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BucketCat posted...

how close of friends are you? have you shown up to his place unannounced in the past, prior to his depression?

I was in a similar situation as your friend a few years ago, what got me out of that rut was one friend showing up out of the blue with a 6 pack.
If it was a group, I probably would have shut them out. but one person? that was easy to deal with at the time, and it gave me a chance to step away from the depression, and kind of put things in a different perspective.

I'd say have whoever's closest with your friend show up, but not an entire group. Even if it's a "hey, I was driving by and thought I'd stop to say hi" type of thing, it could really help. Sometimes all someone needs is a little nudge.

Yes, it can seem invasive to some people, but in my opinion it's much better to try, and reaching out to someone in person is much more effective than over text.

You could make an argument that we are his closest non-family friends. Our group of 5 friends have been together for 20 years. We've never shown up unannounced because we've never felt it to be necessary he used to always open his home to us when we asked.