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Topic	Crying at how things have changed so bad. Honest vent topic
super_felicia 04/07/24 11:04:41 AM #19:	darkmaian23 posted... So, first of all, start planning on how you can move out and live on your own. You need an escape plan in case things deteriorate too much, or in case you eventually just can't take the status quo. If you think this isn't fair to your grandmother, think back to how she was before her stroke. Would that person want the person she is now to be abusing you? The answer is probably no, and if it is a yes, your grandmother was never a particularly good person, and we've circled back to "how to plan to escape". You should try and speak with a mental health professional to work on the stress and maybe to help you plan. When relatives get older and struggle, or when there is a serious flare up of mental illness (that's what this honestly sounds like from my experience), you may reach a breaking point where you can't help any more. That's the point where other relatives or your grandma's partner have to step up. If they can't, then your grandmother may need in-home assistance or to be institutionalized (don't know how that works in the UK). You cannot give people things you don't have. I firmly believe that people are too individualistic and too selfish in general, but there is definitely a point, and there are definitely circumstances, where it's time to tap out. It doesn't have to be now, but you should start planning for when it is time, especially if you notice a pattern of deterioration. She tells me she wants me to move cos I am too annoying then she says we'll both move somewhere cos she has the mood that it's the house fault because she Hates the stairs and that's why she's on edge (I don't think it is that) then she says it is cos my cousin is a dumbass loud selfish guy (he is but tbf he works long hours that sound hella draining) then she says it's cos she hats what the backgarden looks like a mess so if she moves it will help.... Now she is on the ball saying you're fucked if I die because you no longer have mental health money to help and that I'll be homeless. Sounds closest to my old Blunt smart nana but she keeps flip flopping. I liked her honesty it's nice. Anyway I don't know how i can get support I'd probably be ignored idk --- I am a mess and Felicia is the cleaner.... <cite>super_felicia posted [p:979782863] in Crying at ... [t:80741179]...</cite> <quote>darkmaian23 posted... </cite><quote>So, first of all, start planning on how you can move out and live on your own. You need an escape plan in case things deteriorate too much, or in case you eventually just can't take the status quo. If you think this isn't fair to your grandmother, think back to how she was before her stroke. Would that person want the person she is now to be abusing you? The answer is probably no, and if it is a yes, your grandmother was never a particularly good person, and we've circled back to "how to plan to escape".You should try and speak with a mental health professional to work on the stress and maybe to help you plan. When relatives get older and struggle, or when there is a serious flare up of mental illness (that's what this honestly sounds like from my experience), you may reach a breaking point where you can't help any more. That's the point where other relatives or your grandma's partner have to step up. If they can't, then your grandmother may need in-home assistance or to be institutionalized (don't know how that works in the UK).You cannot give people things you don't have. I firmly believe that people are too individualistic and too selfish in general, but there is definitely a point, and there are definitely circumstances, where it's time to tap out. It doesn't have to be now, but you should start planning for when it is time, especially if you notice a pattern of deterioration.</quote>She tells me she wants me to move cos I am too annoying then she says we'll both move somewhere cos she has the mood that it's the house fault because she Hates the stairs and that's why she's on edge (I don't think it is that) then she says it is cos my cousin is a dumbass loud selfish guy (he is but tbf he works long hours that sound hella draining) then she says it's cos she hats what the backgarden looks like a mess so if she moves it will help....Now she is on the ball saying you're fucked if I die because you no longer have mental health money to help and that I'll be homeless. Sounds closest to my old Blunt smart nana but she keeps flip flopping. I liked her honesty it's nice. Anyway I don't know how i can get support I'd probably be ignored idk --- I am a mess and Felicia is the cleaner....</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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