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adjl posted...

But hey, you seem to think you (or Peterson) have a point. So I ask you: In what situations is deliberately misgendering a trans person so important that it justifies doubling their risk of suicide?

I admit this is a good question. Every time this has been raised before I have been left wondering how 3rd person pronouns come up when engaging in a 1 to 1 conversation. Normally they are only used when the subject is not there to hear how you refer to them.

Some assumptions would have to be made to construct such a scenario. I guess I'm interacting with them in person in some way, or somehow put in a situation where I can't just go about ignoring them.

There's two ways I could see it going from there. For the first one let's say I have already referred to them in a way they don't like because I didn't know. I would rather take myself out of the situation. Whatever reason I had to talk to them is not worth it to pursue further.

The other way I see it going is that the first thing they say to me is that they want me to refer to them in some way. Even then I can find some way to excuse myself. Even if I'm there for a job interview I can respond "I don't think I'll be a fit here" and leave.

It is difficult to construct a situation where I need to deliberately misgender someone since I see ways of not talking to them to begin with. If they continue to insist on it even after I left and follow me despite making my intentions known then I can see a reason to just to emphasize my desire to not talk to them.