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CE_gonna_CE posted...

There have been a lot of those, yes. Not so much these days, but I know theres expensive shit she wants to do around the house and probably feels impatient when I tell her we have to wait. But its always been kind of a keeping up the Joneses thing where anytime we break one financial barrier, there are always more new and expensive ones to break.

Why does she care about "Keeping up with the Jones' "?
That's a false sense of progress and one that will lead many people to financial ruin & hardship.
Have you explained to her how seeking that out is largely fruitless & pointless, more for self indulgence and personal psychological gratification than anything meaningful?

Sex is also a big one, and other household stuff, how we raise the kid, how we are around family. Where to go for dinner. You name it. Theres been a lot of it.

Why doesn't she want to have more sex with you? You're her hubbie.

Household chores should be split 50/50 as much as possible IMO.

Raising the kid, both of you should have input on how to do it.
If your styles conflict, you need to delve into things a bit deeper as to why they conflict.

How you react around family is complicated because everybody's family dynamic is very different.
That's more of a tailor your approach to each family member as needed.

Where to go to dinner is a matter of figuring out what each one wants and find a good solution.

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