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_____Cait posted...

it sounds like a way to excuse abuse. And she has told me that her uncles abused her as kids,

This is, sadly, how the cycle of abuse works.

I am guessing she probably internalized, from a very young age, that her value as a person is tied to her ability to satisfy the demands of domineering, usually-older men. Predators know how to seek out people like that and to manipulate them into doing whatever they want. It is 1000% abuse, but it is also a colossally difficult cycle to break free from, because your brain got hardwired early to accept that sort of treatment and rewiring requires a massive shift in personal perspective.

Continue to be available to her, particularly if she does see the light and decide she needs to get out... but you are probably correct when you say you "can't help her", because you cannot help people who do not wish to be helped.