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Ivany2008 posted...

I'm not going to help, but take it from someone who started off 10 years ago with 0 social skills, stuff like that isn't always natural, sometimes its trained. I'll give you a short example. in 2011, I started working at a grocery store as a cashier. My anxiety was so bad I couldn't look people in the eye or even talk to people. Imagine, a cashier who was unable to speak with customers.

Fast forward 2 months later, I'm finally able to talk to people. Not great, but I can mumble. Still can't look them in the eye. It took me 2 full years to finally build that up to the point now where its like I never had that issue in the first place. And I hated every minute of it. I hated the bosses I worked with, and the way I was treated. But it shaped me into a better person.

That said, I still have crippling fear of talking to people over the phone, which is why I like communication through messaging and email. But I work as an IT tech who only deals with phone issues, so I'm building myself up again to get over that fear. I'm 38, and I hate people helping me, the only reason I wanted to be able to talk to people was because I wanted to be able to buy things from people without being an introvert.

That's the difference though, you want to be less of an introvert so you push yourself. I don't have any interest in changing. I don't want to push myself and nobody around me wants to push me so I'm just not going to try.

LightningThief posted...

Not trying to be harsh or sound like a douche, but you should seriously look into seeking medical help. Again I'm not saying this be mean.

Unless your parents are loaded, they won't be able to financially take care of you forever. You don't want to end up in a situation where your parents or caretaker passes away, and you are royally screwed.

Just saying you want to at least have some kind of income for yourself rolling in.

I've tried to get help (psychiatrist/physiologist) in the past and it didn't work and it is just a waste of money. My parents are not loaded but they will be leaving me all of their savings after they are gone.

I already know that my parents won't be around one day. I know It's going to be a really bad situation if I don't prepare. I honestly just don't care though.