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Gobstoppers12 posted...

I both accept that it's the way some people feel, and also advocate for a little human decency in the dating scene.

I don't get ghosted. I've been in a steady relationship for the past three years and have never tried to date somebody through a dating app/site. I'm not speaking on my own behalf. I'm speaking on behalf of the kind of people who experience serious mental/emotional consequences when it comes to being ghosted.

No goodbye, not even an "it was fun while it lasted, but I don't think we're compatible," just...nothing. Left alone, tossed in the trash, not even worth another glance. I recognize that it's not the fault of the "ghoster" if someone has emotional sensitivity...but one should assume that all people have feelings of some severity or another when it comes to dating and romance.

Isn't it just...better for everyone if we're honest about our feelings? A fair amount of internalized resentment and self-loathing could be prevented if people would stop ghosting each other.

You are right. It would be better but its just not like that. We didnt create this game. We didnt make the rules. We just inherited it.

If you think about the act of ghosting sure it is morally wrong. Youre leaving someone in the dark and thats not cool but in reality it happens ALL the time. Id bet everyone in this topic no matter which side has been ghosted at least once. I actually gave up on dating apps altogether years ago because I always got ghosted. It wasnt me it was just the nature of the modern dating scene.

Im not gonna say someones a bad person for doing it. Weve come to the conclusion as a society its just ok. It is what it is.