LogFAQs > #978999755

Yeah, I had a similar scenario (5 year relationship, engaged, cohabitated). In the short term it's gonna suck. But eventually and slowly, you'll be ready to open up with someone like you did with your ex.

Yes, a lot of haunts y'all went to together are going to be oddly reminscient for a while. And music that was somewhat shared hits different. There was a night like 4 months after the breakup, hanging out with some friends at a bar, where the dude doing karaoke did one of "our" songs and I just started balling and left the bar and cried on the curb for a little bit.

There was a fair amount of introspection, too. Like, things I should've picked up on prior to the break up, or things I should've done or said differently. I blamed myself for a lot of it. But, through either honest logic or wishful thinking, I eventually came to the realization that even if I did all the things perfectly on my end, they still did X, Y, and Z. They had their flaws, too, and the overwhelming likelihood is we would've broken up regardless. I chalked it up as a series of "lessons learned" and applied them to my future (and better) relationships.

Also for me there were some wild vacillations regarding sex. The validation was nice but there was a month where I had like 20 partners. And then there was a month where it was 0.

I felt I was ready to legit date again a little after 6 months, but that's an above average timeline. You'll be ready when you're ready, lol. And even then, I might've used these dates to still get further over the ex. Which wasn't fair to the people I was one date(s) with, but to be fair those people also used me to a small extent. People are weird.