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Pogo_Marimo posted...

Amanda's just as much a victim of Gaiman as the other girls. Amanda knew Gaiman had lots of BDSM types of relationships with women but she wasn't aware of anybody being raped. They were both very vocal about having an open marriage and being into "hardcore" sex. Amanda didn't want Gaiman to have a consensual sexual relationship with the new nanny because she thought his type of sex would be too harsh for her. Pavlovic was the first person to come to her about it being non-consensual and that was only a while AFTER she had raised concerns about Gaiman's inappropriateness around their son. It doesn't help that she was sending mixed messages up to that point to Amanda by still seeking out a personal relationship with Gaiman--Not that that's the victim's vault, but it is why Amanda's reaction to everything seems so delayed. As even the article states, when she brought Pavlovich on to be a live-in Nanny she still had faith in Gaiman's decency not to make a pass at her because Amanda asked him.

I'm sure people will now lambast me in the responses below but this article is not a detailed breakdown on what Amanda knew and didn't know and what she facilitated. Amanda Palmer was not Neil Gaiman's Ghislaine. It's a lot more complicated than that. Just because the article makes the situation seem very obvious in hindsight to the reader that does not accurately represented what Amanda Palmer knew about the situation in the moment.

She was already a shitty person before this so she doens't get the benefit of the doubt from me