cheese groooooooooossDelicious mold --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Ranch or Blue Cheese? |
| grimhilde00 03/22/21 6:28:08 PM #36 | I don't like ranch. It makes me think of my brother's smelly disgusting dirty car with fast food wrappers everywhere. I've never had bleu cheese dressing for some reason, but I love bleu cheese crumbles in salads and I often just eat bleu cheese on crackers (with some honey or fig jam). Love bleu cheese... --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | What's something on your bucket list? |
| grimhilde00 03/18/21 4:11:29 PM #10 | Well something I'm planning on doing that I've specifically said is "on my bucket list" is live abroad for a little bit. Planning on doing Berlin for 6 months in between jobs when I'm ready to leave here in a couple years. Seems fairly easy to do that while being unemployed with them being in the schengen area and their temp residence permit process. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | Do you carry a lighter or matches? |
| grimhilde00 03/16/21 1:07:09 AM #23 | Zippo when I smoked. Quit a bit over a year ago. Miss it tbh. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | I have gotten to the point where I'm starting to hate everything |
| grimhilde00 03/15/21 8:50:42 PM #42 | ReturnOfFa posted... I know I said be positive, but I do avoid toxic positivity, if you'll believe that :pLol sorry didn't mean to sound like I was speaking about you but I see how it could come off that way lol just meant to offer another perspective --- aka kriemhilde00 |
| Topic | I have gotten to the point where I'm starting to hate everything |
| grimhilde00 03/15/21 5:24:04 PM #36 | Muscles posted... I can do that most days, but there are days like yesterday where I'm just in a hole, you know? Personally I fucking hate toxic positivity because it feels invalidating and like it's coming from a place that just can't relate or doesn't see me. So things I've learned in therapy have a different take. My therapist is like you can't tell someone who has had their house burn down that it's unlikely their house will burn down again. It happened. So like. Acknowledge that things suck sometimes. Sit with that. It sucks. And know you can get through it. --- aka kriemhilde00 |
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