LogFAQs > #979109704

Apart from being attractive (no point in trying to pin that down to a list of traits; I'm either attracted to someone, or not), I'd say a long-term partner's most desirable quality would be pragmatism and the ability to learn and adapt, especially when things get tough. Having dreams / faith / a spiritual side is both great and desired (I have all those myself, after all), but not at the expense of being present in the moment and dealing with things rationally; I need to feel like my soulmate would deal more directly with problems and not make excuses, lie, or get easily suckered by other people's lies. My family has put up with too much grief over the years due to inflexible, irrational relatives who do everything in their power to avoid the reality / responsibility of any given situation.

Because honestly, if that one hurdle gets met, I feel like everything else would fall more or less into place.