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KogaSteelfang posted...

Nah... I've seen it happen enough. Anyone else can attract someone just by existing. They'll have opportunities and connections with people that then evolve into something more. They don't need to change who they are, or put on shows. Even if they're unattractive and have a nasty personality. Just being themselves is good enough, and I'm just not good enough. That's all there is to it really.

There's just something inherently undesirable about me. I don't know what it is, but everyone else can see it. It's like they just naturally reject the idea that I could be a potential partner.

You don't end up a friendless, loveless, 40 year old virgin if you have options.

You do if you convince yourself that you have no options. I dont mean to be horrible, but youre talking complete and utter bollocks.

I can tell you right now what it is thats so undesirable about you. Its your attitude. You have no self-respect and no love for yourself, so why would anybody else feel those things for you? Youve closed yourself off. Nobody else can do that.

I hate to say it, but its on you. However, you can choose whether or not that continues to be the case. Based on previous interactions with you, Im inclined to think that youll continue to tell yourself and everybody else that youre unloveable, which is actually the thing that makes you unloveable.

You say you want to be with somebody, but you dont want it badly enough to open yourself to the possibility of it.

Even without comparing to anyone else, I'm disappointed with myself. Then I see all the success everyone has, and I want that too. I don't need some rich super model, I just want someone to care about me. I want to be loved, and to be wanted.

That starts with you.

I'm just not capable of inspiring that in others I guess. The worst part is that it proved my dad right. He always said no one would ever love me, and here we are.

Your dad sounds like a dick but youre a grown man and need to stop living in his shadow. My parents were dicks too, of the highest magnitude. Take ownership of your own life.